Hi there,
I've been roaming this site for a while. I just made an account, because it's only recently I've seriously been considering actually going ahead with LL. I'm 20 and I'm Scandinavian. I'm 5'9(1,75) and my dream height is 6'1(1,85) bare with me and these conversions.
Now I'm still very new to this entire thing, and I still don't know all the terms and I need to do a whole lot of research before going ahead with this entire process. However, I have been talking to my family about it and they think it's silly but they'll always support me regardless. The issue is my girlfriend. We're the same height, which I honestly find to be a bit emasculating. I told her about LL and showed her a few posts and she got extremely angry. She thinks I'll end up looking like a freak and she keeps reiterating that "Supermodels are taller than their husbands" And keeps sending me pictures of Victoria's secret models and their boyfriends ?? Lol
She also asked me if I was looking to get the surgery in order to become more popular with the ladies, and it truthfully isn't, I'd just like to feel more masculine. She's not very happy to say the least and it's definitely put a strain on our relationship.
My half brother is extremely tall compared to me, we're talking roughly 6'4 but he's very "nerdy" and lanky and my girlfriend keeps saying "You think I'd be into Mads?" And it's true, but the kind of tall I'd be would obviously be more athletic and not lanky like my older brother.
Anyway I'm excited to be a part of this community and hearing about you guys and your journey.
Has anyone experience resistance from you SO? If so, how do I go about handling it?
Thanks for the input, I'm still very new to this whole thing and the entire process, so I haven't made up my mind. I have been insecure about this for years though, and although I love my girlfriend I also feel I would be a better partner if I were to be taller.
Quote from: taller_in_Kiev on August 10, 2018, 02:39:16 PMHow would you be a better partner? If she's saying no, you respecting her wish would mean more to her. Seriously dude, at 175cm, you are not short, far too young and LL doesn't come cheap. I don't know what your financial situation is, but as a young couple, that money can be used in much better ways! Go, travel the world with her or put a deposit on a house.
I guess in terms of feeling more confident and masculine. You do bring up some valid points though, which I appreciate. I guess I just need to change my attitude. I do think it's sexy having a tall girlfriend and I don't necessarily mind that she's taller than me when wearing heels, I just wish I was taller myself. It's weird when we're around actual tall dudes. Well weird for me anyway.
Quote from: Racurz on August 10, 2018, 01:31:48 PMThe problem is that as I’ve found out on this forum people will criticise you for wanting LL at 5’9 mainly because that’s the dream height for people on this site but in saying that I’m in a similar boat I have 3 brothers all in the 6’2-6’4 region and two sisters at 5’8-5’9 I’m 5’10 btw so I know how you feel, honestly I say what ever makes you happy you should go for you only live once so do what you want unfortunately not a lot on this forum will support you because of your current height
And yeah that's a good point as well. It sucks having such a tall brother and not benefitting from the height when we share some of the same DNA, but he has some other shortcomings I thankfully don't have. Idk man, it's a hard call.
Quote from: hanshi on August 10, 2018, 03:34:34 PMMan, listen to your girlfriend. Women have a much better intuition than men when it comes to dangers. To tell you the truth, LL is crap. I have seen many people who ended up with permanent damage. Also, LL is really degrading and that's why almost nobody who has done it will tell others about it.
Another problem is that LL is performed by doctors. Doctors refuse any liability in case something bad happens. I guess LL would be much safer if it was offered by private companies who have some liability towards their customers. With LL doctors it's very different. They all seem very nice before you have handed over your money to them but afterwards you won't be treated as a customer but rather an annoyance. And most LL doctors despise their LL patients. For them you are only interesting as long as they can get more money from you.
Also: be very sceptical of positive reviews on the forums. Most patients are afraid to write something negative since they are at the mercy of those doctors.
Therefore forget about LL and don't waste your precious time and money. Learn a new skill or travel around the world instead.
Wow really? Like I said, I'm somewhat new. I don't know if one is allowed to mention other websites/forums, but I was only able to find 2 "Horror stories" about LL on another site, so I figured it was a rarity and somewhat safe in 2018. No?
But yeah, maybe the risk isn't worth it. My girlfriend also goes on these rants of "You just need to unlearn the societal standards and pressures ..." But it's just hard when you're genuinely insecure about something you can't easily change.
I'll have to do some serious research and thinking. There must be some ridiculously expensive doctors though, where things rarely go wrong.
Quote from: TallerDream on August 10, 2018, 04:01:37 PMIf you really want this at least make sure you can afford the best doctors like Paley and whatnot which is really expensive, it will take a lot of yeara to save up that kind of money.
Regarding your girlfriend appreciate the concern she has on you, it demonstrates how she likes and cares about you.
It also demonstrates she is not shallow and that it doesn’t bother her that you’re not taller than her. She likes you for who you are and that’s the kind of girl you should want to be with.
Plus only LLers believe good looking girls only date 6’3+ men, some women they don’t give a damn about height, like your girlfriend.
Even recently I started to talk with a Brazilian chick, she’s literally a 9 and she likes me despite being almost as tall as myself, she’s 5’7 and I am 5’9 but she uses heels A LOT so most of the time she’s like 5’11... and it doesn’t bother her if I look shorter than her when wearing them.
If you do this, do it because you would genuinely like to see yourself taller and would increase your self-love. This should be an investment on your happiness and self esteem. Don’t do it because society respect taller men more. fk our hypocritical society
Haha you sound a lot like my gf. But you're right, I guess no matter what we can all get laid despite our height. I do love my girlfriend a lot, she's a 10 to me and me considering LL is definitely not to attract more women. I just think it would help me feel better about myself and my masculinity if that makes sense. But you're right in many respects, thank you for the perspective man. I also want to make sure I'm not overly fixated on my height. There are other things I could do, that would make me feel more manly I think, like growing out my beard. Idk.
Quote from: hanshi on August 10, 2018, 04:09:48 PMAs already mentioned, doctors don't assume any liabilities in case something bad happens. This has nothing to do with money. You won't be safer just because your doctor puts more money in his pocket. Ethical doctors don't perform cosmetic LL, therefore you end up with only the worst of the worst. Many of them are psychopaths. Be warned.
Wow, can you explain this further? I thought LL was somewhat accepted in the medical field no?
Thank all of you for your input! I still haven't made up my mind, I imagine it's a long thinking process since it can be life altering. I've thought about it a lot, and I'm currently leaning towards no if I'm being honest. I'm 1,75 and though I'm on the shorter side, there's plenty of guys my height that can pull it off and I do after all have a pretty beautiful and loving girlfriend who doesn't mind. So ... Yeah there's that. I'll still be roaming this forum because I haven't totally decided but a lot of you guys truly bring up some good points.
My girlfriend suggested I could do other things that'll make me feel better, such as finding a sport, so I'll try that out.
6feet2istooshort: I just view relationships and certainly women very differently.... So emh
Quote from: taller_in_Kiev on August 12, 2018, 03:24:29 PMWtf?
Just ignore this 6'2 is too short fella!! Serious non height related issues there imo!!
Scandidude, why are you even here. Even if you were to do LL, you don't even have the money yet. Just go and enjoy life with your very sensible and I'm sure attractive (as most Scandinavian girls are) gf. Don't be wasting another minute of your time here
Thank you. I'm still lurking, but ultimately I'd probably never end up doing LL. Many of you guys are right 1,75 isn't terrible, I think the issues is within me, so I'll work towards fixing that ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Thanks for your input! It's much appreciated.
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