Quote from: edwardv6 on August 03, 2018, 01:22:56 AMHow about that beta mindset TS has thinking he needs to spend money on his girl to keep her happy and sticking around. Bet he never thought that might be a problem or the root to other/more problems. It's easy to think oh, I'll just get this surgery and boom problem solved rather than asking the real questions and taking the time to really think things out. He'll get the surgery, get nowhere fast and continue to complain some more.
Goes without saying. Make sure you are the best version of yourself before considering this surgery. That means having self respect and not doing things like that.
Quote from: edwardv6 on August 03, 2018, 01:22:56 AMAnd for the virgins KrP1 and Purushrottam, if you are actually getting laid nowadays, is it really because you're taller, or you have more [a false sense of] confidence now because you're taller and finally got the balls to walk up to a woman and say something, probably very awkwardly. Sorry you two never had game when you felt shorter, you guys still probably don't have any judging by the way you guys post. LOL @Purushrottam, wtf do you know about having a normal, healthy relationship with your toxic, insecure way of thinking about relationships lol you've probably yet to even have one.
I don't think you and I are ever going to come to an agreement on this and thats ok. Believe whatever you wish to believe. I think you should read the last update from my diary to see where I'm coming from:
Quote from: Purushrottam on July 15, 2018, 08:13:25 PM
Overall though, life feels so much better. I'm not 100% convinced if its because of the surgery, or because I'm in a new city, or because I have a new job. I used to always get depression, thinking my life wasn't going anywhere. I was a dude with a really good career and everything about my life was good on paper... except for having 0 luck dating (or even eliciting any female interest). It was really frustrating seeing people put in less effort than me but getting a lot more in return. This was slowly turning me into a bitter person. I remember when I was in the pool at Homewood Suites, in the middle of the lengthening... I was afraid I was going to be a really bitter, angry person "Why do I have to go through this to have a normal, well adjusted life?!? Lifes not fair".
That NEVER happened. While during recovery, I was a little resentful, now that I am fully recovered, I feel so blessed. Almost everything in life is going my way now. The previous post I made on this thread may seem a bit random, but I don't remember every being depressed/angry since then.
I find it pretty easy to make friends now. Getting dates with women I'm interested isn't too hard either. Pre LL me would have been nervous as hell before a date, thinking I had to be on top of my game to keep her interest (and usually that was the case. If you are unattractive, you do have to be the best version of yourself to maintain her attention). Now I'm never nervous before a date, no matter how much of a 'catch' I think the girl is. I just go there, act like myself (still make an effort though.. everyone deserves that from their date) and let things take their course. Before that I used to get ghosted all the time.
It feels like a great weight has been lifted off my shoulder. I no longer spend time moping about being short/hating the world/etc. I've become a much more positive person overall. Small things that used to piss me off (ie. Uber driver taking the wrong exit for the airport by accident when I'm late for a flight) just don't bother me anymore. I noticed that change when my driver made a wrong turn. I was just like "hey, don't worry about it... we all make mistakes". It came out so naturally. Pre LL me would have been silent but would have thought "omg you ****ing retard how did you mess that up?!?"
I am not going to have as many updates from now on as there isn't really much to say. I still frequent the forums though, so if there are any questions I can answer them (prefer not PMs though. I don't get email notifications). Overall, if you had a complication free experience, I can't fathom why anyone would regret this surgery. The several month gap in my career meant nothing. I don't think it affected me at all. Now that I'm working again, its as if I've been working the whole time.
I'll have one when I have my rods removed. In September it will be 1 year post op. I need to get it removed within 2 years. I can't believe time flew by so quickly.