Someone not arguing with you about your BS is not the same thing as them believing it and not mentioning it to other people behind your back.
Quote from: frenchie on June 03, 2020, 06:31:34 AMIf you don't ever bring up your height insecurity or thoughts of LL no one will really guess, at least for small amounts up to 3 inches. But if you ever tell someone about your height issues or plans of surgery they WILL know you went ahead and did it. Telling people about it never really helps anyway. Unless you're taking someone's help for surgery (money for example) they do not need to know.
Agreed. In hindsight I'm glad I didn't really open up about my height insecurities as I've been able to resolve them through LL. I sometimes wonder what life what would be like if I addressed and resolved height neurosis without LL (e.g. through therapy or support from friends) but I'm so happy with the outcome I have no regrets.
Quote from: Medium Drink Of Water on June 03, 2020, 12:41:18 PMSomeone not arguing with you about your BS is not the same thing as them believing it and not mentioning it to other people behind your back.
True, I could see this being the case for my casual friends and acquantances. This specific friend is a very close friend of mine that I would call a brother, he will typically call me out on anything and everything and hold me accountable for all of my actions. We know about each other's darkest moments and insecurities (with the exception of height and LL). We care about each other and each other's families, we're that close. If he did suspect something beyond the lie I told him (which btw is the first time I've ever lied to him) he'd call me out on it on the spot so I think he believes the back problem explanation.
Quote from: TheAlchemist on June 03, 2020, 03:54:03 AMDefinitely confused but I don't think he suspected any kind of operation being involved. LL isn't mainstream enough and most people don't even know it's possible to get taller. I've also done a good job of hiding my insecurities from my friends and family (in hindsight probably wasn't good for my mental health) so most people see me as a confident, well adjusted guy who would never explore cosmetic surgery.
I think people register something very different about you but the thought of LL doesn't cross their mind so they have trouble reconciling the new you and the old you in their memory banks.
I think you and Frenchie are right. If people don’t know about your height insecurity, they won’t really suspect anything. It’s the fact that you’ll be different and as you’ve mentioned they will have trouble remember exactly how tall you were and perhaps just forget about it.
Confidence is key, before and after surgery 
Quote from: frenchie on June 03, 2020, 06:31:34 AMIf you don't ever bring up your height insecurity or thoughts of LL no one will really guess, at least for small amounts up to 3 inches. But if you ever tell someone about your height issues or plans of surgery they WILL know you went ahead and did it. Telling people about it never really helps anyway. Unless you're taking someone's help for surgery (money for example) they do not need to know.
Yeah I reckon the people closest may realise the 3 inch difference but they won’t give it much thought after asking the first time. Other people don’t care about height as much as people undergoing LL do, not even close!
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