I have decided to get LL in July using Precice. I decided to quit my desk job for 8 months until I recover and can walk normally because privacy is super important to me. Even though we were already working from home for a year, our office is going to reopen soon now.
So I had a conversation with my manager
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Me: "I need to quit due to personal reasons as I will not be able to come to the office for 8 months. The reasons are personal."
Manager: "you are an asset to the team, will you stay if we allow you to work from home for a year?"
Me (elated): "yes"
After a few days
Manager: "this is fine by me, but you see this is a big corporation and there are certain policies for such a work from home request like this. HR has said they will allow this under exceptional circumstances. They want to discuss your case with you"
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Now if I tell them the truth and give them a letter from my doctor they will happily allow this. But I want privacy. No one at work, not even HR should find out I did LL.
Please suggest some reasons which I can use.
The reasons I came up with are:
1. "I need to take care of a family member in a different city"
2. "I need to stay with my girlfriend who lives in a different city" - Can they ask me to fly once a month to come to office?
3. "I need to correct my bones" - Bad reason because they can ask me to produce a doctor's letter
Somehow I am not able to think of that "perfect" excuse. Note that the company doesn't care about me leaving. It's me who badly wants to keep the job. I am getting very nervous about the HR meeting.
[Serious] Please give me reasons to give to my employer
Also, my teammates and manager are really close to me. So I feel a little cold hearted to tell them "no more questions, it's personal". I want to give them a reason which would not be embarrassing and also give compassion I deserve.
The thing is, 8 months is unusually long. It's hard to justify this.
bow legs surgery. u can get doctor to produce note for that. dey dont need to be specific
Quote from: Serilium on May 12, 2021, 11:45:59 AMbow legs surgery. u can get doctor to produce note for that. dey dont need to be specific
1. I don't know if my doc will produce a false note. It's not bow legs surgery, so why would he write that?
2. I don't want me to ever be associated with my doctor in a note like that. He is famous at LL and one Google search will give me away. He is known for cosmetic LL in particular.
Take 24/7 care of dying mother. Mother has dementia and psychotic and panics and is crazy when around caretakers, cannot leave her alone. Cannot hire caretaker, cannot put into nursing home, she is psychotic and depression away from son. Nursing home "evicted" her due to bad behavior. Maybe she is even history of allergic to vaccines. Thus she cannot take the covid vaccine, and nursing home is dangerous. Attempted to put her into hospice but depression for her and she wants to stay with her son always, and rapidly deteriorated when she tried hospice for a week. She is terminally ill with some cancer or disease. Doctor expecting her to go to heaven in about 8 months. Please boss I need to take care of my mom. Thank you so much boss, allow me 8 months off. Please boss I am begging you. This is my mother. My productivity will be good boss I am begging you let me WFH (it wont, you'll probably need to take at least 2 weeks off at the start and productivity goes down due to pain and depression from LL journey).
Any suggestions people?
My company has offices in every tiny city. That's another headache. What if they say, "why don't you work from that branch instead?"
Sigh. Any good reasons people? There *has* to be that perfect excuse!
You need surgery on your legs. Say deformity. Be honest but don't tell him everything - he doesn't need to know everything.
You can provide proof later of surgery and pics of your legs healing. Don't overcomplicate this situation, don't lie. You'll do a ton of damage to yourself and your reputation if you start making up.
As I said my surgeon is famous at this procedure. One Google search and they will know its cosmetic LL. So no medical letters ever.
You're right about lying, it's important to not get caught here. That's why the reason should not be something verifiable.
The reason should elicit this response:
"Oh okay Tom, we understand you're going not be able to come to work for 8 months because of <reason>. We don't need to know anything more. You are allowed to work from home for 8 months. Best of luck"
in essence
Go to a psychiatrist and say you're so depressed/anxious that you can't work, or that you were abusing drugs but now you want to stop and need help dealing with withdrawl. Get a note from that doctor. That's the one type of doctor you don't need to show physical proof of an illness to.
Although your teammates and manager who're you're really close to might wonder how going away for 8 months for drug treatment made you so much taller.
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