Hi folks.
In mid-20s now and ever since I was 15, I have hated my height and been depressed. I think about my height and limb lengthening every single day like it's some mission in life.
A bunch of recent turn of events in my life made me realize I have mental issues. Also, I have a very strong resemblance to my dad both physically and mentally which makes me feel that I'm genetically pre-disposed to have such mental behaviors.
I posted a description of how I feel here: https://www.reddit.com/r/depression/comments/4pnvrc/what_is_my_condition/
It is very likely that I have bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder. *However* I am very strongly inclined to believe that my problems are largely exacerbated by my inability to accept my height.
I have had my share of family problems and the hereditary mental issues passed on. But I am hoping this surgery will fix my life. If not, I am doomed, might as well call it day and become a saint and die or something.
What are your opinions?
Help me bros. You're the only ones I can talk to about this without being called a wussy or manlet. Give me a hug, these are tough times 
Can limb lengthening help with psyhcological issues?
Step one is to stay off Reddit. Bunch of losers for sure. No way I'm going to read your post there, sorry.
What's your height?
No one is "doomed" bro.
I have both borderlines and bipolars in my family. They are distinctly different disorders.
Have you been to a mental health professional?
here is how I feel when I read some of the some responses on the forum:
QuoteIf you can't get a girlfriend while being short, you can't get one if you're tall.
um, well of course I can't get a girlfriend now. I don't like myself. I don't even feel like getting one. How can I expect a girl to like me? I will feel like I am a black spot in a girl's life if she dated me. Not because I'm short, but because I hate my own body and am insecure. I'm literally like "let me get over my neurosis and then try". What's wrong with that?
QuoteIf you are depressed you shouldn't do LL. You should do LL only if you are happy with everything in else in life except LL.
don't certain things trigger other things in life? Like if you had abusive parents, will your life be good in every other way except for poor relationship with parents? don't things lead to each other? My idea of how LL will help me if nothing goes south recovery wise:
- I do LL, start liking my body. I stand barefoot and take a deep breath and say "I am normal".
- I do things I have *inhibited* myself from doing: Dating, going out with people, learning music, not acting like a loser who has something to hide deep inside.
- I will still be left with OCD and such problems, but if I feel on-par with others socially, I think I should lose all my other symptoms.
Does this make sense or am I pipe dreaming?
How tall are you? And from which country are you from?
Quote from: CCMidwest on June 25, 2016, 02:11:44 PMStep one is to stay off Reddit. Bunch of losers for sure. No way I'm going to read your post there, sorry.
That isn't the infamous sub-reddit for shorties That is a sub-reddit for depressed people. Please can you bear it and read it anyway? I would really appreciate someone who is knowledgeable about the matter reading how I feel.
QuoteWhat's your height?
It doesn't really matter as long as I feel this way, does it? Let's say 3 inches below average where I live.
QuoteNo one is "doomed" bro.
To live like I am living is to be doomed by my standards.
QuoteI have both borderlines and bipolars in my family. They are distinctly different disorders.
Have you been to a mental health professional?
Yes, but it didn't really help. He didn't seem convinced I have a genuine issue.
Not sharing your height makes me assume you are trolling.
I take depression in men very seriously. I lost a buddy of mine to depression.
What's your height?
Quote from: CCMidwest on June 25, 2016, 02:18:43 PMNot sharing your height makes me assume you are trolling.
I take depression in men very seriously. I lost a buddy of mine to depression.
What's your height?
trolling with such a detailled question with a back-link to Reddit? No my friend.
I'm 5'6" high. I want to be 5'9" or however less will make me feel better.
Without knowing your height, we can't tell (or atleast have an honest opinion) if your height is truely socially problematic or not... If you are a 5'9+ with social problems than it's not your height. if you are like 5'6 and below, so it could be it.
Quote from: TIBIKE200 on June 25, 2016, 02:21:40 PMWithout knowing your height, we can't tell (or atleast have an honest opinion) if your height is truely socially problematic or not... If you are a 5'9+ with social problems than it's not your height. if you are like 5'6 and below, so it could be it.
I'm 5'6".
But to respond to your point, I think it's unfair to but a bar like that. Relative height in the country should be what counts.
Anyway it is abnormal for people NOT associate "short" with me.
Quote from: al-right-folks on June 25, 2016, 02:21:25 PMtrolling with such a detailled question with a back-link to Reddit? No my friend.
I'm 5'6" high. I want to be 5'9" or however less will make me feel better.
5'6 is short, but not the end of the world type short. I've known plenty of men that height that have good lives. Its a good starting height for LL too. 5cm would put you at 5'8.
I'm currently seeing a shrink. I tried out 5 or so different ones until I found one I clicked with.
Have you only been to one?
Thanks for sharing your height.
What else have you tried to fix depression? Depression can look like other disorders, especially bipolar. (borderline is a whole other animal)
Are you on meds?
You really need to get mental help though. No shame in that at all.
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