Quote from: Chris on April 01, 2016, 06:21:33 PMI think it's not important on here what he is or what he has.
I agree.
It only matters in the context of "life doesn't suck at 5'7-5'8 and if it does you are doing it wrong"
I have to ask, is it really hard to, and I don't mean this in any disrespectful tone, grow a thicker set of skin? Especially when it comes to Internet hate, because it's all always so hyperbolic and overblown.
I bet we both can agree that real life isn't what the Internet says it is. So to that degree, and what you've said about yourself, I'd just say ignore those stupid comments; there's much more to a man then just a number..
Quote from: Alu on April 01, 2016, 07:51:27 PMI have to ask, is it really hard to, and I don't mean this in any disrespectful tone, grow a thicker set of skin? Especially when it comes to Internet hate, because it's all always so hyperbolic and overblown.
I bet we both can agree that real life isn't what the Internet says it is. So to that degree, and what you've said about yourself, I'd just say ignore those stupid comments; there's much more to a man then just a number..
Everything on the internet is true, the internet told me so!
Was this directed at me?
I agree with you... I should be tougher.
I've said many times that I've never really faced the harsh stuff that men below my height can face. Life has been damn good, and I hate to think that any younger dudes are fretting over being 5'7-5'8 thinking they are screwed. I went through my entire 20's without a thought of my height.
To quote you: "If I was 5'7, I would of bought two BMW's instead of breaking my legs"
Thanks for the tough words man.
Quote from: CCMidwest on April 01, 2016, 08:04:00 PMEverything on the internet is true, the internet told me so!
Was this directed at me?
I agree with you... I should be tougher.
I've said many times that I've never really faced the harsh stuff that men below my height can face. Life has been damn good, and I hate to think that any younger dudes are fretting over being 5'7-5'8 thinking they are screwed. I went through my entire 20's without a thought of my height.
To quote you: "If I was 5'7, I would of bought two BMW's instead of breaking my legs"
Thanks for the tough words man.
No problem man. At this point though, it either be two Tesla Model 3s or 1 Model S... which is the choice I'm probably gonna make lol: LL or a brand new Tesla.
Anyways, yea I can understand the sentiment. One of things that helped me develop thicker skin was my support group of friends that I have. Support peeps they are.
The other thing that helped was fully realzing that I'm natural at my current height. I didn't shoot myself in the foot or anything, it was just the way it was meant to be. And while it sucks, it's a much better realization that thinking for the rest of your like that you made didn't reach a given potential; because in truth I haven't yet reached it... I haven't yet worked my ass off to reach it.
I think part of it is also the whole "I did what I could" mentality. The 5'8" guy who hasn't gotten LL, but has been exposed to the possibility will always have that "I could be taller" thought in the back of his mind, while the 5'5" guy who is now 5'8" after LL doesn't think about that anymore since he's already gotten the surgery. Plus after a lifetime of viewing the world at 5'5", you'll definitely appreciate 5'8" more.
I don't wear lifts often anymore, but when I walk around in the city with them I still feel a world of difference than when I wear shoes with regular soles.
It's possible to stop thinking about height. I've thought about height ever since I'd been discriminated against in school for my height. Always being picked last in basketball. Always being rejected by girls for my height. Always being the butt of people's short jokes. That stuff bothered me when I was younger, because I had the impression that looks and acceptance from your peers were the most important part of a person. After my teens were over, I realized that there's more to life than just looks. My height stopped being important as I started developing a better personality, and making more money. Girls were attracted to me despite me being short.
About four years ago, I researched LL out of curiosity. On the surface, it looked like something cool to do. I had braces before to fix my crooked teeth, so I figured that this would be similar to that. After reading several diaries, especially oldiebutgoldie's, I decided not to do it. It seemed like a lot of pain and suffering with so-so results at the end. The next two years after that event, I stopped thinking about my height. Everything was great. I wish my story ended there, and I lived happily ever after. I wish the same would happen to some of you.
About a year ago, I got back to the whole height thing again. And that's when I knew that this was going to be an ongoing problem. There was no trigger for it. My main issue was that I'm sort of a perfectionist and overachiever. And everything in my life was excellent, except for my height. It was the blemish that stood out like a black dot on a white piece of paper. So while I was able to put it in the back of my mind, eventually on a boring day, it would come back to haunt me.
And that's when I got the surgery to get this "blemish" removed permanently. And after the surgery, it's finally gone. I didn't get my "goal" height of 5'10"-5'11". But that's okay. 5'8"-5'9" is fine for me. I have the option to do tibias, but after going through the surgery, I realized that it was not worth it. I instead learned to accept myself, even though I'm still technically short if being short meant below average.
The way I got over my "perfectionist/overachiever" curse was that while I was sitting here in pain from my surgery I finally took a step back to look at what I achieved. And it was much greater than 99.9% of what most people spend their entire lives trying to do. That's why I said enough was enough. I'm physically abusing myself to try to "better" myself? F that.
That's when I cured my height neurosis. I think you get a wake up call when you're writhing in level 10 pain and hitting rock bottom. That's when you appreciate having a pain-free life much more. And also a greater appreciation for working legs.
DIFM, is your legs ok now?
DIFM,
I understand the whole, "black dot on a white piece of paper" thought process.
You are about 1" taller than me if you are 5'8-5'9.
You cured your height neurosis and accepted yourself after LL. (or during LL I suppose is more accurate)
I think the question is than, how could one accept themselves WITHOUT LL? (especially in the range of guys that are not that short, 5'6,5'7,5'
After LL, yes, you will stop.
Quote from: programdude on April 03, 2016, 04:33:50 PMAfter LL, yes, you will stop.
you're still pretty active on the forum. does this mean you're still thinking about your height everyday but more like "i'm feeling so blessed with my current height. i don't feel bad about it anymore!"? i guess most people on this forum thinks about their height often. but this doesn't mean that everybody feels miserable about his height. it can be positive too. i grew 1,5 cm (not permanent) by doing yoga excercises and i felt so happy lol. but i still consider myself as a 173 guy
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