Quote from: TheDream on October 17, 2022, 07:36:27 PMHow did he find out?
Most people know and it’s tough to hide. It’s a drastic difference.
Simple - Blocked him for your life
No one is indispensable in this word!
You dun her or him to survive.
You should be happy and know how yourself feel when walk in the street.
You are not short anymore but average or taller
Go and meet more new friends, stop whining with such a small issue.
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Quote from: E Z on October 17, 2022, 07:15:03 PMHe does it in a “fun nature” but it does bother me a bit, and I want to combat this somehow instead of hiding it. What are some good ways to punch back?
If he is a close friend I would pull him aside and have a serious chat to explain to him/remind him why you did it, that your body image issues were causing you enough stress that you decided to do a risky and extremely painful procedure and recovery to overcome it. Tell him that even if his jokes are well meaning, it damages your self esteem to have it brought up. New friends, peers, romantic partners, and strangers will not notice unless you disclose it, and it is important for you to be able to trust your current friends to keep it that way. If he scoffs at that or otherwise does not take you seriously when you tell him how damaging it is to your self esteem to joke about, I would consider cutting him out of your life. As a friend that you’ve disclosed your procedure to, he should be helping you move on, and not holding you back.
Also, your pre-op height is close to mine, I’m wondering what kind of changes you’ve noticed in the way strangers/women/new friends and coworkers treat you? I’ve heard a lot of general accounts from post-LL guys that their lives are better, but don’t have a ton of specific examples of how they’ve noticed others treat them differently now that they are taller.
This is why I didn’t tell anyone. If anyone asks I just pretend idk what they’re talking about and if they bring it up more they’ll just feel awkward themselves.
thats why its paramount to guard this secret with your life. otherwise you risk social suicide
guys on here bragging about "just tell everyone bro" are coping hard. the effects of their negligence will take years to manifest but it will be disastrous
TELL NOONE
This is why I have a 'I dont give a fck' mentality. It takes time but I really advise to get less sensitive about these things, if it bothers you tell him and if he really cares he will accept it otherwise its not your friend. Like you can listen to this dude saying 'guard the secret with your life' cause I am not saying tell everyone but a few close people shouldnt feel that bad. Just dont be overdramatic about it like if its not in public a few jokes shouldnt be that bad.
I had discussed height topic with several people and actually taller men were more understanding then short men. What I mean is that there will always be people ready to judge you whatever you do or dont do but in the end most people dont really care so you shouldnt focus too much on other people.
Listen to this guy.
Keep the surgery a secret. Tell nobody. Before you do it, wear lifts/slippers at home.
When you come back home, wear shoes without heels - if your recovery permits.
Before you do it, grow out your hair ...
After, trim it down.
Transition slowly so nobody really notices.
If you lengthen less than 7cm...you're going to obviously look a lot taller, but you can mitigate this / pass it off as. yoga and stretching if you do the above.
If you're skinny and put on muscle...that can throw them off too.
It just sucks when you have a benchmark in the family. Like everyone knows Im shorter than my dad for instance. Its been said verbally. Now all of a sudden Ill be taller than him even with no shoes at all. Thats hard to hide even though Im only doing 5cm. If you're way off heights with your dad (the person most on here are closest in height to) you are super lucky and this is much easier to hide.
But I agree to tell nobody, its just going to be a headache. If people notice and call you out handle it one by one.
For the record I dont think this surgery is something shameful or something that deserves to be hidden. Its just that it's so much energy and annoying to explain to everyone.
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