Hello all.
Unless you are very young [maybe below 20] you cannot hide having done LL from close friends and family.
Both my brothers are EXACTLY my height. There is no way at 28 I can grow 2 inches and not have them notice.
Especially since my family knows about LL plan, if I am 2 inch taller, then 200% certainty that my brothers and family will know.
The worst part is this. If I get married, I will have to tell the wife about LL. It would be very hard to start a family with someone (and keeping that someone in the dark about my LL) when my brothers and parents know I have done LL. My oldest brother has already told his wife about my LL idea. I felt very betrayed. Now how on earth will my sis-in-law and my wife not talk? And once my wife or gf finds out then it's as good as the secret being out there. She will tell her friends, her family and it is great gossip material.
And LL is very misunderstood and frowned down on in society right now.
I am starting to believe if you are not thick skinned to ignore people who talk about your LL, then LL is not for you! Because it is impossible to do LL in complete privacy unless you do it all alone without telling anyone like a hermit.
Doing LL all alone is also very hard! You have to mentally strong to endure it
Agree or disagree?
Dear TheAlchemist.
Your suggestion of lift is good but it cannot work with family. I go to my brother's house to spend a few days and can't wear lifts in his house. same with close friends. lifts are ok only for work. Its easy to fool people at work like this but not anyone who shares personal life.
Even if you stay away from close friends and family for a full year as per the lifts plan, it's impossible to make family forget your old height. Something like height is etched in memory of close family. Especially if same height. I Have spent so much time with my brothers in my early 20s and it's not possible to make them forget it. All the more because I once told them about LL. They will never ever forget it.
I am in agreement with you about making peace with surgery. Starting from your family, people WILL find out. Your best game plan is to live with people who think progressive and are not judgemental.
Thank you for the answers. I think I should have made myself clearer:
* Most people don't know about LL UNLESS you tell them you have plans of doing it. This is what I did. I told my brothers and one of my brothers told his wife. I would not be surprised if my brother's wife told her family and her sisters, etc. If you tell NO ONE and do LL you can get away with it because many people don't know about LL. But if you had brought it up before then it's easy to add 2 and 2 and make 4.
* It is one thing to make peace with your close family members knowing you did LL. But it is much harder if your wife to be (or husband to be) finds out. If for some reason she does not like the idea that you did LL and you break up, the secret is well in the open.
* Again imagine my situation: my family (parents, brothers, one brother's wife, and whoever she told) knows about my LL plan. If I get married and we are all sitting and chilling in a family gathering, imagine how it feels like. One person very close to me (my wife) is in the dark but the rest of my family knows. And I am living in fear that some day my wife will find out.
Dear Medium Drink Of Water.
What is your personal story in the context of this thread? Did you marry after LL? Did you tell your wife about LL?
Did LL have a role to play in not getting married @Medium Drink? That is pretty much the very focus on this thread. Getting married is one unique point in life when you become close family with someone not blood related. And if LL is a reason for that person to reject you, your dear secret is out there with a random person you didn't marry. 
Dear Medium Drink of Water
I think you are the only one who has understood what I was trying to ask in this post. You are absolutely right. Imagine you get married and somehow your partner finds out you had LL and you intentionally didn't tell her. Some more things don't work out in the marriage and you both decide to divorce. She's going to tell everyone about your LL as a reason for divorce or maybe even in court. (I'm using "you" as any LL veteran here of course)
Dear BetzLandLiberator
Where are you from? I think you have had bad company. I would not want to even be friends with someone who is ashamed because they were with someone short (or any other physical attribute). Why would they be with someone they are ashamed to be with in the first place?
As for comments made in poor taste, yes there are plenty of people in the world like that, but I Think it's best to weed out such people from your social circles someone who would call anyone "half a person". I would avoid someone like that like I would avoid dog p00p on the sidewalk.
Your reasons to get LL are not something I am arguing about however.
Dear limewalk
Yes I sort of agree with you. The ones who are happily married and are able to convince their wives (or husbands) to support their LL journey are in a much better situation.
I get the feeling that many people who get LL are younger people who have not paid much thought about getting married or older people who have given up on the idea of settling down to start a family and just want to improve themselves. There are however many people who are doing this without being ashamed about it and with family and friends' support : I envy their mindset.
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