Quote from: onedaytall on April 22, 2024, 01:07:49 AMAs much as this cringes me and frustrates to read something like this, I've also learned that mental suffering is not "less real" even if it comes in an absurd form. To me what you wrote just makes me want to say that you haven't really lived life then if THAT is your worst experience in life. But that's not true, you have lived through your 19 years, you have experienced bullying and low self esteem and whatever else is the cause of this. Our suffering is anyway mind-created, so there is not really more or less real suffering in that sense. But you definitely have mental issues that need work before you take upon anything like this. Plus you might still grow naturally. Give it a couple of years, work on yourself with dedication, see where you are then.
Height lengthening might be good for you down the line, but right now you have a completely distorted tunnel vision. Height isn't such a big deal as the internet makes it to be. I'm 5'8, living in a "tall country", and I'm generally found very attractive and no problems. I read about the problems people my height are experiencing here and there, I just never experienced them. I wish I was taller. Surely I would be even more attractive and authoritative in a physical sense. Height matters, but not THAT much. I lived up to 30 years old without even realising that height matters. And again my country has quite high average height.
Your underlying mental state, low self-esteem, unhappiness and whatever bullying etc you have experienced in your life that have left a mark, they are now manifesting as a tunnel vision. All this unhappiness in you gets channelled towards this one idea, one goal, if you only were taller it would all be different. Trust me, your mind will grab another thing once height is off the table unless you do the self-work, therapy so on. For some people it is hairloss, for some it is lack of a manly beard (no joke). That is how the mind works, and the condition of your mind is very obssessive now. Your mind isn't automatically going to change it's foundations once you become taller. You will still find yourself in the therapy sessions.
Just today I watched a youtube vid of a plastic surgeon who said that he doesn't recommend people coming for operations if they are in an unstable, obsessed mental and emotional space. Work it out first, then come to the operation, because those people are statistically the ones who end up being happier with the changes.
Edit: Also maybe you will be incredibly happy with leg lengthening results eventually if all goes well with it all. Just really consider giving it some time and invest working on your inner issues first. That's an investment no-one will ever regret making. And honestly you're only 19. You seem quite aware for your age, and someone who wakes up to their inner work so young has incredible opportunity in their hands to make the best of their life.
Your comment is 100% spot on , im just living everyday struggling with my height i cant even live my life as a normal human being, it bothers me so much which is all mental i know , my dad and brothers look up to me since i was the one that took them out of poverty and i got both of my brothers into college, but i still feel less, you know? i wake up everyday with the same thought wishing i was taller even if it was 2inches , my girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me with a 6’2 dude as well and that got to my head so hard that i think about it all day long for the past 3months , i put up a plan to fix everything else in my life during this year and go for the surgery next year if everything goes well.