My girlfriend doesn't want me to do LL

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sorry, i meant 7 cm will put you a little bit past the average

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Quote from: scandidude on August 10, 2018, 10:59:33 PMThank all of you for your input! I still haven't made up my mind, I imagine it's a long thinking process since it can be life altering. I've thought about it a lot, and I'm currently leaning towards no if I'm being honest. I'm 1,75 and though I'm on the shorter side, there's plenty of guys my height that can pull it off and I do after all have a pretty beautiful and loving girlfriend who doesn't mind. So ... Yeah there's that. I'll still be roaming this forum because I haven't totally decided but a lot of you guys truly bring up some good points.

My girlfriend suggested I could do other things that'll make me feel better, such as finding a sport, so I'll try that out.

You're not short; you're above-average worldwide; you're fine.

175cm doesn't feel tall and I understand that, but it's not perceived as short.

Listen to your gf and Hanshi and forget about this, if you're completely healthy. In terms of sports, try to take up swimming.

I'd also suggest avoid lurking these forums as it will only feed your height dysphoria. There are a lot of people here who believe and share a lot of crap about height which is not true. I'm not saying height is irrelevant. We all registered here because we know it is. However, some people here take it to a extreme and use it as a scapegoat to blame it for all their problems (and I'm not talking about legitimately very short men).

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For comparative reasons, Xi Jinping from China is 175cm and he's never called or depicted as short. And mainland China's government is not seen positively by the world's media. Yet, Xi never gets mocked for his height as some shorter leaders do.

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Of course she does not want you to. Because if you do it means you will be taller and thus more attractive to women increasing the chance of you leaving her for someone hotter.

QuoteHow would you be a better partner? If she's saying no, you respecting her wish would mean more to her.

No, she will see it as a weakness. Woman does not want a man who confirms to her whims. A woman wants a man who will go his own way and don't pay attention to anything else.

Quote Seriously dude, at 175cm, you are not short, far too young and LL doesn't come cheap.

He is short in Scandinavia, people are super tall there.

Honestly, OP, go for the surgery. Don't pay attention to gf, she is intimidated and she wants to see you as a man who takes action and not someone who will do whatever she says, especially in serious matters a man should make the judgement. Women respect men who decide on their own and not do what their wives or girlfriends want. Paradoxical, but life is full of paradoxes.

Another paradox of life is - the more you will do what society wants and expects you to do, the more you will be shat on. Everyone expects you to stay in your place and be a nice little man and not cause any trouble and just be thankful. Once you start saying - "F*** THIS, I WANT TO BE BETTER!" people around you get intimidated that you may surpass them and try to tell you you don't really need that thing.

It is basic psychology.

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Wtf? Just ignore this 6'2 is too short fella!! Serious non height related issues there imo!!
Scandidude, why are you even here. Even if you were to do LL, you don't even have the money yet. Just go and enjoy life with your very sensible and I'm sure attractive (as most Scandinavian girls are) gf. Don't be wasting another minute of your time here

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Quote from: taller_in_Kiev on August 12, 2018, 03:24:29 PMWtf? Just ignore this 6'2 is too short fella!! Serious non height related issues there imo!!
Scandidude, why are you even here. Even if you were to do LL, you don't even have the money yet. Just go and enjoy life with your very sensible and I'm sure attractive (as most Scandinavian girls are) gf. Don't be wasting another minute of your time here

I agree.


Only homosxxuals and people with severe hyper focus and autism towards looks and the made up SMV are constantly worried about how they look in groups amongst other guys. You are mostly fine at 5'9" to lead a normal life and if you decide to do LL you will be yes around 6 feet but you still will not be "ideal" and you will have limited athletic ability for life and a dented wallet and time you'll never get back.

However at 5'9" I can say it's justified if you wanna go that LL route. 5'9" just isn't what it used to be. It's fine overall but I can understand the neurosis.

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6feet2istooshort: I just view relationships and certainly women very differently.... So emh

Quote from: taller_in_Kiev on August 12, 2018, 03:24:29 PMWtf? Just ignore this 6'2 is too short fella!! Serious non height related issues there imo!!
Scandidude, why are you even here. Even if you were to do LL, you don't even have the money yet. Just go and enjoy life with your very sensible and I'm sure attractive (as most Scandinavian girls are) gf. Don't be wasting another minute of your time here

Thank you. I'm still lurking, but ultimately I'd probably never end up doing LL. Many of you guys are right 1,75 isn't terrible, I think the issues is within me, so I'll work towards fixing that ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Thanks for your input! It's much appreciated.

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Bro honestly it’s a personal choice people only give their opinion but that’s it I agree 5’9 isn’t bad but it’s not particularly great either.

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Scandidude, last comment. Height isn't everything. A 5'9 guy with a great face and body is far more appealing than a lesser looking lanky 6'2 or 6'4 guy.
Work on your body, go to gym. If it's something about your appearance that is affecting your self confidence, like maybe your nose or your teeth (just using those as examples) that is so much easier and cheaper to fix than LL! And a great smile always goes a long way.
All the best friend. I truly hope you don't do LL. Keep your girl and keep her happy)   

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Quote from: taller_in_Kiev on August 12, 2018, 09:14:31 PMScandidude, last comment. Height isn't everything. A 5'9 guy with a great face and body is far more appealing than a lesser looking lanky 6'2 or 6'4 guy.
Work on your body, go to gym. If it's something about your appearance that is affecting your self confidence, like maybe your nose or your teeth (just using those as examples) that is so much easier and cheaper to fix than LL! And a great smile always goes a long way.
All the best friend. I truly hope you don't do LL. Keep your girl and keep her happy)

if all that is true, why did you do LL to get to 6' from 5'8