Does this forum lack serious and experienced posters?

The core of this community is obviously experienced LL patients that post informative diaries and help out us prospects with info, reality checks and advice. Some of the most valuable users are MDoW, KiloKahn and RGKEY but when I joined, just a few months ago, there were several more including Wannabegiant, Sweden, OBG, Shyshy, Polycrates etc.

Of course we can't expect veterns to waste their time on here helping us but unfortunately we seem to have a weak influx of quality posters with experience. There are some promising ones like Yellowspike, programdude and Itsmylife but overall I feel like our demographics are going the wrong way. My ll journey is still a year away at least, and while I promise to make a complete diary, I would like to have more people share their experiences before then.

Not only that but the forum is also less active than just a few months ago, what's going on?
Do you guys think this is a problem and if so, what causes it?

I do think that this is is a problem, and it's even worse over at the old forum. The majority of posters ask stupid questions that have been answered many times already, and they use terrible grammar and spelling in doing so. To me, it's pretty disgusting. It wouldn't surprise me if constantly being asked to respond to these incessant but worthless posts has annoyed many LL patients to the point that they no longer feel like logging on and posting.

It feels good to interact online with other intellectual, intelligent, and serious people in order to discuss the issues associated with LL, especially since these topics aren't broached much in life outside this forum, but when LL patients feel as though they're mostly talking to a bunch of 12 year olds, then I can understand why they might feel a bit appalled by the forum and lose the desire to participate.

Taller, you wrote that you were beginning to overcome your height insecurities. Are you still planning to do the surgery?

Anyway I hope you're wrong about people leaving because of immature posters but I would lie if I said I haven't thought the same thing. What we really need is mature, well-prepared people who continue to update their diary till the end and are active in other threads by sharing their knowledge and experience.

There are mainly 2 reasons for that.

The first is that only a small part of people who do LL will actually write a diary, mainly because of privacy reasons (the guy who did LL in South Africa deleted his diary because of this I think). That was also the main concern of mine and that's why I didn't write a diary, because you don't really want anyone to know that you did LL, so posting pictures, telling where you're from, who's your doctor and so is a dumb idea.

The second reason is that the majority of this forums are morons. I tried to give advice but instead of being thankful or whatsoever you get called an idiot and they claim to know better, so why should I even try to help these kind of people? But I guess everyone who actually does this is kinda fked up in their head, including me, but a lot of people totally fked up. You have a guy with Aspergers, someone who claims to be a genius, a lot of aggressive guys and so on. I would never in my life talk to such people in real life, but that's just how forums work.

Also the moderators and admins kinda suck, but that's a whole other story.

123 You should make a thread where you line up your advice and information so we've got it. It would be sad if what you know was lost just because people didn't listen. Of course you should also tell us where you learned of it and link sources if possible.

I agree that a lot of people on here are strange though and when I read stuff like passive-agressive threads about women, weird discussions about being "alpha" ,that would fit right in on 4chan or the MISC, and topics on everything from sperm samples (!) to people talking about theoretical procedures -then I too feel this isn't a serious website about surgery but more of a playground for short social outcasts.

I know I sound harsh but if we want this forum to continue having merit we need stronger norms about etiquette, i.e no insults, not going too much off topic (even in the off topic section), more emphasis on facts and less on opinion and more focus on actual limb-lenghtening rather than the perils of being short.

Or, let me offer you an even easier explanation:
1. LL is a rare, expensive, dangerous, painful (etc) procedure, for this reason you won't ever see any LL forum get very popular.
2. There's not a single reason for someone who has completed his LL journey to stay attached to the forums.
3. Every single LL question/problem has been already discussed a thousand times.

Exclide
1-Fair enough, I suppose the number of users fluctuates. Still worrisome that the quality of discussion has decreased.
2-True, only his sense of altruism and maybe they too might need advice even after the surgery.
3-Highly doubtful and there is always new issues that arise.

I agree that the moderators need to do a better job.  I don't mind the off topic threads.  The problem I have is with some of the rude people.  Especially the new ones and the young ones who act like they know everything and they talk  .

The moderators need to do a better job handling these people.  If I had to deal with their rude posts while doing LL I would quit the forum too.  I totally understand why Leechlet and others quit the forum.

there are 2 main issues

1-new guys never listen to those that have had the surgery, so why bother

2- some of these threads are inane... the alpha male threads in particular

Quote from: crimsontide on February 08, 2015, 08:29:19 PM