I did LL during my uni's summer break with the help of my family with precice. I went back to uni and everything worked out great. I went back home again the next year and got my nails removed with the help of my family. I went back to uni and graduated. It was the best time of my life.
I have now moved back closer to home after graduating and to my dismay the news has spread. I keep getting asked by random neighbors and friends and cousins about how I feel now and whether I can still run and crap like that. i get sympathy from some people. One person asked me for my doctor's contact. It is torturous. I had taken so much pain to hide it from my friends at the uni, but meanwhile my family has shown complete disregard to my privacy. I don't know who exactly started it, it could have been by grandma or my dad or my sister.
I can't even begin to articulate what I'm experiencing right now. If being short had made me insecure this makes me twice as much insecure. LL is not something I could have done without family support. If involving family means this, then I honestly feel its better to just not do this surgery.
RUINED everything by involving family in my LL journey.
Hi guy,
you have nothing to reproach yourself for. it's not you who wanted to show off or whatever. if it's a member of your family, sooner or later he'll tell you and he probably blames himself already. You did the hardest man. you are in the coolest phase with a new life waiting for you. don't worry about what people think and enjoy your new body. I have a question about this? did you keep a similar approach before and after the operation and can you resume the sport as before?
Quote from: wrecked on July 08, 2023, 01:11:15 PMI did LL during my uni's summer break with the help of my family with precice. I went back to uni and everything worked out great. I went back home again the next year and got my nails removed with the help of my family. I went back to uni and graduated. It was the best time of my life.
I have now moved back closer to home after graduating and to my dismay the news has spread. I keep getting asked by random neighbors and friends and cousins about how I feel now and whether I can still run and crap like that. i get sympathy from some people. One person asked me for my doctor's contact. It is torturous. I had taken so much pain to hide it from my friends at the uni, but meanwhile my family has shown complete disregard to my privacy. I don't know who exactly started it, it could have been by grandma or my dad or my sister.
I can't even begin to articulate what I'm experiencing right now. If being short had made me insecure this makes me twice as much insecure. LL is not something I could have done without family support. If involving family means this, then I honestly feel its better to just not do this surgery.
I feel for you. It's tough which family members you'd want to involve with this considering it's such a life-changing operation. Considering they'd also support you through the struggle. My only advice is talk to your family about this situation, and at the very least contain it within your family and whoever is involved not to pry any further. However that's going to be tough, but in anycase you've surpassed a pretty hard surgery to begin with, and struggled thru it. Eventually, I'm sure you'll take it in strides and be confident with your new height regardless of what happened.
To other people reading, make sure you try to tell whomever you're telling in confidence that they are capable to respect your privacy and only keep it to themselves. You're already in a tough situation handling it mentally, you wouldn't want anyone else you're not even close with to be involved. That's why in my case, I'd only tell my parents and my girlfriend. I know how much of a blabbermouth my grandma is especially to other family members.
Dont know if my previous reply came but here goes
My atheltic abilities increased after surgery because I was a fatass before and never really worked out.
I recently made a post on reddit (offmychest kind of subreddit) crying out my dilemma and to my dismay, I received a lot of hateful comments ridiculing my decision to get LL and that I deserve what happened to me
I went borderline suicidal after that and looked for ways to off myself (I am fine now thank you)
At the end of the day even family's love is not unconditional. They will rat you out if it gives them something gossip about. Only you can truly love yourself.
FML
So you recently graduated from your University? Then find a new job far away from your old home where you have to move into a new place away from your family.
Damn, I was considering being honest and truthful to some friends (I only told close family). I see now that it might be a bad idea even if they are trustworthy because of the risk and you can't go back.
Even if it's not honorable, I think it will be better to lie (i.e. tell everyone that asks that it was an accident or deformity surgery) and gaslight everyone concerning your new height lol. Simpler, plus also it's none of their business to be quite honest.
The only way to stop caring about other peoples opinions is to love yourself more by increasing your confidence. And also expressing unpopular opinions helps since the more you face your fear, the less is scares you. Start going to the gym, change your style, earn more money, be more productive and you will over time slowly start to gain more confidence and people will respect you more naturely regardless of LL...
damn i am in a similar situation, currently 17th day consolidation. i did not tell anyone about the surgery, you made me realise that my decision is the right one. It is a heavy burden carrying such a big secret.
It does not matter who you tell. Your parents, your wife, your best friend etc.
That person will tell one other close person in their life in confidence. This person will then tell two others, who will each tell it to three others, who will each tell it to four others etc.
Before long, everyone in the social hemisphere in contact with the first person will know.
Someone doing LL is like the atomic bomb of gossip. No one will be able to keep that to themselves.
If you tell even 1 person expect everyone to find out sooner rather than later.
Quote from: wrecked on July 08, 2023, 02:05:52 PMI recently made a post on reddit (offmychest kind of subreddit) crying out my dilemma and to my dismay, I received a lot of hateful comments ridiculing my decision to get LL and that I deserve what happened to me
I would surely assume people would think of that considering a lot of people still think of this surgery negatively without thinking of the mental issues that come along with being short. A lot of people, even shorties would just try to force self-confidence like "short kings" to other short guys, but while that may be positive to think about, it doesn't always apply to everyone since height dysphoria comes in many mental shapes and forms. In my opinion, I'm more impressed by the person who is willing to undergo such mental and physical trauma from surgery/therapy to better themselves and gain more confidence, than the usual "just accept who you are" bs because we all know that doesn't always meet the common society's standards. They say to change what you can control and not what you can't, but you can control your height in this case, so why not?
I'd take DanishViking's advice, go and start working out more as well and take in you have accepted LL as part of your life to other people if they already know. Eventually, people will start to respect you more with your confidence. Same way as I respect people like Noel Deyzel who are actually open about their steroid use, seek to better themselves and others rather than just some douche hiding such an obvious thing and putting other people down.
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