I told my parents recently about my desire to have the surgery (I have saved almost 70k) and they are completely against it.
2 reasons why:
(1): "It's all in your head, it's an internal issue, you need to change your perspective", etc etc.
(2): They think the procedure is crazy and unwarranted for my disposition and that it is very high risk.
My father is a doctor and he has asked many orthopedic friends of his about this surgery and all of them are against it.
His main fear is an Osteomyelitis infection.
I would like to hear your opinions as to the risks of the surgery. Is it really not worth the risk/reward assessment? I have everything else going relatively well for me in life, it's just this dysphoria that has been a large burden for me over the past 5 years since I stopped growing.
Ps: I am 5'6.5, 21 years old, male, and am aiming for a 5.5-7 cm gain through PRECISE internal femurs hopefully with a U.S. doctor (Rozbruch or Paley), but might have to settle for an international one (Lee or Birkholtz)
I don't think you're crazy, but at 21, I feel you need to give it more time. Spend a few more years at least thinking it over. If you are saving good money, you can continue saving without an interruption in your life. You should go to the best doctor in the US if you can afford it, rather than going internationally. If the feelings become less intense over the next few years then you will not need to consider it, and if they remain the procedure won't vanish. How tall is your father?
I thought about that too, but here's my opinion on it:
I'd like to get it done right after university during my gap year as it is one of the only times in which it would be most feasible. It's a transition phase so it's not like I would just take off from my job after a few years and come back half a year later taller.
Also I feel like the sooner the better as far as improving my quality of life (or at least providing the opportunity to reach a higher potential) as the 20's are supposed to be a very significant time in terms of dating, relationships, fun, etc.
I realise that I may not yet be fully mature yet at 21, but this dysphoria doesn't seem to be going away since the past few years and I feel as if time is winding down for the most opportune moment to get it done in my youth
My father is about 5'5.5, mother 5'2. My sister is 5'5, brother 5'9
Your father, being short, may recoil from the implication that his height is somehow insufficient, as being a successful man has probably allowed him to overlook it with more ease, especially now that he's older. Your mother is your mother, and so will love you whatever way you are, so naturally she will not want you to have the surgery. Your brother, being taller than you, will not be able to relate to your state of mind. Your sister will not understand your point of view as a short man.
There are many reasons people cannot relate. Again though, if you are going to do it, you should go to the best. This is a serious surgery, the most invasive cosmetic procedure there is. There is a risk of fat embolism you should consider.
Exactly how I feel, as if none of them will be able to truly grasp the degree to which it affects me. My mom likened it to a girl who is insecure because she has small breasts. Obviously not the case here as it is comparing apples to oranges lol.
I guess what I'm trying to truly grasp/understand is exactly how dangerous the procedure really is in terms of possibilities for complications, even if done under the best surgeons in the U.S. under the best procedure (PRECISE COBALT). I see a lot of success diaries and some troubling diaries but there are a whole lot of people who had the procedure and didn't write diaries so these diaries available are just a superficial scratch at the surface.
Quote from: Frogger on August 17, 2018, 03:43:00 AMExactly how I feel, as if none of them will be able to truly grasp the degree to which it affects me. My mom likened it to a girl who is insecure because she has small breasts. Obviously not the case here as it is comparing apples to oranges lol.
I guess what I'm trying to truly grasp/understand is exactly how dangerous the procedure really is in terms of complications, even if done under the best surgeons in the U.S. under the best procedure (PRECISE COBALT). I see a lot of success diaries and some troubling diaries but there are a whole lot of people who had the procedure and didn't write diaries so these diaries available are just a superficial scratch at the surface.
read my topic about the risks and how to limit them: http://www.limblengtheningforum.com/index.php?topic=8960.0
if you do enough research on the procedure and understand every risk, you can find ways to limit risks as much as possible.
The procedure is safe. Although there are risks.
Recovery is key. Atheltic recovery that is.
You will be fine in the end and taller. Just remember it comes at great cost. Financially. Time wise. Emotionally. Physically.
In the end you will win. Its only you who is suffering so do not worry about what others think.
At the same time I would be weary to tell my family.
I could see them taunting me for the rest of my life. Even if I was taller and achieved my goal at the end.
Check if your plated fused in the legs. Get fit. Then decide
WTF? How have you saved up 70k at 21? I'm 20 and just barely breaching the $40k mark and I've been saving since I was about 17. Obviously you invest or got a trade, union job rather than going to uni?
Btw, your parents will never understand. EVER. Especially (well for me at least) not your mother. I don't plan on telling them unfortunately. With Stryde I'm hoping I can get my downtime to ~2 months and tell them I was on vacation in Florida staying with a friend (I do have a friend I visit in Florida). Honestly I just can't imagine any parent being supportive until you get it, and show them how happy you are and how different your life is. This is your life you have to live, they won't experience it. They should be proud at the amount of money you've saved and your tenacity, at the very least.
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