I think all of the short folks in here, including me, have legitimate concerns about status/dating/ego. In my case & probably yours, that doesn't make you mentally ill & in need of a psychiatrist. In my case it makes me in need of longer legs...
Quote from: paddy10tellys on July 10, 2016, 10:09:56 PMI think all of the short folks in here, including me, have legitimate concerns about status/dating/ego. In my case & probably yours, that doesn't make you mentally ill & in need of a psychiatrist. In my case it makes me in need of longer legs...
Yeah but that's not the whole point of this discussion. I'm shorter than you paddy. I'm not in a state of panic, anxiety, extreme depression as I was months ago. (It's still there but it's more transient and it seldom last) I've moved on from that mindset. My shrink was part of the recovery process. I'll admit it does depend 100% on how your shrink approaches your problem and mindset. What CCMidwest wrote is 100% accurate btw.
For me it was all about my shrink giving me the tools I needed to go back to the sane mind I had before my "height neurosis" began. One in which my height wasn't on my mind 24/7.
My main thing is that, if you're in a state on extreme depression, one in which it's debilitating socially, then don't just put all your eggs in one basket. Reach out for help.
Quote from: Alu on July 10, 2016, 11:23:28 PMYeah but that's not the whole point of this discussion. I'm shorter than you paddy. I'm not in a state of panic, anxiety, extreme depression as I was months ago. (It's still there but it's more transient and it seldom last) I've moved on from that mindset. My shrink was part of the recovery process. I'll admit it does depend 100% on how your shrink approaches your problem and mindset. What CCMidwest wrote is 100% accurate btw.
For me it was all about my shrink giving me the tools I needed to go back to the sane mind I had before my "height neurosis" began. One in which my height wasn't on my mind 24/7.
My main thing is that, if you're in a state on extreme depression, one in which it's debilitating socially, then don't just put all your eggs in one basket. Reach out for help.
Great post Alu.
Everybody seems to have missed the part where I said therapy may not help with the height issue. What's a therapist or shrink supposed to do, make you taller?
No, that's not the point of a shrink. The point is to maintain or gain mental control so that you aren't living in despair.
A shrink will also help when height related issues come up. Like today when my mother said it is unfortunate that my dad is shrinking in his old age and that pretty soon he will be short like me.
Instead of getting upset over that comment like I would of a few weeks ago, the control I now have over my thoughts means that I brushed it off and left her house. Didn't really get emotional about it. Before it would of caused great depression for days.
You can be sad about your height and not be depressed or in despair. THAT is the point of this conversation.
I'll add too, that I have never felt disrespected by another man due to height. Not once. Even living among the German's here in the Midwest.
Quote from: TIBIKE200 on July 10, 2016, 06:51:58 PMI'm not going to go see a psychiatrist because I KNOW I want to be 6 foot or over. I've always wanted to be tall but I'm only 5'9.5".
I realize I'm average height however I feel short and have always felt this way, and I just want to be tall. I'm hoping to go to Doctor Paley in the next year or two and obtain a 5.25cm gain on my femurs and a 3.75cm gain on my tibias, doing the surgeries back t back three-four weeks apart. Should heal up faster this way and I should retain most of my neutral athleticism because I'm not lengthening too much in either segment. After the lengthening I should be right around 6'1" which is pretty tall and I would be very happy.
If you are suffering for because you are not tall you should consult with one. There is a huge difference between wanting to be tall and suffering for not being tall
Nah I'm not suffering, suffering, just want to be tall as all. Nothing to see a shrink over, as I believe I'm perfectly psychologically healthy and not at all depressed/anxious.
And paddyton,
Using a 165cm guy to make your point? Come on man. A 5'5 guy (165) is in a completely different world compared to you at 5'7 (170) or me at like 172.
My buddy is like 5'4-5'5 and gets sh*t for his height all the time. Men our height have no idea what these guys put up with.
For your own mental health, and out of respect for men under your height, don't put yourself in their shoes. Not even remotely comparable.
Quote from: CCMidwest on July 11, 2016, 02:12:43 AMUsing a 165cm guy to make your point? Come on man. A 5'5 guy (165) is in a completely different world compared to you at 5'7 (170) or me at like 172.
My buddy is like 5'4-5'5 and gets sh*t for his height all the time. Men our height have no idea what these guys put up with.
For your own mental health, and out of respect for men under your height, don't put yourself in their shoes. Not even remotely comparable.
ugh so painfully true. Doesn't matter what any psychiatrist says, being 5'4-5'5 or less as a guy is objectively tough. even though there are plenty of nice folks who won't outright joke about your height, you're still given less respect and are treated differently by people subconsciously.
I wouldnt say i am depressed on a day by day basis.
More so irritated when topic arises.
IF IF I was slightly overweight and people made fat jokes I would be annoyed (not depressed). But then I would eat healthy and workout to get a great body.
Likewise being below average height I get annoyed. And want to be taller and LL is the only way.
No shrink needed for me. Just a capable surgeon
Totally agree with ortholegthening's comment.
Also CCMidwest, of course it is worse being 165 as opposed to 170 but are you saying I'm too tall to comment? Thx man, I'm cured!
Also, for the record I do not think there is anything wrong with consulting a psychiatrist
Quote from: paddy10tellys on July 11, 2016, 06:57:08 AMAlso CCMidwest, of course it is worse being 165 as opposed to 170 but are you saying I'm too tall to comment? Thx man, I'm cured!
You're welcome.
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