Feeling like a child trapped in a man's body

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Posted on Apr 1, 2014, 8:42 pm

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Quote from: TheRisingShorty on April 01, 2014, 03:00:23 PMHey Hendrix! Just wondering if you have depression in general or is it mainly related to your height? If it is height related (height neurosis) then LL may very well be the solution. If it's general, then I believe that LL will exacerbate your depression. It would be wise to get that checked out and sorted by a doctor before doing LL. I rarely go outside too these days but this is due to my height neurosis and wearing lifts hurts alot!

The funny thing is, I actually don't go out much nowadays HUGELY because I don't think I can feel comfortable (mentally) without wearing shoe lifts but they make me feel stupid so I'd rather just avoid going out all together. One of the reasons I don't hang out with my friends is because I am constantly worrying about whether they will find out I am wearing lifts or that they already know and I am just being naive in thinking I could fool people.

I know if I was taller I would go out way more no doubt. I am not one to just find another thing to be depressed about after I fix one problem. I am actually a pretty positive person aside from my height.

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Posted on Apr 1, 2014, 10:39 pm

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Hendrix,

I totally understand how you feel, I've been there myself. At 5'5 in the US, I didn't feel like a man. Now, after LL, and almost at 5'8, I know that I won't care if I'm still the shortest guy in the room/club/wherever. LL has changed my mental attitude, the way I look at things. I finally feel like myself now, after so many years I occupy a body I truly belong into. Why am I telling this to you? Firstly, I believe you when you say that you're a positive person other than your height and if you were taller, everything would be okay with your life. That's true - after LL, everything is now okay with my life, regardless of what my final height is. It's the "going through" part, and not really the "added centimeters" that makes you content and satisfied at last. However, I made a mistake when I was at your age (I'm 23 now). I let myself worry about height 24/7, I read forums every day, didn't want to go to classes or go outside at night, and although I occasionally did, everything went bad after a few drinks - me going back home or to the dorm alone, depressed at my height, feeling sorry for myself. First of all, you need to try to fix this attitude before LL. I know it's easier said than done, but imagine LL didn't exist. You do find a sense of community and support in internet forums but I wish I hung out less in forums and more with friends when I was at your age and in college. You have two choices, either you can get LL immediately if you're working or if you can convince your parents to help you out (if there is such an availability), or you should try to stop worrying about your height until you're finally able to do LL. I wish I didn't waste my years when I was 18. Please don't do the same thing to yourself and go outside, try to enjoy life as best as you can.

By the way, what do you mean by "I still can't drive"? Come on man, that's completely unrelated to your height. You can learn how to drive anytime. And did you mean "Feeling like a MAN trapped in a child's body"? Because that makes more sense, lol. You're a man, feel like one! Go to the gym, try working out, it will do wonders for your psychology!

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Hendrix,

I totally understand how you feel, I've been there myself. At 5'5 in the US, I didn't feel like a man. Now, after LL, and almost at 5'8, I know that I won't care if I'm still the shortest guy in the room/club/wherever. LL has changed my mental attitude, the way I look at things. I finally feel like myself now, after so many years I occupy a body I truly belong into. Why am I telling this to you? Firstly, I believe you when you say that you're a positive person other than your height and if you were taller, everything would be okay with your life. That's true - after LL, everything is now okay with my life, regardless of what my final height is. It's the "going through" part, and not really the "added centimeters" that makes you content and satisfied at last. However, I made a mistake when I was at your age (I'm 23 now). I let myself worry about height 24/7, I read forums every day, didn't want to go to classes or go outside at night, and although I occasionally did, everything went bad after a few drinks - me going back home or to the dorm alone, depressed at my height, feeling sorry for myself. First of all, you need to try to fix this attitude before LL. I know it's easier said than done, but imagine LL didn't exist. You do find a sense of community and support in internet forums but I wish I hung out less in forums and more with friends when I was at your age and in college. You have two choices, either you can get LL immediately if you're working or if you can convince your parents to help you out (if there is such an availability), or you should try to stop worrying about your height until you're finally able to do LL. I wish I didn't waste my years when I was 18. Please don't do the same thing to yourself and go outside, try to enjoy life as best as you can.

By the way, what do you mean by "I still can't drive"? Come on man, that's completely unrelated to your height. You can learn how to drive anytime. And did you mean "Feeling like a MAN trapped in a child's body"? Because that makes more sense, lol. You're a man, feel like one! Go to the gym, try working out, it will do wonders for your psychology!

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Posted on Apr 2, 2014, 12:46 am

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Quote from: ChrisIsaak on April 01, 2014, 10:39:04 PMHendrix,

I totally understand how you feel, I've been there myself. At 5'5 in the US, I didn't feel like a man. Now, after LL, and almost at 5'8, I know that I won't care if I'm still the shortest guy in the room/club/wherever. LL has changed my mental attitude, the way I look at things. I finally feel like myself now, after so many years I occupy a body I truly belong into. Why am I telling this to you? Firstly, I believe you when you say that you're a positive person other than your height and if you were taller, everything would be okay with your life. That's true - after LL, everything is now okay with my life, regardless of what my final height is. It's the "going through" part, and not really the "added centimeters" that makes you content and satisfied at last. However, I made a mistake when I was at your age (I'm 23 now). I let myself worry about height 24/7, I read forums every day, didn't want to go to classes or go outside at night, and although I occasionally did, everything went bad after a few drinks - me going back home or to the dorm alone, depressed at my height, feeling sorry for myself. First of all, you need to try to fix this attitude before LL. I know it's easier said than done, but imagine LL didn't exist. You do find a sense of community and support in internet forums but I wish I hung out less in forums and more with friends when I was at your age and in college. You have two choices, either you can get LL immediately if you're working or if you can convince your parents to help you out (if there is such an availability), or you should try to stop worrying about your height until you're finally able to do LL. I wish I didn't waste my years when I was 18. Please don't do the same thing to yourself and go outside, try to enjoy life as best as you can.

By the way, what do you mean by "I still can't drive"? Come on man, that's completely unrelated to your height. You can learn how to drive anytime. And did you mean "Feeling like a MAN trapped in a child's body"? Because that makes more sense, lol. You're a man, feel like one! Go to the gym, try working out, it will do wonders for your psychology!

Dude you are so right. I actually did finally realize I wasn't enjoying my life but the thing is, it is hard just to forget about my height and enjoy life. For example, I was chatting to this girl online and we were hitting it off and we had SO much in common. Like it was ridiculous how much we had in common. She was also very attractive, I mean like 10/10 but also with a really kind personality, not full of herself. Then after a few months she randomly asks me "I know this may seem like a weird question, but how tall are you". My heart sunk. I told her the truth and her interest slowly faded away. I can't help but feel unsatisfied with my height. Plus I'm afraid it will make a bitter person and I don't want to be that. So when I go outside to "try" and enjoy life without having LL already, it is hard to truly just forget about although you are in no doubt right that it is a waste a time to constantly stressing about height.

Here is where the guitar comes in. I have been learning the guitar for 8 months on and off and got a teacher within the last month. I have been devoting my time to this instead of focusing on my hardships and now I am starting to feel a lot better. I am actually getting pretty good and enjoying it but I doubt I would ever play in front of people or for people. I'm too shy.

Haha, and you are right, I know my height has nothing to do with driving. It's just that I go to school online and have never really had to driver before or take a driving test. It was optional, it has nothing to do with my height but it further contributes to me feeling like a child. When I say child trapped in a man's body I mean like I feel like a child "mentally". Like outside I am 18 to people, but in my head I am like 14 years old. I mean I know 18 is still young but I just feel a lot less mature than I feel I should be.

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Quote from: ChrisIsaak on April 01, 2014, 10:39:04 PMHendrix,

I totally understand how you feel, I've been there myself. At 5'5 in the US, I didn't feel like a man. Now, after LL, and almost at 5'8, I know that I won't care if I'm still the shortest guy in the room/club/wherever. LL has changed my mental attitude, the way I look at things. I finally feel like myself now, after so many years I occupy a body I truly belong into. Why am I telling this to you? Firstly, I believe you when you say that you're a positive person other than your height and if you were taller, everything would be okay with your life. That's true - after LL, everything is now okay with my life, regardless of what my final height is. It's the "going through" part, and not really the "added centimeters" that makes you content and satisfied at last. However, I made a mistake when I was at your age (I'm 23 now). I let myself worry about height 24/7, I read forums every day, didn't want to go to classes or go outside at night, and although I occasionally did, everything went bad after a few drinks - me going back home or to the dorm alone, depressed at my height, feeling sorry for myself. First of all, you need to try to fix this attitude before LL. I know it's easier said than done, but imagine LL didn't exist. You do find a sense of community and support in internet forums but I wish I hung out less in forums and more with friends when I was at your age and in college. You have two choices, either you can get LL immediately if you're working or if you can convince your parents to help you out (if there is such an availability), or you should try to stop worrying about your height until you're finally able to do LL. I wish I didn't waste my years when I was 18. Please don't do the same thing to yourself and go outside, try to enjoy life as best as you can.

By the way, what do you mean by "I still can't drive"? Come on man, that's completely unrelated to your height. You can learn how to drive anytime. And did you mean "Feeling like a MAN trapped in a child's body"? Because that makes more sense, lol. You're a man, feel like one! Go to the gym, try working out, it will do wonders for your psychology!

Dude you are so right. I actually did finally realize I wasn't enjoying my life but the thing is, it is hard just to forget about my height and enjoy life. For example, I was chatting to this girl online and we were hitting it off and we had SO much in common. Like it was ridiculous how much we had in common. She was also very attractive, I mean like 10/10 but also with a really kind personality, not full of herself. Then after a few months she randomly asks me "I know this may seem like a weird question, but how tall are you". My heart sunk. I told her the truth and her interest slowly faded away. I can't help but feel unsatisfied with my height. Plus I'm afraid it will make a bitter person and I don't want to be that. So when I go outside to "try" and enjoy life without having LL already, it is hard to truly just forget about although you are in no doubt right that it is a waste a time to constantly stressing about height.

Here is where the guitar comes in. I have been learning the guitar for 8 months on and off and got a teacher within the last month. I have been devoting my time to this instead of focusing on my hardships and now I am starting to feel a lot better. I am actually getting pretty good and enjoying it but I doubt I would ever play in front of people or for people. I'm too shy.

Haha, and you are right, I know my height has nothing to do with driving. It's just that I go to school online and have never really had to driver before or take a driving test. It was optional, it has nothing to do with my height but it further contributes to me feeling like a child. When I say child trapped in a man's body I mean like I feel like a child "mentally". Like outside I am 18 to people, but in my head I am like 14 years old. I mean I know 18 is still young but I just feel a lot less mature than I feel I should be.

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