I am a 28 year old male. My life has changed dramatically these last 6 months to the point where I can get the surgery done overseas next year.
I realize that I wont be able to be as athletic as I once was but thats ok. I dont like the way I look, especially in pictures. I legit look like a midget. This is how I feel. I measured myself yesterday and I am 5'8. In this picture, I am actually wearing 2 inch lifts and I still look short.
Heres a pic for reference. http://imgur.com/a/EMjE7
Main reason for doing this? To feel more confident and hopefully attract more girls. However, maybe my height isnt the issue, maybe it is. This is where your feedback is important to me. Also, I would appreciate it if you refrain from making any derogatory remarks. It takes a lot to post a picture and ask for help from internet strangers.
This is all I ask.
Thank you guys.
Quote from: Alu on July 05, 2017, 05:12:33 PMI'm going to throw my 2 cents into the mix here. 5'8 isn't tall, or that short. It may not even be average considering it's 1.5 inches below average... but lets face it, at that point you're just nitpicking at nothing. I highlighted parts of your comment that I feel reveal a lot. I don't know who you're comparing yourself too, but I can tell you that's almost never going to be the case. Even in this picture, which considering you're not even the shortest person, but among taller ones next the guy to your right, I legit struggle to see what the problem is. It's like you and I are living in different realities.
I feel like there's something else at work here. People here tend to hate hearing this, but go see a shrink first. Because as I highlighted in red, you seem to have a feeling it might not be height, and I think it's incredibly important to have all your doubts checked out first before even considering this surgery.
Quote from: YourSpaceBoyfriend on July 05, 2017, 05:12:18 PMIf you are the one that isn't censored(on the pictured u attached) and u feel like a midget than you should seek psychological help.
I just might. Like I said, I struggle with confidence and it partly has to do with women. Again, dont shoot me for being honest. But my mentality goes like this. The girls that I like, end up not liking me for one reason or another. The ones that do like me, I dont like and im not attracted to.
When this happens, I start analyzing myself. Maybe its my looks, maybe its my height, etc.
Why looks and height and not personality ? Well because I get told by everyone that I am easy to get along with, really cool, and smart. On top of that, compared to my peers im relatively successful. When you get told this, you obviously start looking for answers and start asking questions.
Am I going for models? Not even close. I am going for average women to slightly above average.
But lately, its not even about the women anymore. Its been a combination of getting woman's attention and being content with myself. On top of this, always looking to improve myself is at the top of the list.
Quote from: biggerdreams on July 05, 2017, 05:50:36 PMHonesty without tact is cruelty.
If you're not having luck with women now, you're not going to have luck with women because you're a couple inches taller. If dating is the major reason why you're considering this when you're being truly honest with yourself then you should reconsider it. Only you can answer this question. You say it's not about women but your entire posts are about women. Take some time to really think about it.
If you were in a relationship with a pretty girl that you really liked, would you still consider LL?
Nope. When I was dating it would never cross my mind. It's not until I started to learn about attractiveness that I came to realize how big of a role height plays when trying to attract most women
Quote from: YourSpaceBoyfriend on July 05, 2017, 10:00:21 PMI don't. I just answered with honesty to your honesty.
You look completly normal on this picture. Maybe i should show picture of me(im 5'5) with my 5'10-6'6 friends then mby you will see a difference.
And don't think about going to shrink like it's some kind of punishment, talking always helps.
Thanks man. And yeah I see nothing wrong with talking to a shrink
Quote from: IwannaBeTaller on July 05, 2017, 11:20:37 PMYou don't look short in the picture you posted. Seriously, you don't. And that's coming from a guy who's been struggling with height neurosis for many years now.
Quote from: TIBIKE200 on July 05, 2017, 11:32:14 PMFrankly dude, you look great from the pic
Quote from: Body Builder on July 05, 2017, 11:37:41 PMYves, from what I see I believe that your feet are somewhat short compared to your torso and that makes you seem shorter than what you really are.
I am less than an inch taller than you but due to my long tibias I appear much taller compared to you.
I really believe that LL will help you a lot, becoming about 5.11 from 5.8 will make miracles to how women see you and it will makenyour proportions much better, especially if you do tibias, no matter what people here said to you.
Of course that doesn't mean that you are gonna have every woman you want but it will make you feel better with yourself and women are always much more attracted to a more than average height man compared to a less than average.
So imo yes, you have reasons to do LL and it will improve your life significantly.
Thank you all for your feedback.
Do you guys think it be best to invest my money in making my face more attractive more so than getting taller?
In other words, out of these two which will benefit me the most? Improving facial aesthetics or improving height?
Also if I do femur will I still look short because of my short tibias?
Quote from: Jack1066 on July 06, 2017, 08:07:11 PMYou look taller than everyone else in that pic as far as I can see! Plus, you are quite a handsome guy. Don't be too worried, you look fine.
Quote from: onemorefoot on July 06, 2017, 05:09:09 AMYou dont look like a midget, if you analize the size of the other people in the picture( men), you look average, I also believe your trunk is large, good thing, becuase that means you can increase your height without looking strange. If you are a legit 173, just get done 1 ll, femurs better, as everyone here knows, external fixators, mainly Ilizarov, are a pain in the a!!
That's an interesting assessment because I definitely feel shorter than average. I get called short pretty often and constantly get called demeaning words such as 'buddy'.
I didn't think the word buddy was demeaning at all until I called someone taller than me buddy. His reaction?
Buddy? I'm taller than you. Don't call me buddy.
Quote from: LLSouthAmerica on July 08, 2017, 04:21:40 AMWhat an ahole. Stop hanging out with people like that.
Lol. Its coworkers not friends.
But its just an example of what slightly less than average height individuals go through.
Quote from: Lord Vader on July 08, 2017, 09:39:02 AMYou're perfectly in range of reaching 6 feet. You have short legs to begin with which is more than perfect. So adding those inches will make you more proportionate. Go for it!
Quote from: onemorefoot on July 08, 2017, 06:22:24 AMSome people tell you that you are short when you are taller than them!! The guys here that are very interested in dating can tell you how some brain dead women want only 6 2" guys.
Aesthetically speaking, does it make sense to lengthen tibias or femurs? Again I'm only doing 5 cm but I want to do the procedure that will give the illusion of me looking taller.
Quote from: Thatdude950 on July 08, 2017, 02:47:52 PMYou look really good. It's not height that's your problem, if you have one.
Are you living in a white country? It's always gonna be harder for minorities re: dating. A few inches won't help.
Yeah I live in the USA
Is it my looks then that are holding me back?
Quote from: Jack1066 on July 08, 2017, 06:10:31 PMIMO the race bias is as strong as the height bias or maybe stronger- when I look at people's online dating profiles they tend to stipulate that they want to date only white men even more often than they have a strong height barrier (like above 5'7" or 5'8").
But I've never dated women as a non-white guy... So I don't know.
Quote from: DoingItForMe on July 08, 2017, 07:49:51 PMDepends on the city. The more Asians there are in the city you live in, the more accepting interracial couples become. For example, if you are in L.A., Seattle, Houston, and NYC, I see a few white girls with Asian guys. But the bias is still there. I tend to find that the white girls who date me (an Asian guy) tend to have been exposed to Asians before - whether they had an Asian friend before or watch Asian movies/TV shows or listen to Asian music. Very rarely does a girl who's never been around Asian culture much will be willing to really date me. Maybe they'd try it, but they won't like me as much as if I were white instead. I think those white girls just look down on Asian guys and the feeling is similar to when a tall girl looks down on a short guy. The opposite is true for white guys with Asian girls, though. White guys WANT to look down on their Asian girlfriends - figuratively and literally. I see many tall white guys with short Asian girls. So so many.
Quote from: Thatdude950 on July 08, 2017, 05:45:42 PMNo- most white, Asian and black women are just gonna have a bias toward white men. Nothing to do with your height or how you generally look because you seem to be a good looking fella, but being a minority might make things a bit harder. That might not be the reason, I'm jus speculating. But I seriously doubt it's your height, to the extent that a few inches will make any difference at all.
So are all you guys going for white girls? I keep it exclusively to hispanic girls since Im hispanic and I still struggle.
You must be logged in to post a reply.