Quote from: sylar94 on May 21, 2019, 02:07:21 PMIn my opinion height neurosis is only a small part of the problem. There is absolutely nothing that can compensate for the lack of height. You can be good looking, smart, rich, have a good personality, but you will still be short.
All other men with subconsciously feel superior to you just for the stupid fact that you are shorter (significantly).
Felling good with yourself about your own height will not change how others view you. It is for you to decide if you care what others think.
The richer you are, the more beautiful you are, the more popular you are, the more obvious your shortness becomes:
Messi, best soccer player in the word, rich: Every commentator says about him "the little man"; commentators don't say this about average short players
Tom Cruise, good looking, rich, popular; "Would you date him? Nah, if he were tall I would date him"
And the classic line: "Look at him, he is so good looking; too bad he is short "
You can be happy and be a lion in your own mind, but everyone will still see a cat. (this may be a good thing in some situations) :
https://almanahualli.files.wordpress.com/2013/06/cat-sees-lion-in-mirror-2.gif
Not all men in the world will feel superior to a shorter man simply because of their height. Don't project your thoughts onto everyone else. While money, fame, a good personality and others markers of success cannot change your height (apart from actually getting surgery with that money), it won't be necessary for many men, even noticeably short ones, to "compensate" for their height, as their lives will not be drastically different from many of those who are taller. While Tom Cruise does get targeted by the (somewhat light-hearted, sometimes mean-spirited) short stereotypes, other well-known actors who are around his height (Joaquin Phoenix, Aaron Paul, Mark Wahlberg) are not (or significantly less), and are instead overwhelmingly judged for their acting prowess, their personalities, their activities outside of acting and sometimes even for their physical attractiveness (in a positive way). So while it is important how a person is seen by others, height is - in many cases - less of a "death sentence" than people presume.
While shorter people do get treated differently to taller people and how people are viewed is affected by their height (an effect that obviously increases the more a person diverges from the average height), it's too abbreviated to paint a "lion (tall man) vs. cat (short man)" metaphor, as height is far from the only attribute that factors in how people see a man, and that is a deficit in how a man is rewarded or denied the standard of masculinity: Physical prowess, the tone of a man's voice, age, physical health, intelligence, facial attractiveness, ethnicity, sexual orientation, and how close a man's behaviour and personality aligns to the societal standards of manliness can all play significant roles in the process of society placing a person within the templates of an ideal or not ideal man. Peter Dinklage will not be seen as the "lion" in a masculinity zoo, but Forrest Gump, despite being tall, would certainly not be deemed a lion either.
Dear future limb lengthener, I just finished my LL
Quote from: otavio on May 21, 2019, 03:08:50 PMwhy did you make only 5,5 cm ? when I undergo to my LL I'll try to reach something between 7/8 cm
Quote from: BeYourBest on May 21, 2019, 11:10:21 PMBecause he wants to be safe.
Quote from: Apoplectic on May 21, 2019, 05:38:38 PMWell I'm 5ft 5 and I still have women interested in me-even women that are taller. Granted I'm apparently good looking but what does that tell you?
I really want to know what EXACTLY is this "interest" you are referring to. Is it the interest where they look at you and they immediately want to date you and see you as boyfriend material OR is it the interest a person has when they see, like for instance, when a guy sees a girl with a nice face but with a undesirable body so he thinks "oh she's cute, but i really wouldnt want to date her". My experience so far in life has been the latter. Girls see me and say i have a cute face but dont see me as "relationship" material because body type wise i'm short. Yes sure I can make up for it by having a "great personality" which really just means me having comedic sense of humor so that people will like me IN SPITE of my height. I don't know about you but I don't want to be liked IN SPITE of something whether that thing be my height, race, ethnicity or whatever I don't want to feel like someone is liking me IN SPITE of something else that is undesirable. The way I see it, taller guys with normal personalities will get girls, just as long as they aren't unattractive facially. Shorter guys even if they have nicer facial qualities will have to possess a personality beyond average in order to have any success. I may be wrong but that's definitely been my life experience.
Also to the original poster OFCOURSE going from 5'5 to 5'7 will feel like a waste of time, because 5'7 is STILL SHORT. And honestly i think if you were to go from 5'7 to the average male height of 5'10 ( from short to average in layman's terms) the social outlook would be totally different.
Betagur7 how tall are you?
5'7 and up isn't bad. Much different than 5'5
Edit: nvm just saw. 5'7 isn't that short. A bit under average unless you're 5'6 and lying
I'm 5'7, but it really just depends on your surroundings if 5'7 is tall or short. For my culture 5'7 isn't tall enough plain and simple. I feel like women in my culture (i'm black btw) value athletic tall men (like the ones in the NFL and the NBA). But regardless 5'7 is still short and if you live in a culture that only values tall athletic looking men your only hope would be to be 5'10, that way your height wont be asset nor a detriment to your success in dating.
So you did ll and you regret？Why?You get a full recover and a new height.
5'7 is short in any cultrue？
Quote from: Chinese on May 29, 2019, 04:46:18 PM5'7 is short in any cultrue？
no
Though 5'7 is average in my country，women prefer at least 5'9
Fair enough. I am also 5'7. Live in new England. I feel low average, but I do want to get LL to get to an average 5'9-5'10
Not for girls (zero problems with that)
I believe in physical fitness and I believe going from 5'7 to 5'9 will allow me to maximize my aesthetics (I have a 5'10 wing span with broad shoulders and pretty big frame)
Quote from: Betagur7 on May 29, 2019, 02:09:53 AMI'm 5'7, but it really just depends on your surroundings if 5'7 is tall or short. For my culture 5'7 isn't tall enough plain and simple. I feel like women in my culture (i'm black btw) value athletic tall men (like the ones in the NFL and the NBA). But regardless 5'7 is still short and if you live in a culture that only values tall athletic looking men your only hope would be to be 5'10, that way your height wont be asset nor a detriment to your success in dating.
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