Short girl looking for advice.

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Quote from: 19spicegirlxo on February 08, 2021, 01:51:03 PMI appreciate that youre trying to make me feel better but i still have this self esteem issue thats bothering me. From the replies Im getting and reading old forum posts there is a lot of toxic generalisation here.

You’re on a forum literally filled with short guys who have gotten so much crap for being short from both short and tall women that we want to break our legs to become taller. You won’t find a lot of sympathy here even if you’re in the same height percentile as most of the guys.

My personal anecdote is that the hottest girl I’ve ever hooked up with is only 155cm and she’s way more popular than any tall girls I know. She’s around 30 now but still has a YT channel with 200k+ subs. I agree with the poster that said attractive face is way more important than height for women. Also, if this anecdote is useless, well that’s the kind of advice that short guys get all the time lol.

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Quote from: 19spicegirlxo on February 08, 2021, 01:51:03 PMI appreciate that youre trying to make me feel better but i still have this self esteem issue thats bothering me. From the replies Im getting and reading old forum posts there is a lot of toxic generalisation here.

You’re on a forum literally filled with short guys who have gotten so much crap for being short from both short and tall women that we want to break our legs to become taller. You won’t find a lot of sympathy here even if you’re in the same height percentile as most of the guys.

My personal anecdote is that the hottest girl I’ve ever hooked up with is only 155cm and she’s way more popular than any tall girls I know. She’s around 30 now but still has a YT channel with 200k+ subs. I agree with the poster that said attractive face is way more important than height for women. Also, if this anecdote is useless, well that’s the kind of advice that short guys get all the time lol.

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Quote from: ghkid2021 on February 08, 2021, 01:56:14 PMSo... What's your budget?

My budget is about roughly €38,000 or preferably less. I think it is around $45,000

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Quote from: 19spicegirlxo on February 08, 2021, 01:46:09 PMI dated very two tall guys,  one of the exes we had dated for a couple of months and even the family seemed to like me but when I asked him about marriage he started to change, started to avoid me and soon after that he asked for a break saying he needed "time and space". Few days later I saw him at the coffee shop kissing a tall girl! I was heartbroken.

Did you confront him about it, and did he actually say it was because of your height?  Sounds like typical noncommital male behavior toward any woman.

QuoteFor my second ex, he would talk condescendingly of my height and if we argued the topic of my height used come up increasingly to mock and belittle me. He even said at one point you're too short to be the mother of my children. I was so deeply hurt and it affected my self esteem, I hated my life in my hometown after this and since i was so short there I moved to Japan to feel more normal but even here I dont feel like I belong.

What an abusive jerk.  You're about the same height as my mom.  When she and my 183 cm father fought, her height never got mentioned even once.  I think this guy would find something about anyone to focus on and belittle, though.

With that budget you can just barely get Precise 2 internal nails from Dr. Giotikas in Greece.  That's not the latest state of the art nail (Stryde) but is only one generation behind.  Dr. Jamal Abu-Nemer who uses his own proprietary nail will do it for about that price, and 3 months of room and board are included.  These will give you the most height in one surgery and leave you without much scarring.

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Quote from: 19spicegirlxo on February 08, 2021, 01:51:03 PMI appreciate that youre trying to make me feel better but i still have this self esteem issue thats bothering me. From the replies Im getting and reading old forum posts there is a lot of toxic generalisation here.

This is not reddit mate, go see a shrink.

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Quote from: 19spicegirlxo on February 08, 2021, 02:05:45 PMMy budget is about roughly €38,000 or preferably less. I think it is around $45,000

With that budget you're gonna need to go to Russia if you want more than 10cm. Not the best place to do LL. Rolling the dice whether you get crippled or not. You simply cannot have quality and be frugal with money. I would just try saving up about 40 thousand more Euros and get this surgery 5 years later and be able to go to giotikas and do stryde Femurs and lon Tibias.

8cm is more reasonable, 16 is unattainable for most people for various reasons. Hopefully 156cm is a decent height for a women, if not, then I don't know what is. I wish I could lengthen 20cm also but not happening. Gotta have a reasonable limit somewhere. Trust me that 8cm will be ALOT. If still hell-bent on 16cm then I guess you can stage 2 surgeries a year apart in Russia and do like 8cm and then 5cm and push and see maybe if can go to 8 for tibia

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she wont be in her prime anymore in 5 years

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Quote from: 19spicegirlxo on February 08, 2021, 01:46:09 PMI dated very two tall guys,  one of the exes we had dated for a couple of months and even the family seemed to like me but when I asked him about marriage he started to change, started to avoid me and soon after that he asked for a break saying he needed "time and space". Few days later I saw him at the coffee shop kissing a tall girl! I was heartbroken.

For my second ex, he would talk condescendingly of my height and if we argued the topic of my height used come up increasingly to mock and belittle me. He even said at one point you're too short to be the mother of my children. I was so deeply hurt and it affected my self esteem, I hated my life in my hometown after this and since i was so short there I moved to Japan to feel more normal but even here I dont feel like I belong.

And you still have the very tall height as the main criterion about dating.
I am sorry to tell you but maybe you don't deserve something better than that behavior because your criterion about dating is completely suoerficial and stupid as even if your husband's height is too tall, nothing guarantees that your children won't be as short as you.

And yes, if you look hillarious as a couple with someone then it is very possible that your other half would have some problems otherwise he would find someone more compatible with him and not a woman 1,5 head shorter than him.
The same happens with you too. If you thought sensibly you would have found someone that you'll look better with him, a relativley short or average at max man who wouldn't have had any problem with your height and you would looked very good together.
Even an 1.65 man is much taller than you after all.

So think more logical and have better preferences about dating someone.
Otherwise don't wonder why you have bad relationships.
Because you choose the wrong persons is the answer.

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Quote from: 19spicegirlxo on February 08, 2021, 08:41:19 AM Excuse me, what the hell is that supposed to mean?!

This means you need to sit and think if this is something you want for yourself or some ”tall guy”. imagine spending all this money and time but you still end up with some other as**ole. You don't need to be with the Japanese cuz of your height, why did you do that in the first place. Be where you want to be, do CLL for yourself. Be mean and ruthless... Block negativity. We all are dealing with the same issue here... 

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Quote from: 19spicegirlxo on February 08, 2021, 01:59:37 PMThank you all so much for your surgery advices. I have been considering and taking in all your inputs. This is a scary procedure for me but i dont want to live with issue all my life after what all my friends told me.
I think €90,000 is too expensive are there any better priced doctors and with the thigh surgery will it affect my bottom?
I like wearing bikinis will it affect my look when i sunbathe at the beach?

Yes, it will definitely affect your bottom. Your glutes will atrophy quickly and it'll take a long time and a lot of exercise to regain those lost muscles.  In fact it'll never become as round as it was before. That's a fact everyone who has done the femur surgery knows.