I did LL during my uni's summer break with the help of my family with precice. I went back to uni and everything worked out great. I went back home again the next year and got my nails removed with the help of my family. I went back to uni and graduated. It was the best time of my life.
I have now moved back closer to home after graduating and to my dismay the news has spread. I keep getting asked by random neighbors and friends and cousins about how I feel now and whether I can still run and crap like that. i get sympathy from some people. One person asked me for my doctor's contact. It is torturous. I had taken so much pain to hide it from my friends at the uni, but meanwhile my family has shown complete disregard to my privacy. I don't know who exactly started it, it could have been by grandma or my dad or my sister.
I can't even begin to articulate what I'm experiencing right now. If being short had made me insecure this makes me twice as much insecure. LL is not something I could have done without family support. If involving family means this, then I honestly feel its better to just not do this surgery.
RUINED everything by involving family in my LL journey.
Dont know if my previous reply came but here goes
My atheltic abilities increased after surgery because I was a fatass before and never really worked out.
I recently made a post on reddit (offmychest kind of subreddit) crying out my dilemma and to my dismay, I received a lot of hateful comments ridiculing my decision to get LL and that I deserve what happened to me
I went borderline suicidal after that and looked for ways to off myself (I am fine now thank you)
At the end of the day even family's love is not unconditional. They will rat you out if it gives them something gossip about. Only you can truly love yourself.
FML
Yes I am planning to move away from home asap. I have started looking for jobs in other places. It will take my mind away from this situation but the problem is only partially solved.
Seriously guys this is frustrating. I threw my phone and broke it the other day when a family member sent me a stupid message with a link to a viral LL article (one with Dr D) on messenger. I don't think words can describe my state of mind. Since I did the full 8cm my proportions are slightly unusual. After people find out that I have done LL some are able to spot the odd proportions. This is another thing I regret. While lengthening my doc said I'm doing well and can go the full 8 instead of another surgery. So I just did it. Now I think it's quite conspicuous.
I don't even want to confront my family about all this because I fear that they will spread the word some more. I have lost faith in family. Why would they do this to me when I went through a painful ordeal right under their nose. Did they find something amusing that they wanted to gossip about it? particularly my sister.
My mental health had hit rock bottom. so I went to a therapist to discuss these problems. very uncomfortable conversation. she said honesty is very important in relationships and I would be cheating if I hid this. As for toxic people we agreed I should just cut them off. With family members she said I should tell them how I feel and stuff.
I feel artificial and like a fraud. Now my proportions bother me a lot more. 8cm feels like a bad decision. I have 0.74 femur:tibia ratio. Now I have also started to think my recovery isn't great (probably a mental negative feedback loop).
feels like a bad dream tbh. I hope others here can avoid this situation. especially the younger lot. Technology is getting better. I heard they will get newer nails soon. Have patience. Don't rush and tell people your "emotions" and your surgery plans. Practice stoicism. Never ever tell anyone your height problems. Just bottle them in (maybe go to a therapist if you want). Move away from family the first chance you get and work towards your dreams. If you never mention it and do moderate amounts I think you will get to keep the cake and eat it too.
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