I told my parents recently about my desire to have the surgery (I have saved almost 70k) and they are completely against it.
2 reasons why:
(1): "It's all in your head, it's an internal issue, you need to change your perspective", etc etc.
(2): They think the procedure is crazy and unwarranted for my disposition and that it is very high risk.
My father is a doctor and he has asked many orthopedic friends of his about this surgery and all of them are against it.
His main fear is an Osteomyelitis infection.
I would like to hear your opinions as to the risks of the surgery. Is it really not worth the risk/reward assessment? I have everything else going relatively well for me in life, it's just this dysphoria that has been a large burden for me over the past 5 years since I stopped growing.
Ps: I am 5'6.5, 21 years old, male, and am aiming for a 5.5-7 cm gain through PRECISE internal femurs hopefully with a U.S. doctor (Rozbruch or Paley), but might have to settle for an international one (Lee or Birkholtz)
I thought about that too, but here's my opinion on it:
I'd like to get it done right after university during my gap year as it is one of the only times in which it would be most feasible. It's a transition phase so it's not like I would just take off from my job after a few years and come back half a year later taller.
Also I feel like the sooner the better as far as improving my quality of life (or at least providing the opportunity to reach a higher potential) as the 20's are supposed to be a very significant time in terms of dating, relationships, fun, etc.
I realise that I may not yet be fully mature yet at 21, but this dysphoria doesn't seem to be going away since the past few years and I feel as if time is winding down for the most opportune moment to get it done in my youth
My father is about 5'5.5, mother 5'2. My sister is 5'5, brother 5'9
Exactly how I feel, as if none of them will be able to truly grasp the degree to which it affects me. My mom likened it to a girl who is insecure because she has small breasts. Obviously not the case here as it is comparing apples to oranges lol.
I guess what I'm trying to truly grasp/understand is exactly how dangerous the procedure really is in terms of possibilities for complications, even if done under the best surgeons in the U.S. under the best procedure (PRECISE COBALT). I see a lot of success diaries and some troubling diaries but there are a whole lot of people who had the procedure and didn't write diaries so these diaries available are just a superficial scratch at the surface.
I don't really spend my money, it's a habit I've had since a kid. So all those savings plus a small online business/gig that I have been running for the past 3 years.
I've been thinking of the surgery for the past 3-4 years now. Sometimes I am convinced that I really should get it while other times I tell myself perhaps it's not the only option. It comes and goes in phases but I have noticed that over time my height dysphoria has only gotten worse and I am afraid it will continue in that direction as I progress through my twenties. I think about height every day.
@taller_in_kiev: that's what I'm afraid of. My opinion is that going to a psychologist would simply teach me how to deal with the internal factor, yet there still will always be that external factor re-affirming the internal factor in an endless loop. Yes I can mitigate the degree to which it affects me internally, but it will still always be there.
@android: hey! I've actually been following your progress with LL! And I saw that video, if only my parents were as supportive as his parents lol! But yes I told them that I don't have any grandeur dreams of towering tall, I just want to be average. Where I'm from, my height puts me below the 15th percentile. 85% of men are taller than me. If I could even just get to the 50th percentile it would be such a relief . Their main concern stems from the issue of safety. They still believe, even with precise, that the procedure is very dangerous (it is a very invasive procedure) and are gravely afraid of any possible complications that may arise from it. They just don't think that my height should be that big of an issue to risk myself to this surgery. Easier said than done, however.
But I've been having some questions of doubt too about the surgery despite me committing to myself that I will get it done within the next 1-2 years. I too am very afraid of any possible complications that may arise, despite going through with PRECISE COBALT and a U.S. surgeon. My life is not bad at all right now and if I were (knock on wood) to become paralyzed or debilitated for the rest of my life I really would not know how to get over my decision.
@taller_in_kiev: Thanks for the advice my friend. I definitely am a bit nervous about it as I am fully committed to doing so (I think that's completely logical imo) but can't wait for the day when my height will no longer become an issue of thought anymore 
Btw, in your profile pic, is that a before and after LL going left to right?
What exactly happened to unicorn in summary? I've read parts of her diary but it is very dense. From what I understand, she is unfortunately still unable to walk since 2 summers ago with the Guichet Nail
I've been a lurker here since 2015 and have read a fair amount of diaries and have been following :(purushrottam, andrewshizzles, overrideyourgenetics, android, etc.)
But yes, I should read more.
Can you give me a list of recommendations?
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