[Serious] Please give me reasons to give to my employer

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Quote from: Medium Drink Of Water on May 12, 2021, 02:14:47 PMGo to a psychiatrist and say you're so depressed/anxious that you can't work, or that you were abusing drugs but now you want to stop and need help dealing with withdrawl.  Get a note from that doctor.  That's the one type of doctor you don't need to show physical proof of an illness to.

Although your teammates and manager who're you're really close to might wonder how going away for 8 months for drug treatment made you so much taller.

So my company would learn that I need to be away for 8 months for some psychiatric treatment. That's the last impression I want anyone to have of me.

Aren't there any non medical reasons one could use?

I used to wear shoe lifts. I will go back without the lifts. I have no concerns about the height change.

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Even if you convince HR, won't your team know once you come back to the office? (Since you're the only one who switched to WFH temporarily) If your whole company was WFH and then everyone came back around the same time, then it might be easier to get away with it, but if you're the only one who took leave then it will be trickier to avoid questions about the change in your physical appearance as well. I'm just thinking that whatever story you come up with is going to have to be consistent since your coworkers might accidentally say something to HR as well.

But yeah, the HR thing is BS and I'm glad I did this during the pandemic so I didn't have to take leave. If I'm forced to go back into the office more than 40% of the time after the pandemic, I'm going to switch to a permanent remote job.

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Quote from: BelowTheMean on May 12, 2021, 03:11:30 PMEven if you convince HR, won't your team know once you come back to the office? (Since you're the only one who switched to WFH temporarily) If your whole company was WFH and then everyone came back around the same time, then it might be easier to get away with it, but if you're the only one who took leave then it will be trickier to avoid questions about the change in your physical appearance as well. I'm just thinking that whatever story you come up with is going to have to be consistent since your coworkers might accidentally say something to HR as well.

But yeah, the HR thing is BS and I'm glad I did this during the pandemic so I didn't have to take leave. If I'm forced to go back into the office more than 40% of the time after the pandemic, I'm going to switch to a permanent remote job.

Honestly I am not worried about people noticing my height change. I have been wearing shoe lifts all along and will remove them after LL. If it is a big concern I will stay a little aloof and not get into office chitchat so people don't talk about me like I'm their buddy.

I wish I had done it before, but they removed Stryde when I was about to. I kept waiting indecisively but now I realize it's not coming anytime soon. It sucks all the more because with Stryde I could have gone back in just 4-5 months if I lengthened conservatively.

Looks like I'll just have to tell them "sorry it's a personal matter, I'm going to have to quit if my request isn't fulfilled" and stay unemployed for 8 months. I doubt they will even take me back later if I leave like this.

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A lot of the famous doctors have other doctors that they will be training, you might be under the care of them and their name might be what goes on documentation if you ask for it.

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Hey dude...If I were you, I would wait for Stryde to come back, and it WILL.  It will also be safer and better than ever.  Don't settle for being wheelchair-bound for 8 months when you can just wait a little longer and have access to Stryde and be back in 3 months.  Just my thoughts. 

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Quote from: HeightGain on May 12, 2021, 05:08:48 PMA lot of the famous doctors have other doctors that they will be training, you might be under the care of them and their name might be what goes on documentation if you ask for it.

This is good advice but it's not applicable to many. Take Paley for example. If you get the letter from Robbins, it's still going to be on the Paley institute letterhead and there is no way they would hide the true procedure performed.

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Quote from: AllinStryde on May 12, 2021, 06:02:11 PMHey dude...If I were you, I would wait for Stryde to come back, and it WILL.  It will also be safer and better than ever.  Don't settle for being wheelchair-bound for 8 months when you can just wait a little longer and have access to Stryde and be back in 3 months.  Just my thoughts.

Hey, yeah I read all these Stryde diaries and can't help but feel jealous of how easy they have it. But if they launch a new version of the nail will I be happy being one of the first ones to use it? Nope. If they determine that the nail was perfectly safe as it was, then I wouldn't mind using it. It has been months since the recall and unfortunately we have not had any information about what is going on. You gave me a glimmer of hope but I think we'll just end up wasting precious youth waiting for it That said, I do get shivers thinking about the Precice experience too. Can't win

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Quote from: private_ll on May 12, 2021, 07:07:12 PMBut if they launch a new version of the nail will I be happy being one of the first ones to use it? Nope.

You say that, but I think in reality you and everyone else would definitely use it if it meant not having to go 5 months in wheelchair 

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You mentioned HR being involved.  You should make it very clear that this is something that is confidential and that you don’t want anyone beyond HR knowing about it.  Maybe even speak to counsel about it to get some legal ideas (don’t show up to work saying you have a lawyer obviously) on secrecy within HR.  At the end of the day, if HR spreads the rumor, you need to make sure there’s skin in the game and someone loses their job over it.  That tends to be the easiest way to prevent malice on the part of any individual actor.

I am not a lawyer but that’s my opinion.  Plus then you don’t have to lie to your company.

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Quote from: HobbitMan on May 12, 2021, 07:41:36 PMYou mentioned HR being involved.  You should make it very clear that this is something that is confidential and that you don’t want anyone beyond HR knowing about it.  Maybe even speak to counsel about it to get some legal ideas (don’t show up to work saying you have a lawyer obviously) on secrecy within HR.  At the end of the day, if HR spreads the rumor, you need to make sure there’s skin in the game and someone loses their job over it.  That tends to be the easiest way to prevent malice on the part of any individual actor.

I am not a lawyer but that’s my opinion.  Plus then you don’t have to lie to your company.

Nah man. HR is just people. They gossip like everyone. It's legally impossible to trace who leaked it outside if it happens verbally.