Is it okay to lie about your height in online dating?

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Not actually, 5'10"s are more likely to lie so they can climb to the category of 6 footers let's be honest to the women a 5'9" guy is just as useless as a 5'5" I didn't make this up there's lots of forums where decent looking men with solid incomes complain about this. Lying is not bad in this case.

In respond to the fish comment. Women choose you not the other way around, you can only hope you get chosen by someone special someday.

( I've participated a lot in this site so I am not gonna reply much but I will try to return tonight.)

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I have extensive experience with online dating, and have many female friends/former girls I hooked up with that all say they assume men below 5'10" add on like two inches of height. One girl is 5'7" and told me she dated a guy that claimed 5'10 but was more like 5'5"!

When I was 5'5 and some change, I used to say 5'7" and got away with it unless girls who were 5'6 and up dated me. Even then, it was mostly ok. I think lying by more than an inch could get you in trouble, because they'd probably notice it, especially if they're close to your height. Now that I'm 5'8", I just say 5'9" (since they probably think 5'8 = 5'6").

In my opinion, Tinder can be rough for short guys because even you got a lot matches (I got a lot of matches), the subject of height typically comes up, because Tinder is a height lottery if it's not discussed. So, you're put on the spot, and they will remember it more if you meet in person and you're shorter than what you said (this applies more if the girl in question is close to your height).

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Quote from: YellowSpike on July 14, 2015, 09:17:30 PMI have extensive experience with online dating, and have many female friends/former girls I hooked up with that all say they assume men below 5'10" add on like two inches of height. One girl is 5'7" and told me she dated a guy that claimed 5'10 but was more like 5'5"!

When I was 5'5 and some change, I used to say 5'7" and got away with it unless girls who were 5'6 and up dated me. Even then, it was mostly ok. I think lying by more than an inch could get you in trouble, because they'd probably notice it, especially if they're close to your height. Now that I'm 5'8", I just say 5'9" (since they probably think 5'8 = 5'6").

In your experience with online dating, were you often contacted by women when you put 5' 7" or did you always have to reach out to them?

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Quote from: NewHeights on July 14, 2015, 09:22:03 PMIn your experience with online dating, were you often contacted by women when you put 5' 7" or did you always have to reach out to them?

As much as people on here aren't going to believe me...most of the women that I dated from OLD starting in 2007 (before I got a 5 year girlfriend) actually contacted me first. My ex-gf of 5 years (she was 5'3"), and even a model. The model was like 5'8", but she asked me if height was a concern when she emailed me, I told her I didn't care, so she already knew I was shorter. In person, she never questioned what I said 5'7" when I was closer to 5'5". Yeah, I got a lot of fatties and ugly chicks that I ignored, but had my fair share of good looking women when I was saying 5'7". A few girls I reached out, but even now, my rule is I only message a girl when her profile absolutely blows me away AND I think I have a reasonable chance of a response based on her profile and what I think she's looking for (women have it much easier online, so I usually just wait to be message).

Now that I'm saying 5'9", I do seem to be getting more good looking women reaching out to me first (including many women 5'6-5'8, which is cool, and proves that it's really the very short women who are the b*tchiest about height)

I also was lucky to have written great profiles and have fantastic photos and am very photogenic (two people on here know what I look like).

It's weird - I actually just NOW got an email from a very cute 5'3" woman on POF, brown hair/green eyes. She's definitely getting a response

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I say go for it. Women lie about their weight online all the time. Anyone who's seen a profile listed bodytype: curvy knows what I'm talking about.

Off topic, but one thing that takes some getting used to is that I see breasts from a higher angle than I could before. So many women I've known all look like new acquaintances to me now.

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Quote from: KiloKAHN on July 14, 2015, 09:34:49 PMI say go for it. Women lie about their weight online all the time. Anyone who's seen a profile listed bodytype: curvy knows what I'm talking about.

Off topic, but one thing that takes some getting used to is that I see breasts from a higher angle than I could before. So many women I've known all look like new acquaintances to me now.

Let's call it what it is. Curvy = a nice way of saying morbidly obese.

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Quote from: YellowSpike on July 14, 2015, 09:38:30 PMLet's call it what it is. Curvy = a nice way of saying morbidly obese.

Hey, hey, hey. She's not fat. She's just cultivating mass.

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I wouldn't lie, feels like you're cultivating your own insecurity. Even if I got rejected by some women -it's like Newheights says, I wouldn't want them anyways if they were shallow like that.

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Quote from: Uppland on July 14, 2015, 10:24:57 PMI wouldn't lie, feels like you're cultivating your own insecurity. Even if I got rejected by some women -it's like Newheights says, I wouldn't want them anyways if they were shallow like that.

Agreed, but it's almost a must with online dating unless you're already 5'10+. Because women set their filters extra high in order to not only weed out short men, but also men who are lying about their height (when in actuality, they'd be ok with men 5'8" and up, but they say 5'10" and up to account for height inflation). Plus, lying by an inch you're not likely to get caught, and you can also just say it's your height in regular shoes.

Lying by more than an inch, you're more likely to get caught, and then they'll wonder what else you've lied about.

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One online date I had said she was 5'6". 
When I saw her I went: euhh you are not 5'6"
She: I'm 5'3" but I'm always on heels...