Fear of being disappointed

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Am I the only one to be afraid to see no change after the operation?

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This is my biggest fear. I can deal with the financial hit, can somewhat deal with the time and can probably swallow my anxiety enough to be able to anticipate complications, but to go through all that and STILL be disappointed with my self image? That's something I don't think I can handle easily.

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and also the fear to be disproportionnal
when I'm looking at 7,5 cm (max safe amount for tibias) it seems ok, but on a human ?
that would make me be 179-180 and it's still consider as short by many people (I know it is not, but still)

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I'm not worried too much about proportions. I don't even really notice them on most people, so unless it's like 10+cm, I don't think you should worry too much. There are people with long tibias, long femurs, long arms and long torsos. I think 3 inches is within a reasonable amount of length in terms of proportions. In the grand scheme of things, 3 inches is really nothing... it's essentially the size of 1 and 1/2 credit card width, so most people will not notice anything unless they REALLY look. Even then, you'll just be a somewhat long tibia'd person.

Anyway, we're constantly moving in real life anyway, and nobody really stands straight up for long periods of time, so it will be noticed even less. Heck, even LL in general, I believe, is more about your own inner image of yourself rather than how the external world perceives you. 2-3 inches won't really change your life that much in terms of how the world treats you, but it might make you satisfied with who you are enough that you gain confidence to become a better person.

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Yes, it's true
Anyway the doctor can advice about it

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If you're below average or average you probably won't ever feel tall in a superior way but if you're below average the reward is worth the risk which has been discussed many times in this forum.

Take the time to think through all scenarios to see if this is something for you.

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It's a possibility that after CLL you will get into a cosmetic surgery frenzy. It seems to be somewhat common because it's insecurity that drives most people to go through this surgery in the first place.

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I think in the end, it's not something you should do on a whim. You should exhaust every possible means to cure your dysphoria before even considering this surgery AND I think it's something that needs time to reflect upon. Give it 2-3 years. Maybe you'll be cured by then, or your life will be at a point where it really doesn't matter. This is especially true for guys of average height, since they will never really be discriminated for their height. See a psychologist, try to be more active in your life, try to be better at things you can control. Heck, maybe even gaining temporary height via lifts or Yoga or glucosamine will be enough to satisfy you.

Height is only one aspect of who you are, and truthfully, the people who will really matter in your life are the ones who won’t care about your height. If you're gonna get LL, do it because you want to, not because you think you need it to succeed in the world.

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Quote from: rasteride on July 19, 2017, 09:20:48 AMI think in the end, it's not something you should do on a whim. You should exhaust every possible means to cure your dysphoria before even considering this surgery AND I think it's something that needs time to reflect upon. Give it 2-3 years. Maybe you'll be cured by then, or your life will be at a point where it really doesn't matter. This is especially true for guys of average height, since they will never really be discriminated for their height. See a psychologist, try to be more active in your life, try to be better at things you can control. Heck, maybe even gaining temporary height via lifts or Yoga or glucosamine will be enough to satisfy you.

Height is only one aspect of who you are, and truthfully, the people who will really matter in your life are the ones who won’t care about your height. If you're gonna get LL, do it because you want to, not because you think you need it to succeed in the world.

Read my other topic. I took some month to try to overcome my dyasphora. It was ok, but I'm still insecure. More now that a girl told me she is taller than me and her father would dislike me for that (yes I know, it's stupid)
during this month I was insisting on sport, foods and having a nice lifestyle. To be honest my mom is not helping me for that, but it is ok as I grew up

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You Will see chance surely, foro your options I would recommend you to stay in Italy.