Femurs too long - advice needed

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After being obsessed with reaching my new height goal I totally missed something very obvious, my femurs are now much longer than my tibias which is a problem as I am keeping this procedure a secret from my family and friends, I'm pretty sure they will notice the difference right away when I sit down. I used to wear lifts so they never knew my actual height. I am considering reducing the length of my femurs, the only worry I have is that I stopped lengthening two weeks ago, I'm afraid that stretching then compressing might damage nerves etc. although my doctor says it shouldn't be a problem. Has anyone else reduced length after stopping for so long? Any advice would be much appreciated, I really don't know what to do here.

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How far did you lengthen?

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Almost 6cm

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What is your original height and femur tibia ratio now?

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About 5'7. Not sure what exact ratio is but when I sit down my femurs are noticeably much longer, also my knees appear much closer to the ground when standing. I guess my main concern is causing potential nerve damage etc if I were to reduce length after stopping for two weeks.

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I'm sure it isn't that bad man. Are your family and friends very observant and detail oriented? In my case, I lengthened my femurs 8 cm and while I can tell my femurs are quite long relative to my tibias, especially when sitting down, I doubt anyone would really take notice. Bodies come in so many different shapes and sizes, just look at Conan O'Brien and The Rock, two people of similar height with completely different leg length and torso length ratios.

At one point during my lengthening, I had the same insecurities about my femur/tibia ratio that you're having. Then I realized that I was just trading one form of body dysphoria (height) for another form of body dysphoria (femur / tibia ratio).  I had to just embrace how happy I am with the added height and that the never ending desire and obsession for perfection is more harmful than it is good so I put any thought around ratios to rest.

Even if they did notice your femurs were long, what's the worst that can happen? They stare, they ask a question, maybe they even find out about your LL, in the end what other people say or do doesn't matter, what matters is how you feel about yourself and if you are overjoyed about being 6 cm taller then embrace that.

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Thanks Alchemist, appreciate the feedback. You're exactly right, I feel like I've suddenly traded off my height neurosis for a fear of what people will think if they find out. I don't really care about proportions if my legs were always this way, it's just the noticeable difference they are now. It would be constant ball busting from my friends if they found out, even if I denied it I'd be paranoid with them just staring at my legs, I wish I didn't give a sh#t but sadly I do, those mental games just bug me. I'm not sure what to do, I'm sort of considering reducing by 1cm and wear bigger soled shoes to make the femurs less obvious. I think my biggest fear at this point is potentially causing some sort of internal damage by compressing the nerves after stretching.

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The doctor said it would be fine.  People get leg shortening surgery and are fine.  I don't think it's a bad plan to reverse direction a little bit.

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Most likely only noticeable for you, take some picture and post them on the forum.

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Quote from: Nestor on February 01, 2020, 03:13:55 PMThanks Alchemist, appreciate the feedback. You're exactly right, I feel like I've suddenly traded off my height neurosis for a fear of what people will think if they find out. I don't really care about proportions if my legs were always this way, it's just the noticeable difference they are now. It would be constant ball busting from my friends if they found out, even if I denied it I'd be paranoid with them just staring at my legs, I wish I didn't give a sh#t but sadly I do, those mental games just bug me. I'm not sure what to do, I'm sort of considering reducing by 1cm and wear bigger soled shoes to make the femurs less obvious. I think my biggest fear at this point is potentially causing some sort of internal damage by compressing the nerves after stretching.

I see. At this stage would the doctor have to rebreak to start reversing or is no surgery required?