As the title says im struggling and being threatened by my father and my mother by persuing LL.
Im a very depressive person and i dont left my house for nothing, its been 10 years now. I decided myself to go through this procedure but my parents are threatening me, telling i am crazy and that if i one day i persue this I won't be their son anymore, they said they will dishonour me and wont recognize me as their son anymore. They also said they will do anything in their control to stop me of doing it. As a very depressive person, i need their support because i dont have the inner strenght to leave them and do this surgery alone, specially going foward on this surgery. I dont even go outside to buy things anymore. Im just an isolated animal highly depressive. Lately ive been building severe suicidal thoughts, and i keep wondering how much my parents love me to be okay with my current situation and not being supportive with something that could change my life entirely. The money itself is not a problem anymore, i have made alot of money in cryptobusiness and i have the money to persue this. I just wanted their comprehension and their support and thats make me very sad and even more depressive knowing they not only disrespect my decision but became opponents towards my decision.
I know that from outside most people will say that i should say "fk you" to them and persue my dreams on my own, but as a very depressive person i dont have the strenght to be in that position specially because i know the consequences they will make me go through. I feel totally trapped inside the situation im currently living in.
Being rejected by my own family by persuing LL
Find friends who will support you instead
Quote from: stressftw1 on February 15, 2022, 11:29:43 AMAs the title says im struggling and being threatened by my father and my mother by persuing LL.
Im a very depressive person and i dont left my house for nothing, its been 10 years now. I decided myself to go through this procedure but my parents are threatening me, telling i am crazy and that if i one day i persue this I won't be their son anymore, they said they will dishonour me and wont recognize me as their son anymore. They also said they will do anything in their control to stop me of doing it. As a very depressive person, i need their support because i dont have the inner strenght to leave them and do this surgery alone, specially going foward on this surgery. I dont even go outside to buy things anymore. Im just an isolated animal highly depressive. Lately ive been building severe suicidal thoughts, and i keep wondering how much my parents love me to be okay with my current situation and not being supportive with something that could change my life entirely. The money itself is not a problem anymore, i have made alot of money in cryptobusiness and i have the money to persue this. I just wanted their comprehension and their support and thats make me very sad and even more depressive knowing they not only disrespect my decision but became opponents towards my decision.
I know that from outside most people will say that i should say "fk you" to them and persue my dreams on my own, but as a very depressive person i dont have the strenght to be in that position specially because i know the consequences they will make me go through. I feel totally trapped inside the situation im currently living in.
My advice is that you should try to contact the surgeon who you want to choose for the surgery then ask your parents to talk to him. They might change their mind. How old are you?
Quote from: stressftw1 on February 15, 2022, 11:29:43 AMAs the title says im struggling and being threatened by my father and my mother by persuing LL.
Im a very depressive person and i dont left my house for nothing, its been 10 years now. I decided myself to go through this procedure but my parents are threatening me, telling i am crazy and that if i one day i persue this I won't be their son anymore, they said they will dishonour me and wont recognize me as their son anymore. They also said they will do anything in their control to stop me of doing it. As a very depressive person, i need their support because i dont have the inner strenght to leave them and do this surgery alone, specially going foward on this surgery. I dont even go outside to buy things anymore. Im just an isolated animal highly depressive. Lately ive been building severe suicidal thoughts, and i keep wondering how much my parents love me to be okay with my current situation and not being supportive with something that could change my life entirely. The money itself is not a problem anymore, i have made alot of money in cryptobusiness and i have the money to persue this. I just wanted their comprehension and their support and thats make me very sad and even more depressive knowing they not only disrespect my decision but became opponents towards my decision.
I know that from outside most people will say that i should say "fk you" to them and persue my dreams on my own, but as a very depressive person i dont have the strenght to be in that position specially because i know the consequences they will make me go through. I feel totally trapped inside the situation im currently living in.
I think you should give a therapist a try to help map out a feasible plan cuz this forum is not specialized in mental therapies or something in addition to the fact that we cannot know exactly situations in details of your family crisis through your purely emotional venting. This is not LL-related question this is just a purely family-related question and I also cannot map out a good plan.
But as for me I am planning to make move at first and make claims afterwards. BTW I don't think your parents are considerate enough even though they are holding negative opionions about LL, writing you off as not a son is too beyond the line.
Lately everyone has the money for the surgery but for Visas, for parents, after deep depressions and suicidal thoughts...can't proceed with it lol.
Also everyone seems to make thousands of dollars on cryptos out of nowhere but whatever ,guess no more hard workers with normal jobs who saved to get this procedure , just smart kids ....sooo pathetic !
No parents without psychological issues would react that way to a son depressed 10 years and suicidal.
No suicidal person with 10+ years of depression would let anything get in his way for this surgery IF HE HAD THE MONEY or WAS REALLY DEPRESSED THAT WAY .
Not even a 50/50 % of being crippled so idk if anyone really believes to those stories .
We have all been through those feelings so we are familiar with them and if someone went trough 10 years severly depressed and finally got the money ,NO FU****** WAY SOMEONE ,BESIDE GOD, COULD STOP ANYONE REALLY HAVING HEIGHT DYSPHORIA FROM GETTING THIS SURGERY, PERIOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You need to have a serious discussion with them about it. More likely than not, they're not going to get it; my dad doesn't and never will. My mother and brother get it, but they don't think it's necessary.
Quote from: Masteryourlife on February 15, 2022, 12:58:12 PMLately everyone has the money for the surgery but for Visas, for parents, after deep depressions and suicidal thoughts...can't proceed with it lol.
Also everyone seems to make thousands of dollars on cryptos out of nowhere but whatever ,guess no more hard workers with normal jobs who saved to get this procedure , just smart kids ....sooo pathetic !
No parents without psychological issues would react that way to a son depressed 10 years and suicidal.
No suicidal person with 10+ years of depression would let anything get in his way for this surgery IF HE HAD THE MONEY or WAS REALLY DEPRESSED THAT WAY .
Not even a 50/50 % of being crippled so idk if anyone really believes to those stories .
We have all been through those feelings so we are familiar with them and if someone went trough 10 years severly depressed and finally got the money ,NO FU****** WAY SOMEONE ,BESIDE GOD, COULD STOP ANYONE REALLY HAVING HEIGHT DYSPHORIA FROM GETTING THIS SURGERY, PERIOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I created this post because i thought maybe someone had pass through something equal or similar regarding family problems.
First of all, im not a kid, i have 27 years old. Yes i am depressed for 10 years and i dont leave my bedroom, there are literally no reason for me to create this topic to lie about a circunstances that i hate about my life and im not proud of. I cant nor i have the slightest desire to prove you anything. Your reaction and your answer totally lacks empathy and capacity to put yourself on anyone else shoes. And i dont "Finally" got the money, i just said that money is not the problem that impedes me to go through this surgery. I dont know why your reaction came from, specially calling me a lier, which i have absolutely nothing to gain by doing that here, lol.
Quote from: ReadRothbard on February 15, 2022, 10:19:58 PMYou need to have a serious discussion with them about it. More likely than not, they're not going to get it; my dad doesn't and never will. My mother and brother get it, but they don't think it's necessary.
Lately we have been through family therapy. But yet, even tho the psychologist is on my "side" once the session ends, they dont accept his opinion and say that hes on my side because of money. I feel they will never truly understand, they refuse to, they extremly prejudiced and conservative to the point that if i were gay they would kick me out of the house, idk how i can change people that thinks like they do. My friends that i have on internet keep saying i should persue my own way and leave them for good, but i have these severe attachment problems which impedes me to stand up for myself and fuLL Forumil my own way out of this dynamic
Hi stressftw1, how tall are you currently and what is your goal?
Quote from: stressftw1 on February 16, 2022, 05:03:23 AMI created this post because i thought maybe someone had pass through something equal or similar regarding family problems.
First of all, im not a kid, i have 27 years old. Yes i am depressed for 10 years and i dont leave my bedroom, there are literally no reason for me to create this topic to lie about a circunstances that i hate about my life and im not proud of. I cant nor i have the slightest desire to prove you anything. Your reaction and your answer totally lacks empathy and capacity to put yourself on anyone else shoes. And i dont "Finally" got the money, i just said that money is not the problem that impedes me to go through this surgery. I dont know why your reaction came from, specially calling me a lier, which i have absolutely nothing to gain by doing that here, lol.
The baseline of every conversation here ,most of the times , Is that we already empathize with one another because We have been trough those feelings ;no sane person without severe height dysphoria would even take this surgery in consideration so ye I do empathize, but when there is a reason to.
I get upset because lately we hear every kind of stupid reasons,topics or ideas flying around this forum , therefore reading that someone don't leave the house n its severely depressed since 10 years , has the money to proceed and still what stops him are his parents ... to me it sounded a lie .
It could have been an internal debate the first years since you love ur family and don't want them to be out of your life , but after 10 years the answear to this problem its obvious !
If you do this and you pick a good surgeon you most likely gonna have a nice outcome ,and If your parents rejected their son after what you have been trough , after a successful surgery where you walk and stand as before etc. Then they are not good people/parents .
I think they want to scare you off the surgery with all the weapons they have but if they really would do that , then they don't love you !
What other options do you have ?
Staying in ur room your whole life ?
Is that even an option!?
This is why to me it looked a fake story , because a person depressed 10 years who don't leave the house (if the problem its just height dysphoria) would sell houses , save many years , go against anything etc just to get ,trough the surgery, their life/happines back !!!
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