Quote from: Assyiah on April 10, 2024, 07:45:14 AMhello Im 19 years , my height is around 5’9 5’10. im very stable finance wise, so money isnt an issue at all. however, is doing the surgery worth it? I only need 5-6cm to reach my goal, ive always dreamt of being 6’0. but at the same time i wonder if its worth it at all since all the serious complications and a risk of being crippled. Im in a really bad place mentally as well, not really socializing with people and i have nobody to tell this to cuz they will think im crazy.
This is a loaded question, but as someone that had CLL at 5'10'+, I'll do my best to answer
Ultimately, the only person that can determine whether the procedure is worth it is YOU, with guidance/counseling from a clinical psychologist, your primary care doctor, your family, friends, and surgeon. This is the circle I consulted when I went through with the procedure.
My reasons for doing it were not as much height dysmorphia, though that was obviously a factor. My femurs were objectively SHORT, my tibias were super long, and I looked out of proportion. I only wore shorts when absolutely necessary (at the beach or pool). I didn't do it because of girls (this was never a problem, I had a gf during the procedure and still have one). I simply wanted to fix something that was REALLY bothering me.
After psych evals, consulting my Drs, interviewing three surgeons, talking to my friends and family - everyone encouraged me to to this. I did, and it was easily the best decision of my life. But this was the best decision of my life
for me and my particular set of circumstances.What do you get, after the pain, all the work you put in, the time you're not ambulatory, etc.? Height dysmorphia simply vanishes. Imagine not even thinking about it. My clothes fit so much better. I'm beyond happy. My mood is different - I'm literally wearing a smile every day.
There are some that say that at 5'8"+ you should be happy, etc. Some can be, some cannot. I can tell you this from personal experience: the world views tall people SO MUCH DIFFERENTLY. I was never "short", just barely above average. Now I'm legitimately tall. While I never had a problem with approaching women before, my confidence is now through the roof in public, and girls literally approach
me now. Obviously you have to be your best self to be consistently successful in any type of social relationship. But looks matter and if you're a guy, height matters big time.
The positive social payoff is undeniable - sadly, that's the way the world works. Height is for guys what weight is for girls - the two biggest dysmorphias for each sex.
Be introspective, talk the decision through with medical professionals and people you trust, and decide whether this is something you want to do. It's painful, long, taxing, mentally and physically. It's a
lot of work with a long recovery, even under the best of circumstances. Cyborg4Life says 2 years on average to recover fully and I think that's true. If you think you can handle all that and will be happier with yourself as a result, do it.