This is really hard topic for me. Before my puberty i had a symmetrical body. I knew that the only cause of my bullying was my wierd head shape. After puberty i ended up with short arms. I have never had the psychological strenght to accept this kind of change. So i ended up with a disorder visualizing my body. I can only check old phostos of me and get a relief..my body looks normal. Only that head is there that i can hide with a cap.
I know there is people in the forum with short arms. Ware you guys allways short armed or did it happen in some growth spurt? To be honest after puberty bullying was tough and also the back pain that i cant escape. It wont go away, because i cant try to keep back straight.
Some guys in the forum talk about you have to be okay with your short stature first. Then you can think about lenghtening. Do you guys have a problem about the shame that your body brings you inside? I can tell that is the one and most destroying thing to me.
For me many things are tolerable: one shoulder 2cm wider, wierd head shape, acne scars in face, bow legs, small genitales, small hands. These things make me suffer inside, but + arms are short...that just is one thing too mutch.
Quote from: Johnson1111 on June 18, 2018, 12:03:11 PMAnything down to -2 inches under your height is within acceptable average range. What are your proportions? Is it that bad? We are all very critical of ourselves and the more we read about perfection the worse we get.
I hear and understand your situation too, both too short and too long arms look silly. My height is 178,5 and armspan is 175cm so its in the limit of 2inches. My problem is that i have also really wide shoulders so it makes my problem visible.
If you measure the middle part of your torso and legs. My fingertip is exacly at that point when i keep my arms tight to the body. Maybe 1cm over it to be exact.
Quote from: Racurz on June 19, 2018, 01:39:00 PMTo be fair if it bothers you that much you could go for arm lengthening in your forearm or humerus it’s apparently less stress on the bones the leg lengthening is and can look good with 2-3 cm add unlike most people who get like 6-8 cm on their legs in one segment alone
Thanks for your reply, i have been intouch with couple of LL doctors. My main contact was with Dr. Pili. He assured me that 4-5cm would be possible, but my goal is just that 2-3cm to be conservative and to keep proportion. Now i have trird to be intouch with my countrys doctors. Seen 1 doc, who really had little experience on the matter. Fortunately he linked a guy in the capital city. This guy seemed to know exactly what he was talking about. I will have consultation after i recover from the last consultation that was not a success.
But in my case think about a guy whos head is seriously size xl and it looks portionate, because of the wide shoulders. That is the only good thing about armspan in the shoulders. I have short humerus, so i think the lenghtening would just leave scarring i think i can live with.
I respect you guys for trying to make me feel better, thanks!
Bit of more info, but i dont wanna post a picture of me..Its just a bit too mutch.
My head circumference is 20,5 cm
My shoulder width is around 53,5cm
Now i just feel stupid about what info i wrote last reply...I was so uncofortable about the matter.
Head circumference: 60.5 cm.
My shoulder width was against the wall. Side to side about 53.5cm. Deltoid to deltoid propably a bit less, but its hard to measure alone.
Yup, you got it. I think at 181 my arms would be about "normal". I kind of know the positives, but its just so hard to accept this kind of change in the body.
Mike tyson has a bit longer arms than me...even hes arms dont look too long. I found somewhere that hes armspan was about 1-2cm longer than hes height. Am i wrong?
Quote from: Juiceslikewine on July 01, 2018, 08:51:21 AMI've just done some digging and his wingspan is 181cms apparently,i guess his arms were short only compared to other heavyweights,honestly assuming the risks are worth it to you i'd lengthen to 181, then you're completely proportional and can move on with your life.
Thanks for your last reply. I think that i am prepared for some setbacks about the treatment. I was a exremely competitive athlete when i was younger. So i can say that losing some physical ability is something i had to accept about the treatment. I seoriously know that i am gonna loose some to gain some. That is part of the deal.
But i feel in the end just like that: Go trough this rough treatment and move on with my life.
Quote from: myloginacc on July 01, 2018, 09:52:11 AMAre both of your arms short, in you opinion? Your username is not plural, so...
From the stats you posted, they're really not. But if it's just one of them, humerus lengthening is considered the easiest form of LL, as far as I've read in published papers. Only one of them shouldn't be much of a problem, when compared to legs.
My arms are shorter than my height by a larger margin than they are for you, by the way. No one has ever said or pointed out anything. They don't stand out, either. They just don't look long.
I am happy to hear about someone, who has not been bullied about short arms. I have been bullied after age 13-14 and it never has stopped. My both arms are short, not only one arm. I have talked about my shame in therapy, but it has not changed the feeling inside, when i look in the mirror.
I do know that there are people with a even shorter arms..so i am not saying my situation is the worst in the world. I am saying that this bugs me and has bugged since my teen age..After 14 i have not felt comfortable close to mirrors.
Quote from: myloginacc on July 01, 2018, 06:10:23 PMAh, I'm sorry to hear it. I guess posting a picture here is almost impossible for you, right?
In my mind, it can't be that bad. It's just a 3cm difference. It seems - to me - to be more of a long lasting result of the bullying you went through. 
I will try to be brave and post a picture, but it is kind of tough for me. I have a feeling its part of both and the problem is that you cant take back what you learn about you from your enviroment. If it would be smart i would take 5cm to both arms, but that is just too big of a risk. My goal is only bring back the proportion i had before teen age.
Did your arms stop growing in some growth spurt or ware you always short armed? If it makes any difference i come also from a long legged and long armed family. Including uncles, aunts, cousins. My mom looks basically like a spider. Dad has a bit short legs, but a normal armspan.
Here is a link to a photo i took from my self: https://photos.app.goo.gl/m1JMFuqPV26Hy4fc8
I can tell you guys it was not easy at all...I have felt the shame about my arms not portionate for so long...Its actually paiful for me to see the photo.
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