Quote from: Audous on March 08, 2022, 07:21:35 AMUntil you fall more deeper into trouble in life you never realise how lucky you are. Don't follow that incel mindset where you believe you are unlucky because other people have it better than you and then start to grow an uncontrollable hatred on others.
You're lucky to be gaining 800K USD for your property and not having to work years for it so at least feel great for that, you can literally retire and never work in your life again if you invest that property but most of us here on the forum will be working our asses off till we're 65 years old. Don't you feel lucky about that? Life is not always about height.
I don't know how bad it is, but heightism is not only exclusive to China but everywhere in the world and since the dawn of mankind, being shorter than the average is discriminated in all parts of the world except it may not be as explicit as China but more indirect (and this could actually be worse). Don't be impatient, get the surgery and move on with your life.
Before this post I made multiple posts about how god-awfully heightism in China is going on and if to make story short, men under 180cm are considered the shortest of the Genz cohort and 185cm are considered only around average in 12 y.o Genz cohort. So girls are even despising men under 185cm in China rn! I am really lost in how to tacked with this kind of st irl but that has even become one of the reasons why I gotta migrate over other countries!
Is he a good psychiatrist? Yesterday I consulted a psychiartirst in my city
Quote from: PET on March 08, 2022, 02:18:23 PMmen under 180cm are considered the shortest of the Genz cohort and 185cm are considered only around average in 12 y.o Genz cohort. So girls are even despising men under 185cm in China rn! I am really lost in how to tacked with this kind of st irl but that has even become one of the reasons why I gotta migrate over other countries!
This is not true. You're believing a lie and feeling bad because of it. These are online trolls you're talking to. They're trying to make you feel bad, and they're winning.
Quote from: Medium Drink Of Water on March 08, 2022, 08:47:16 PMThis is not true. You're believing a lie and feeling bad because of it. These are online trolls you're talking to. They're trying to make you feel bad, and they're winning.
I am not only referring to those trollers. I posted a thread about this topic that height inflation in China is very terrifying and I said in that post that I joined 10+ groups of Depression where gather a cluster of Depression patients and they are also very misconceptional about height and very prone to bragging about or bluffing about height, not exclusive to trollers cuz those ppl are not trollers.
Quote from: ManWithLeukemia on March 08, 2022, 04:19:27 AM Hey everyone, as some users know, I am having very badly severe height neurosis and that is leading to my constantly spouting a series of extreme statements like being short is equivalent to having Leukemia or similar stuffs so I wanna put my mental predicamnt to the end before I am punished by mods here to get me lost out of this forum due to my posts.
I consulted a psychiatrist specialized in Depression and Anxiety Disorder in the center of Shanghai and he is a stylish 50+ y.o psychiatrist with good patiences and attitudes towards me and at first he asked the reason why I got Depression and I said it was bc I am short. And he kinda laughed out but that was anticipated by me cuz I know it's kinda hilarious to hold frequent intentions and even behaviours of suicide(Around 15 y.o I tried jumping for 4 times and hanging for 2 times to kill myself due to height dysphoria). Yeah you know what is next and afterwards he started to impose positive ideologies onto me through giving inspiring positive anecdotes about how successful and charming those short men he came across and knows of and tbh I didn't achieve any inspirations at all cuz I know they are just babysitting. And at last after he added some encouragements like I am promising and excellent except height and don't get too obsessed with height.
But for unknown reasons I burst out my extreme statments that I ever said on this forum:I'd rather choose Leukemia and Ebola than being short and blah blah. And he opened his mouth bc he was shocked a lot and laughed it off and shouted 'What?'. atm I knew I should've not thrown that kind of statements to him and finally he poured a backet of cold water onto me by saying 'Emm... All right. It seems to me that your height neurosis is more severe than my expectations.. Well.. Just take it easy young blood.. You don't need to think that way.. Maybe other psychiatrists are better options for you... As for me, maybe I cannot eradicate your mental problems.. Sorry.'
And in great despair I hurried back home and I posted the process of the whole consultation. What's your take?
I can't help thinking that way that having horrible diseases like poliomyelitis or osteocarcinoma is better than being short and it seems to me that no one can help me inhibiting this kind of negative thoughts to reside in my mind. I am rn at a loss what to do.
I am getting ready for Paley's Option 5 and considering to sell one of my houses for LL. I think $740K is definitely adequate for Option 5
You need to find a psychiatrist or psychologist specialised in Body dysphoria. It's not common but in such a big city as Shangai you surely find one. Depression and anxiety disorder are clearly "secondary" to your neurosis now becoming a severe dysphoria at the edge of psychotic illness.
Use your time to treat yourself psychologically as otherwise you will get worse and won't even be prepared to the LL journey.
As in another positive post of yours, take the time also to personal development activities. Start by search ideas in self help books as you said, for example.
And stop offending people. Atract people, don't repel them by being disgusting and pathological.
Quote from: ManWithLeukemia on March 08, 2022, 06:38:03 AMI took Escitalopram oxalate and Lithium Carbonate Sustained-release Tablets on a daily basis before and due to the ineffectivenesses I ceased to take them and at last I bagan to mitigate my depression by myself without medications.
It's a mistake. You need to change medication but still need medication for sure. Depression rarely improves at first farmacological attempt. Or even at second. Or third.
And you need simultaneous regular, maybe twice a week, good quality psychotherapy.
Use your money where you need it, wisely!
Quote from: zaozari on March 08, 2022, 10:26:26 PMYou need to find a psychiatrist or psychologist specialised in Body dysphoria. It's not common but in such a big city as Shangai you surely find one. Depression and anxiety disorder are clearly "secondary" to your neurosis now becoming a severe dysphoria at the edge of psychotic illness.
Use your time to treat yourself psychologically as otherwise you will get worse and won't even be prepared to the LL journey.
As in another positive post of yours, take the time also to personal development activities. Start by search ideas in self help books as you said, for example.
And stop offending people. Atract people, don't repel them by being disgusting and pathological.
I am not fighting against your mandate of me stopping offending ppl but it's kinda interesting that on r/short I posted my extreme viewpoints like those stuffs that agitated you to keep hostile towards me but users there either consoled me or voted me up/admitted what I said. It seems this kind of 'intoxicated' ideologies are a bandwagon in nowadays judgemental society and I am really not attempting to offend anyone, instead, I am all the time jut expressing what is on my mind. Though you gotta get angry at what I will say next, I still wanna say I am really thinking that way and I am persuaded by myself that is a fact.
Once I went to hospital to medically examine my ophthalmologic health panels to get ready for Vitrectomy to cure eyefloaters, I came across a old woman with Quadriplegia(or Parkinson, I can't tell them) and she was taken good cares of medical stuff including doctors and nurses also in addition to her families and a old man using a cane to walk along the corridor who was also 185+cm tall even though with a severe cyophosis and I projected(a psychological terminology)myself onto them and at lesat compared to being short, I don't think they are unlucky but the really unlucky one is me. So I am not just ignorant of what those diseases mean to me and I am really convinced being short is way worse than many devastatin diseases.
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Quote from: 173to187USTORUSSIA on March 09, 2022, 08:26:23 AMStay away from all antidepressants except Wellbutrin. They all cause dependence, sxxual dysfunction (sometimes permanent, weight gain and low libido.)
Wellbutrin is the only antidepressant I would ever take as it acts on dopamine and is not a dangerous SSRI.
I recommend you get your testosterone checked, get on testosterone replacement therapy if your T comes back low and begin an exercise regimen repeatedly (Begin with at least 3 days a week and move up from there.
-173to187
Thx for your introductions bro. But I think I am overwhelmed in height dysphoria just bc I have yet to figure out a way to release my accmulated mental burdens.
Months ago I found out a way which sets free my 'intoxicated'(in my eyes it is not at all but in some users' eyes here they are intoxicating and offensive as hell) thought out of my mind onto this forum and I am really feeling this way is working on me positively so that I detected my mental burdens are really reduced by stating that kind of 'dark' thoughts.
But you know what is the circumstance after I stated that kind of thoghts so I am conceiving new ways to release burdens but until rn still haven't I conceived any one.
If any I will share it with your guys.
Quote from: Sorcerer on March 08, 2022, 02:18:23 PMBefore this post I made multiple posts about how god-awfully heightism in China is going on and if to make story short, men under 180cm are considered the shortest of the Genz cohort and 185cm are considered only around average in 12 y.o Genz cohort. So girls are even despising men under 185cm in China rn! I am really lost in how to tacked with this kind of st irl but that has even become one of the reasons why I gotta migrate over other countries!
They're lying by 15 cm minimum lol. 168 cm is in the 97th percentile of height for 13-year-old males in the West. Do you really think China is inhabited by giants? Come on.
Quote from: ReadRothbard on March 09, 2022, 09:40:12 PMThey're lying by 15 cm minimum lol. 168 cm is in the 97th percentile of height for 13-year-old males in the West. Do you really think China is inhabited by giants? Come on.
Unfortunately, he does. He needs a better psychiatrist.
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