Catching up to social standards without appearing like a pitiful late bloomer

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One is a loser if he cares too much about what other people think. 

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Quote from: G-Man on August 09, 2014, 03:01:03 PMOne is a loser if he cares too much about what other people think. 

You have a point, but the problem is that even if you dont care about what other people think, it wont stop them from treating you like a loser if they have a better image than you..and of course im all about not taking crap and talking back but then of course people can be disrespectful in subtle ways and then suddenly we are the bad guys if we make a big deal about it..

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Yeah I get you but do you really need people like that (judgemental) around you?  You are 24 so its around that time that school friends mostly disappear and you make new ones at work or in different spheres of life.

Do what its good for you and what makes you happy, the rest should follow!

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Quote from: G-Man on August 09, 2014, 04:13:44 PMYeah I get you but do you really need people like that (judgemental) around you?  You are 24 so its around that time that school friends mostly disappear and you make new ones at work or in different spheres of life.

Do what its good for you and what makes you happy, the rest should follow!

Its not so much that i want to hang out with people that treat me like that, but its very common for me to come across people who are a bit judgemental etc, but i get the feeling that they would seem like totally different people if they respected me. So life would get more interesting this way.

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Ok, so focus on the ladies, thatll make your life more interesting!
Hit the gym, work on your shape (really works with the chix) and dress neat.
P.S. lose the chains

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Quote from: Wannabegiant on August 09, 2014, 05:08:07 PMIts not so much that i want to hang out with people that treat me like that, but its very common for me to come across people who are a bit judgemental etc, but i get the feeling that they would seem like totally different people if they respected me. So life would get more interesting this way.

Don't get their approval, in the end you will realise that you cant touch this approval thing, the seed of inadequate has already been planted inside you. The best thing for you is just do your thing and find QUALITY FRIENDS and live your life the way you want it to be. Trust me you will find no happiness trying to get approval from shallow equally insecure people who clinge to the tallest man in the room. Even there shows their lvl off intelligence and lack of awarness overall.

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Quote from: G-Man on August 09, 2014, 05:19:21 PMOk, so focus on the ladies, thatll make your life more interesting!
Hit the gym, work on your shape (really works with the chix) and dress neat.
P.S. lose the chains

Yeah true, im going to work out and dress better so that i know im on par with what people expect these days, focus on myself and then after that i know i will feel confident enough to not let the status and popularity stuff bother me to much. It will make me more confident chasing 10s in the clubs where first impressions are so important.

Yeah i guess im to old for chains now :p but i have a more mature one with a doggy tag like piece with my name engraved onto it. That one still works i think.

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Quote from: Slim_tim on September 08, 2014, 03:16:31 AMDon't get their approval, in the end you will realise that you cant touch this approval thing, the seed of inadequate has already been planted inside you. The best thing for you is just do your thing and find QUALITY FRIENDS and live your life the way you want it to be. Trust me you will find no happiness trying to get approval from shallow equally insecure people who clinge to the tallest man in the room. Even there shows their lvl off intelligence and lack of awarness overall.

I kind of agree, but the thing is i dont want the people who already treated me bad to start liking me, i just want to see if they change and if not i want to treat them bad in return now when i am on par appearance wise based on the standards i spoke about. After that they will probably start avoiding me 

the seed of inadequate is not within me, its their image of me which is planted, and hard to change. The only way to change it would be to slowly and progressively act a bit differently to what they expect, and of course subtle changes to my look (working out and dressing better) this way it wont seem like i am trying to hard and it is natural. Of course if they still treat me the same i wont care at that point, because i will have the looks and confidence to treat them the same way and make it look easy, since they wont be in the comfort zone anymore without their usual advantages.

of course i will also try to find other people to hang out with and only deal with those mentioned above when i have to.

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You will not have the upper hand with your old friend because they got the LL card to bring out on your ass. But as far as meeting new people..yeah then you are on the same level.

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Quote from: Slim_tim on September 08, 2014, 03:41:23 AMYou will not have the upper hand with your old friend because they got the LL card to bring out on your ass. But as far as meeting new people..yeah then you are on the same level.

They dont know about LL, and my closest friends are the only ones who would notice immediately, but i can still claim i did bowleg correction to them.

The other "friends" i was talking about, they dont see me often enough to just instantly figure out what changed, more likely they will think "huh didnt that guy use to be smaller?" but they wont know how it happened or if they might have remembered my previous height wrong, since 4 cm is quite subtle change when people dont see you every day. They might think im wearing some different shoes or that they themselves where taller because they had shoes with lifts before when they saw me previously.

I doubt anyone will think i did some surgery, and if they would dare to bring it up, then i could just say bowleg correction or just deny it, its not impossible to grow a few cm before 25, even though its very uncommon.