Hi, everyone!
I am a 17 year old boy from Canada and have been considering limb lengthening surgery for quite a while. People have made fun of me for my height at school (5 feet 4) and I don't think I'll grow anymore as my growth plates are closed. Doctors say that the growth plates on my legs and arms are closed, but they say that my torso could grow a few more cm if I do stretching.
My parents are the main cause for all of this since all of my other siblings are the taller than me. I have given up and it seems that this surgery could be the only way out. However, people at my school have been are aware of the surgery and I am scared to do anything. I was thinking of going through with the surgery this summer, so that I could be ready for school and walk more normally(my parents are okay with it), but I just don't want it to be well known or obvious.
I have been reading this forum for a while, but I also stumbled upon a d group where there is good feedback from Dr. Becker. Does someone have any experience with all of this and how I can cope, because I just can't take it anymore.
Hi, everyone!
I am overwhelmed from all of your support. It really does mean a lot to me.
I was thinking of getting the limb lenghtening surgery for femurs first -- 6-6.5 cm (because the recovery is faster and so I don't make "wide legs"). After some years, I hope to do tibia.
I know you say that school mates can go suck it, but in my school, the values are so messed up, that me, as a 5feet4 boy I don't really have anything to show or prove myself. Doing the surgery would only make me more vulnerable to even more bullying. I was thinking of skipping a year of school (and be online for awhile), but that would again be some kind of a sign.
I don't know...it is just a lot to deal with both physically and emotionally. Furthermore, as I was so depressed these few months, I stopped working out and everything went to .
I met up online with a patient of Dr. Becker who is in his 40s and he is already on 5.3 cm femurs and he walks great with crutches.
What do you think?
Hello again, guys!
I am surprised from all of the feedback and support that you guys give me. It really does mean a lot, as I was scared to write in this forum for a long time.
To bring you guys some context, I will be incredibly honest. I have not been in a good mental space for over a year now, and though my parents support me with the surgery, I just hate them for what they did and the fact they didn't notice that I was smaller from my other siblings.
Doing the surgery now, would be a good decision, but I don't know if I would be able to as I have been living a very bad lifestyle lately as nothing doesn't make sense anymore and at the end of the day it is a pretty risky surgery. And I am scared it will hurt a lot and if it will affect my sport abilities. Have any of you guys done the surgery? What do you think?
Also, from what I understand stride will come at the end of this year, but Paley will only do surgeries with it in the first year(and I am required to stay 3 months in the US). Is it worth it to wait for it?
Hi guys. Sorry for not answering earlier.
Quote from: TheDream on May 13, 2023, 02:38:18 PM
Otherwise it will affect both his grades at school and his LL negatively as it is too much at once. You don’t want to be rushing either to try and keep up with the other.
The thing is I am already behind all of this stuff. My grades are , I don't go out of my room and it feels like my life is not worth living. I want to have the strength to do the surgery, but I am so fking scared of what people will think, recovery time, athleticism (even though
Quote from: p00293 on May 13, 2023, 05:08:48 PMYou might just have to accept you're going to be bad at sports in return for the height you NEED to function normally in life. Quite frankly amateur sports isn't important next to being tall, and if you're bad at some irrelevant 5 a side football match it doesn't matter vs having the height you'll need to have any dating success.
p00293 is right in that aspect.)
It is just a lot to deal with and I don't know where to begin with, considering the fact that this could have all been prevented if somebody was paying attention that I was growing slower than my other siblings.
I am scared of the pain and don't know when it will be a good time to do it. I read a lot of good points for both doing it over the summer or just waiting after I finish high school. It is just easier said than actually deciding.
Moreover, regarding proportions, my arms are not long, so if I do the surgery I have to at least look normal. My tibia is also smaller, but I think the first surgery would be femurs as it is easier and I am not in a good mental and physical space to do tibia.
Thank you very much for all of your help, it really does mean a lot.
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