Got rejected today because of height

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Quote from: YourSpaceBoyfriend on October 28, 2018, 10:06:18 PMI am 5'7 and I have never been rejected because of height (atleast never had a girl say it to me to the face)
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I think there is a threshold height of acceptability for men - and it depends on the average height in that country.  In the UK it is about 5'6.  This is well below average but still acceptable.  As you drop lower than that height you will become increasingly invisible to women from an attraction perspective.

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okay perhaps I didn't explain the situation very well, don't get me wrong we actually hooked up a few times and at first, she gave me hints like "I thought you were taller but it's okay" (we met through a dating app). She also said I had lied about my height, which I never did, saying I am 5'6, not 5'9 (wtf). When this actually happened was during our first date and she was wearing some heels, I think she was standing at 5'10 as I was just looking up a tiny bit. Things escalated and I wanted something more but she cut me loose claiming she couldn't get over my height. She also said I'm a great kisser, that I'm good in bed but she wants someone taller. This really pissed me off. Obviously, I went no contact ever since despite her several attempts to revive our "friendship". I just cannot get over the fact she doesn't want the same I want and indeed it is my height the main issue. She also said I'm really good looking, mature especially for my age etc. She has also laughed at how my hands are small for a man (they are but I guess they're proportional to my height), it's fking embarrassing.
About lying about my height, cmon guys I'm in a website where people are frustrated with their stature, including me, and see this as an escape where we all can blow off some steam about it, why would I lie about it? I am 174cm in the morning and 172cm in the evening but I always stand at 175cm wearing shoes. The reason I posted this was to vent and to express how bitter and frustrated I am with people always perceiving me as less of a man because of a few inches.

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Maybe try going for less shallow women. If you place looks on a high pedistool dont be surprise when it bites you in the ass.

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Quote from: TallerDream on October 28, 2018, 10:40:45 PMokay perhaps I didn't explain the situation very well, don't get me wrong we actually hooked up a few times and at first, she gave me hints like "I thought you were taller but it's okay" (we met through a dating app). She also said I had lied about my height, which I never did, saying I am 5'6, not 5'9 (wtf). When this actually happened was during our first date and she was wearing some heels, I think she was standing at 5'10 as I was just looking up a tiny bit. Things escalated and I wanted something more but she cut me loose claiming she couldn't get over my height. She also said I'm a great kisser, that I'm good in bed but she wants someone taller. This really pissed me off. Obviously, I went no contact ever since despite her several attempts to revive our "friendship". I just cannot get over the fact she doesn't want the same I want and indeed it is my height the main issue. She also said I'm really good looking, mature especially for my age etc. She has also laughed at how my hands are small for a man (they are but I guess they're proportional to my height), it's fking embarrassing.
About lying about my height, cmon guys I'm in a website where people are frustrated with their stature, why would I lie about it? I am 174cm in the morning and 172cm in the evening but I always stand at 175cm wearing shoes. The reason I posted this was to vent and to express how bitter and frustrated I am with people always perceiving me as less of a man because of a few inches.

It may well be just the height but I still think she decided you were not right for her for some combination of reasons.  Both guys and gals say all sorts to cushion the blow.  It didn't work out - forget about it and move on.

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Quote from: Ascending on October 28, 2018, 09:54:55 PMIf it makes you feel better - the most successful womaniser I know asks about 5 to 10 girls out per day - he doesn't use online dating apps.  He told me he gets rejected about 90% of the time - but that still means about 3 dates per week minimum.  He claims its a numbers game and I have no reason to doubt him.  I have seen him in with some amazing girls and he isn't particularly tall, well built or gifted in looks.  He has become very comfortable around girls though - through experience.

sorry but your friend is not a womanizer in my book, obectively, what he does is play the game of numbers

any man that is average in appearance, social status, and assertive behavior, they would have those results

obviously you must have thick skin and the correct mentality, to handle the rejection of thousands of women a month, so kudos to your friend

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Quote from: JON SNOW on October 28, 2018, 11:10:51 PMsorry but your friend is not a womanizer in my book, obectively, what he does is play the game of numbers

any man that is average in appearance, social status, and assertive behavior, they would have those results

obviously you must have thick skin and the correct mentality, to handle the rejection of thousands of women a month, so kudos to your friend

Oxford dictionary definition: "A man who engages in numerous casual sxxual affairs with women."

I think by that definition he certainly is.  He is sales guy (happily married too) and he thinks of chatting up women as another sales/marketing effort.  And he thinks that failure is normal.  In fact of the womanisers I know none of them are particularly outstanding.  I think this is a common misconception.  All of them have concurrent affairs.  A common attitude is that by having a pipeline of opportunities and more than one affair at a time, they are less hung up on any particular outcome and therefore less prone to destructive relationship acts like neediness, control, indifference, jealousy or obsession.  Their varied relationships also makes them more interesting in that they are concurrently exposed to a number of different experiences, views and perspectives on life.

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Quote from: wants2growtaller on October 28, 2018, 10:59:08 PMMaybe try going for less shallow women. If you place looks on a high pedistool dont be surprise when it bites you in the ass.

most wamen are shallow same as men, but what is worse is they have a distortion of reality, for exemple an OKCupid study shows women say 80% of men are "below average" looking,  the distribution given by the men was more accurate to reality, describing in fact a bell distibucion

Women are very shallow. I thought this was common knowledge at this point.

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Quote from: JON SNOW on October 28, 2018, 11:24:25 PMmost wamen are shallow same as men, but what is worse is they have a distortion of reality, for exemple an OKCupid study shows women say 80% of men are "below average" looking,  the distribution given by the men was more accurate to reality, describing in fact a bell distibucion

Women are very shallow. I thought this was common knowledge at this point.

OKCupid is hardly a respected academic source of human psychology.  The best we can learn is that the women that use OKCupid think that 80% of the men that also use OKCupid are below average looking.  Without knowing more about the demographics of their users it is hard to draw any more conclusions.  What does it reliably tell us about women in general?  Not a lot.

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Let's all break our legs for these 4/10, used up skanks so we can meet their standards on dating apps. Lets not do it for any other reason.

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Honestly just sounds like a bad apple and bad luck. This is an extremely unusual instance and you’re taking it too far because you already have height neurosis. From the amount of   tests I’ve read so far doesn’t sound like she was worth your time. I hate this type of brutish, obnoxious, easy, (constantly making diminutive jokes about men to distract from the fact that she has no integral value of her own) cunt so much, and I know just the kind. If it wasn’t your height it would’ve been something else, trust me.