Quote from: DoingItForMe on June 12, 2016, 04:52:18 AMPain killers definitely killed my sex drive. So during lengthening, I wouldn't count on having a good sex drive at all. Having level 8-10 pain in your legs doesn't help either. This is month 0-3. Even masturbating is hard at this point.
During consolidation (month 4-6), your life is consumed by recovery and learning how to cope at home without working legs. This kind of kills your sex drive, too. But since you've stopped taking meds, it's much better. It's just too painful to be having sex, because your legs still hurt due to the lack of flexibility. Masturbation is fine, because you just sit there and your legs don't have to flex.
After consolidation, your sex drive is back, and you can masturbating several times a day if you want. But sex is not the same. For example, prior to LL, I used to never get soft during sex and before cumming. Now, I tend to get soft after a while - like past 15 minutes. I've been studying this for a while, and it appears to be physical. The angle that I'm hitting the girl's vagina is different now. With a longer femur, I'm about an inch or two higher than I was before. Because the angle is different, the vagina is not rubbing my penis in the right way. Without the necessary friction, it makes sex harder. This means that you have to relearn how to angle the girl to get a good friction going. This is even harder when you have a condom on that desensitizes things. And if she's not giving you the right angles, then you get soft. And once you get soft, you get performance anxiety and that just makes it worse. So a physical sex drive killer becomes a psychological sx drive killer. Both of these can be fixed.
My best recommendation: 1) Put pillows under the girl to make up for your longer femurs. 2) If you're hitting it from behind, get her to put her ass up and arch her back. After I figured that out, my sex drive returned. You just have to have a sex partner willing to listen to your commands, because you're going to have to adjust her to fit your new angles, since you physically can't get to those angles without her help. A part of me thinks that short guys have better sex.
Well, the first 3 Months you talk of, they have nothing specifically to do with LL. Even I, at times, haven't had erection for quite a few days when under stress. About the second phase, would you say positions like cowgirl and reserve cowgirl would be doable?
About post-consolidation phase, now that's interesting. You speak of going soft, let me share this recent experience of mine; So, I've a very high sexual drive, have had sex upto 5 times a day with a former girlfriend of 3 years, can do 3-4 almost any given day. But after breaking up with her, I'm avoiding relationships altogether hence shorter sexual encounters. Now the interesting thing is, I only started using condom after I broke up with my ex-girlfriend and the first few months, I wouldn't get an erection with a condom but just recently, I seem be doing fine with erection, but the problem is, I'd go soft after 15-20 minutes, something that never happened when I'd have sex without condom with my ex. So that got me wondering if going soft is purely physical.
