Here to pour my anguish out.
I've been a member of here and old forum for many years and have wished throughout that I could get LL. I've known that I need it since age 20ish, though I always suppress the thought. It periodically hits me that no, I actually cant live my ambitions without LL, and here's the problem:
Before age 18 I had a lot of female attention and I was a good kid. Now in my upper mid twenties at 165cm I get rejected left and right, nothing to do with my approach, personality, charm, but everything to do with my stature. I've sensed it a lot in the past few years, that people respect me much less than a donkey with a bit more height. It doesn't matter how smart you are or whatever traits you devise to seem more attractive, stature always gets in the way. My ex asked me a few times seriously about my height and she was less than 160cm. Girls are always somehow slightly interested in me for my character/confidence/charm, but when it comes to it I get rejected and avoided because the taller guy looks more socially acceptable to date and walk with. Something that really bothers me is that when I'm sat down and chat to a girl I seem very attractive as my upper body is ok proportioned, but when I get up it disappoints them, and it's happened to me many times. All the rejections are grinding at me, and I don't deserve this.
The problem with short stature is that you can't fking fix it unless you have the resources and for me it's been a problem. I spent my income on my ex to make sure she feels secure with a man that has to be embarrassed of his height. With the way it's going I wont be able to get LL for at least another 5-7 years, I don't think I can wait that much longer, and I honestly don't want to live this life where I have to regret everyday that if I had 5 extra cms on my legs I wouldn't have to get rejected and avoided so much.
This is a genuine request, help me and I'll reciprocate 10 years down the road.
It's not easy to avoid it especially as you get older.
Dude I don't know. I'm having a ty life and I've gave it enough patience.
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@Sweden, I live in Europe and by the time I save $20k it'll be 3 years. Then there's the worry of needing more for any possible complication, and covering the CV gap with something. Also for $20k do you mean Russian doctor?
When you came back after ll did people finally realise what you've done or did you manage to get away with it, and how did the ladies respond with the new height?
-'If you think leg lengthening will improve your love life; then, you are sadly mistaken. In my experience, many people will not find you attractive unless and until you become comfortable with who you are--it does not appear to me that you are comfortable with whatever good stuff you bring to a relationship and instead focus on what you perceive as a weakness; namely, your height.'-
The good mentality and positivity is always there for me but when I continuously walk into a closed door I have to do a reality check. Of course every once in a while I feel better about my self but coming to the realisation that I'm so alone and how was I able to bear it so long?? Was wanking calming me down? Well now I'm a serial wanker but can't find real love.
My short stature isn't a perception that only I have; it's happened countless times where people I'm with happened to catch a womens attention and get the dreamy flirty eyes, and I'm standing right there but I'm not even part of the equation because apparently a few cms is the difference between yes and no. At university it happened to me 3 separate times where I was really into the girl, we went out a few times; girl1 went and had an affair with some romanian guy, girl2 started dancing with an english guy infront of me in the bar and instantly realised its embarrassing, girl3 just wanted sex in the summer and I wanted to take my time and develop a relationship but my height wasn't something for her to be proud of and parade in society. All 3 left me for guys around 172cm. I got with a hot girl less than a year after this sh*tshow, under extraordinary circumstances, and we broke up more than a year back because she couldn't keep it in her pants. How low have I become to have to wait for an extraordinary circumstance when next man 5cm taller can get on with his life without these problems.
It's clear to me what impact LL will have, having read diaries for years, and looking in the mirror at my tiptoeing 172cm self seeing the difference between a yes and a no.
This is frustrating and unbearable.
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