Quote from: California2 on February 03, 2019, 11:55:21 PM(...) Android or any other LLer does not owe you an update or an explanation.
Any post made by any LLer is a gift; not an obligation. (...)
This is all correct. And I'm not surprised by the fact, that some of us contribute with detailed diaries while others prefer to stay anonymous. It's very much personal, nobody owes us anything.
What truly disturbs me, is why the same person can so much change his approach before/after cll. And why it is not an exception, but rather a repetitive pattern. I only suspect, that they are experiencing life-changing events, and I would really like to know if positive ("What CLL forum?! I have my life now!") or negative ("Shame on me for even starting this process!").
Android's Cross Lengthening with Dr. Solomin & Dr. Kulesh (2018)
Quote from: (w)heel(s) on February 06, 2019, 11:30:15 PMThis is all correct. And I'm not surprised by the fact, that some of us contribute with detailed diaries while others prefer to stay anonymous. It's very much personal, nobody owes us anything.
What truly disturbs me, is why the same person can so much change his approach before/after cll. And why it is not an exception, but rather a repetitive pattern. I only suspect, that they are experiencing life-changing events, and I would really like to know if positive ("What CLL forum?! I have my life now!") or negative ("Shame on me for even starting this process!").
I think it’s a very long process especially when confronting complications
It’s just overwhelming and not be able to have enthusiasm to report online
You seem to conclude that because someone was active in posting while active in the LL process; that if that same poster stops posting; then, something must be wrong.
Perhaps your conclusion is accurate in some cases but your conclusion may be inaccurate in most cases.
I found that once I began the consolidation process and begin to reintegrate with my life, I also began to lose interest in posting on this forum. This is so for multiple reasons.
The primary reason is that the bulk of feedback received as a result of posting is from others who do not seem sincere about the process yet are highly opinionated as if they know things which they clearly do not know.
Another significant group of feedback comes from posters who seem too lazy or disinterested to read an entire diary and just want "their" question answered.
Another group is the group that is experiencing challenges--some ask legitimate "did you experience this" type questions buy others want to replace interaction with their surgeon with interaction with this forum.
Because I am getting back into my life and have moved past these topics, there is little give and take, back and forth, or quid pro quo in continuing to post.
Some LLers continue to post regularly and offer opinions but it is these posters I am most leery of BECAUSE they continue to post rather than devote their time to getting back to their lives.
For me, I know this will be one of my final posts because I need to get on with my life. This does not mean I do not wish others well--I certainly do; however, my time as a resource for others is coming to its natural end. I suspect the same is true for many who actually undergo and complete the process or a discrete phase of the process.
California2,
You seem to be a solid "positive", given the lengthen amount, your age and the total cost.
Wouldn't you mind staying around for a while, or uploading more pics or movies of your life "after"?
I will probably post once or twice more updating my consolidation; however, I see no point for me to "hang around" this forum.
I understand others may get something from me hanging around; but, to be frank, what is in it for me?
Some LLers, just like some people who served a short time in the military, tend to draw a significant portion of their identity from those experiences. But these experiences make up only a brief portion of our lives.
It would be odd for me to hang around the forum and to keep talking about my LL experience. Naturally, I will always remember my experience but my experience is but one thread that makes the fabric of my life.
Why don't people post on these forums? it's pretty straightforward, when you post a pic on proportions you get judged, you say something, you get judged, you give information about you're doctor, then you get blamed and also judged for promoting him. You have a good outcome, then they call it a lie. So on and so forth. These forums are the most depressing place to be. It's not motivation or any kind of insight. I am simply here to follow like three people who lengthened, nothing else. This forum is also full of fake news and fake patients and even more fake complaints. Hating on the doctors, ect. When I am not on these forums I feel better. Many here think this is f$%#ng reddit for god sakes, they relate EVERYTHING to height. Sh%t job? height, no GF? it's because of the height, no respect? it's the height. It gets extremely depressing. There are thousands of folks out there lengthening who don't post. They do the surgery and move on. And like some of the lads said on the replies, LLers don't owe anyone anything, it truly is a gift if someone posts a diary or any kind of picture. There is even this sad c#nt who made like a wikipedia page of some of the guys who previously lengthened (not just APO). Thats what happens when you give out too much pictures or information. I could go on and on because there are a thousand different reasons why Android or anyone for that matter will not post updates or even diaries.
Does anybody have any info about Android? It doesn't look good...
He used to be the most active member on this forum.
What is his Instagram ?
It is strange because most Solomin diaries are good, maybe he just go over his insecurity but we really need to know if a least he is going well
There is a feeling of frustration
Also he didn’t come back from February but maybe he is just honest and too lazy, hope so
I sent a message on Instagram maybe he will answer
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