Hallo , I am 31 years old man from Eastern Europe and lately I am becoming severly depressed about my height. My morning height is 178.5-179cm and it goes down to 177.5-177cm through the day probably. In my country average is probably 180 ,but I see everywhere big guys 185-190cm. I have always been the small kid ,been bullied ,suffered a lot of depressions through my teen years and my 20s, my father was abusive and alcoholic. Otherwise I am in good shape ,I workout ,I am 78-79 kg now and I will try to bulk until around 83-85 (just to see if I will look bigger). I had 2 girlfriends in my life ,but both times I lost them because of my insecurities ,I don't think I will ever be able to hold a relationship ,but that's another topic. I don't know what I am doing on this forum ,since I don't want to get limb lengthening surgery ever ,I love running and soccer and can't imagine living without it ,so don't want to touch my legs. I want to ask you for some advice how to cope mentally with this , I have all the time this feeling that I am not good enough ,I am small ,I am not a real man, all the time comparing myself with other men on the street and its so hard to get through every day.
Thank you mate for your reply, weight is something you can change ,height is not. And we are judged by height, especially women are very rude sometimes, but I guess will have to learn to live with it.
Hi mate ,I live in small country in East Europe (Bulgaria) ,to be honest growing up height never bothered me ,acne bothered me more ,so I think I have some body dismporphia thing. Then I went to work in Denmark for couple of years and I was the shortest in my work, people were calling me shorty at my work ,they were all 6.2 6.3 6.4 at least north men. So I think I got this height thing in Denmark,because they are really tall there. I will tell you a story ,we went with friend one day after work to drink beer in a bar ,there was high school party ,around 50 high school boys and girls ,and all the boys were taller than me ,and there were probably 2-3 girls shorter than me ,rest was taller or my height. Now back in my country ,I feel below average also ,I will tell you another story ,I was buying coffee at gas station ,girl cashier cute ,her height was 165cm maximum ,so I asked her can I get her coffee some time ,she asked me how tall I am ,I replied (178cm) 5.10 ,she said oh no you are too short ,I was like wtf ? Who am I supposed to date then when even short girls are rejecting me. Thanks for your replies guys ,I guess it is all in my head ,I have resolution from tomorrow not think about that and to try to enjoy life.
I have muscular body, sport is something that makes me happy so I always do it. I will try to work on positive view towards life ,anyway women are not most important thing. Thanks for your help mate.
It is wrong ,in capital I think average is 5.11, and among young people 16-30 I think it is 6ft probably. I see girls 5.10 - 5.11 all the time.
I measured it today ,179cm in the morning 177.5cm at night, I have 180cm written on my ID card (measured by doctor), but I had long hair back then and style it upwards probably that's why. I am average yeah ,probably that's the problem and probably I have some kind of psyhological issues ,will try to work more on other aspects of my life and be more positive and not read too much in internet. Thanks for you help guys , I appreciate it really.
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