should u tell friends and family?
not necessary, if u used ur own money and energy.. why should they know?
should u tell the priest during confession?
not necessary, there is nothing wrong about LL. actually u should read the bible to be fully sure. (this was for lolz)
should u tell wife if married?
yes, if u end up with problems later in life she has to help u, so she should know.
should u tell current gf?
not necessary, there is no guarantee of lifelong togetherness any way
should u tell future wife?
yes, because she has accepted ur after LL height and not before LL height. what if u have short children?
imagine u marry someone 5foot3 and then find out she was 5foot. from 'almost average' to well below average. wont u worry about short children?
if u think ur wife WILL NOT mind LL then u can tell her, no problem. if u think she WILL mind LL then also should u tell her. is that not correct?
be honest and happy with urself and ur decision it will all work out.
guys read this 10 times
"if u think ur wife WILL NOT mind LL then u can tell her, no problem. if u think she WILL mind LL then also SHOULD u tell her. is that not correct?"
pls argue logically. if u are a really short guy like 5foot4 or 5foot5 and then reach 5foot7 then u will look very very different. if ur wife married u after meeting u at 5foot7 she may have thought "ok he is short but not that short, so its ok". but she doesnt know u did LL.
yes its risky to tell. lets say u tell ur fiancee and she leaves u and even tells her close friends. ur secret is now lost and wedding broken.
BUUUUUUUT, lets say u get married without telling her. now u are with someone who is going leave u if she finds out about ur LL. do u want that? what a crppy relationship that will be.
and marrying a tall girl doesnt give u tall children for sure! u could have an exact replica of ur self pre LL.
i am saying love urself, love ur decision, respect ur decision take pride in ur decision. tell ur future wife. it is the right thing to do. dont remain an insecure person.
Quote from: Apoplectic on July 06, 2019, 12:07:48 AMFrom my experience taller girls are a lot more lenient about height than shorter women-that's my plan anyway.
most women prefer guys taller than them. taller girls prefer men taller than them, so.... even taller.
u have no data on ur point. u are delusional about this.
QuoteFrom what I've seen , height is like a genetic roulette anyway,so long as your male children end up near average height then it's no longer a problem.
there is strong association between parents height and childrens height. in fact EVERYTHING. in terms of intelligence, looks, mental personality, everything comes from parents. it is NOT a lottery. there are exceptions in everything but there is an association.
Quote from: Rei on July 05, 2019, 07:51:48 PMImho better to not tell anyone unless impossible to avoid like your family.
You will make people aware and will start to look constantly at your proportions and once someone outside of your family knows it, everyone is going to know.
People in general are really ignorant and dumb, especially women, most people will just understand: “He broke both of his legs for few cm lololol” without understanding the actually surgery and is relatively safe. In general in life you want to not tell people much about you even people really close, they will not be close friends forever and most of the times the never bern anyway.
agree with u 100 %.
but wife is family 
and it is ur responsibility to make her understand.
imagine ur wife has done a bunch of simpler cosmetic surgeries like nose job and some other face surgery. she looks ok, but u would NOT have liked her OLD self before these surgeries either. how do u feel if u find out later? most cosmetic surgeries can be considered "safe" if u count LL as "safe", so no argument there.
agree with u on this 100 %
but u are digressing.
lets say u are 5foot3 get LL and become 5foot6. u marry a 5foot5 girl who likes u and doesnt mind ur "new" height. u have done ur best for ur future children.
but if u get caught about LL how will u explain to ur wife?
"look honey, our childrens height is unpredictable anyway so i may not be responsible for it after all. also my new height is permanent and i will always be taller than u. i didnt tell u about LL before our wedding because u didnt ask. i always thought it was about what is on the inside and not physical attributes.
i would have married u even if u were 5foot2. errr scratch that. so yeah why is it a big deal honey?"
ok i respect ur opinion. how would u explain to ur wife if she found out about ur past LL? can u write this in a better way?
"look honey, our childrens height is unpredictable anyway so i may not be responsible for it after all. also my new height is permanent and i will always be taller than u. i didnt tell u about LL before our wedding because u didnt ask. i always thought it was about what is on the inside and not physical attributes.
i would have married u even if u were 5foot2. errr scratch that. so yeah why is it a big deal honey?"
Quote from: Apoplectic on July 06, 2019, 02:17:09 PMI intend to tell no one whatsoever so there's no way anyone can find out.
yes really no one can find out. but u have to know that some people know about this. ur surgeon, every nurse who treated u, the hospital staff, some LL friends u hung out with in the hotel, ur local radiologist who does ur x-rays, fitbone/precice company. and many people can see u limping and also slightly taller and they may have wondered but been too polite to ask u. if u cross someone's height or become taller than someone or same height as someone they will know for sure.
imagine u meet some old friends with ur new wife and many of them ask, hey "werent u shorter than me?"
QuotePeople here need to realise that you'll be living a lie for the rest of your life post surgery,the old you will die.
finally an honest reply. this type of opinions i wanted to gather in this thread. i mark this in bold from ur reply.
i dont know why all LL veterans are shy to talk abt this. it surprising most people are holding LL secret from a future wife. think about it, most guys get LL for girls unless already married. no matter what bs people write here ("i am doing it for myself, for my soul"), deep inside it is for girls.
Lol not one veteran write about this 
looks like everyone is taking this secret to their grave. 
rip ethics
Quote from: cheekycabs on July 14, 2019, 01:08:56 PMMy wife helped me get through the entire process, actually.
Yes she uses it against me in arguments.
So, you're an idiot. Best tell no one.
if she reminds u how much she helped u whats wrong in that? does she mock u for doing LL? u were married so u had no option than telling her.
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