How did you get 6 months off work/career to do LL?

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Quote from: short2tall on March 07, 2018, 08:41:23 AMI believe this is an important topic as well, and not discussed very often. Here is how I did it. For starters I am 30, so I've had a few years to save. I saved up about enough for the surgery itself, then I took an equity loan out on my house, to cover all of the additional expenses. I quit my job because I wasn't really happy with it and needed a change anyway. I believe I have enough experience in my field to find another job relatively quickly after I'm done consolidating. If it takes awhile, I can always drive for Uber or Lyft in the meantime. Everyone's situation is different, but there is a way as long as you want it bad enough. Younger patients will probably have a harder time coming up with the money if they don;t have their parent's support. I wish I could have done it 10 years ago, but to pay for the surgery here is the US, late 20's/early 30's is a good age to have the surgery.

Late 30s~40 years old is probably the prime age for a man, so there's no worry if it's going to take some people longer to get the money.

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Quote from: myloginacct on March 09, 2018, 05:31:50 AMLate 30s~40 years old is probably the prime age for a man, so there's no worry if it's going to take some people longer to get the money.

It's also the age at which looks start to matter less and less. There's still unconscious bias (and of the sort that's not taught in "Unconscious bias" corporate training), but if you're short in your 40s, it matters much less than if you're in your 20s and short. First because by the age of 40 you've already established a course in life despite your short stature, and second because people you care about tend to be older and wiser.

Being in my late 30s was big "con" to my decision to do CLL.

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Quote from: OverrideYourGenetics on March 09, 2018, 09:36:18 AMIt's also the age at which looks start to matter less and less. There's still unconscious bias (and of the sort that's not taught in "Unconscious bias" corporate training), but if you're short in your 40s, it matters much less than if you're in your 20s and short. First because by the age of 40 you've already established a course in life despite your short stature, and second because people you care about tend to be older and wiser.

Being in my late 30s was big "con" to my decision to do CLL.

I've thought about this issue a lot in the past, but I actually started thinking doing it in your 30s is probably for the best. There's too many kids risking so much of their lives, education and finances trying to get CLL as early as possible.

And you're right about your points. I wonder if you'll view this post differently in a couple years, though? I'm thinking of all the little qualia that we couldn't even experience or notice before, when we were short. Maybe you should write two books... Life during, and life after CLL.

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Age is not only how old you are. It is also how old you look (the most important imo) and how old you feel.
There are men 25yo who dress and look (due to bad genes, behaviours etc) like 40yo and men 35-40yo who look very young and handsome.
And also not every 40yo man dreams his life with having a woman, 2 children and an office job. Some would want a much more adventurous life and of course LL will help them to get that.

So everyone of us is different and has different aims.
I'll do my best to look young and I am sure that I'll look much better in my 40ies than the average 25yo old man. And, I truly believe that LL will help men even when they are 40-45yo. After 50 yes, the returns may not worth the risks. But not till then.

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Intend to request 3 months leave unpaid then return to work with frames during consolidation.

Trying to explore the possibility of a medical loophole so I can get paid whilst I'm lengthening but doesn't seem to be anything in my job contract which enables it.

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I went on intermittent FMLA, which covered me for about 3 months or so. My company then moved me to part time remote for the rest of my lengthening. I will say the others are right where the older you are, the harder it is to do. I've seen some people bail on the surgery due to the mountain of responsibilities at home (mortgage, kids, spouse, bills). I had to carefully plan ahead of time to liquidate the majority of my assets and to get rid of my bills, but even then, I was still paying on some bills while abroad. The worst is when you initially lengthen or get past the 6/7 cm mark, the pain gets pretty out of control to really focus on any job. The best people I've seen are those with no responsibilities such as students.

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I don't feel comfortable with taking time off from work, I'm sure they're gonna ask me a letter or note from doctors, This is not something that i wanna reveal to my employer .


Still thinking about how i'm gonna deal with it ...

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Iam a mother housewife, i take pride in being there for my kids. I dont care if ppl would say u would accomplish more if u left an autistic kid and just go work. Thats doesnot mean i will not work at home to provide for my family and help my husband. Iam thinking while waiting to correctthis operation to study and help my husband in his work. I had a company before i left for my son and because of thyroid.

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Quote from: Myexperience on March 19, 2018, 01:32:41 PMIam a mother housewife, i take pride in being there for my kids. I dont care if ppl would say u would accomplish more if u left an autistic kid and just go work. Thats doesnot mean i will not work at home to provide for my family and help my husband. Iam thinking while waiting to correctthis operation to study and help my husband in his work. I had a company before i left for my son and because of thyroid.

Hold on. Aren't you supposed to be the husband talking about his wife?

Edit: never mind, apparently you two are sharing the same account.

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Yes we. are Android sharing the account. He is at work and i take care of my autistic son. Have a great day