Telling everyone you had LL.

TomD raised this question in my head and it's a totally different discussion than what to tell your friends/co-workers.

Could you tell your friends the truth? LL-procedure is not like having a nose job or breast implant.
To admit you went through all of this and even risking your life for some cm shows how low self esteem and shallow you are. You're admitting that you are short and feel bad about it. It's like cheating the natural course of life some people say(Swedish website with LL-discussion).

Most of the people know about LL in the back of their heads(even my father knew about this) but they just don't understand it. That's why they will talk behind your back, some will think you're a freak, maybe some will think you're brave I don't know but the general conception is that you have to be out of your mind doing such a thing.

I will never admit that I did it, even if someone found proof.

I will come up with a lie for my femurs as well. Even if I have to tell them I did LL on femurs in Sweden bc they messed up my legs in India.

But I hate to lie. Too much to keep track of and I slipped once when a friend asked why I was hurt in both of my legs when it was only one I broke. Then I instantly found out a new lie..... That sucks.

I told my father the truth but I don't want my brother to know - not yet though.

We shouldn't be ashamed for doing this but I hope everyone knows how the society works today!

Great post Sweden!!

I am not going to tell anyone new I meet. If you are still 25 or 30 and single, you wont have to worry about this for long.

You will meet new people, change jobs, meet a new lady, get married. Soon, the only people who will ever know you were short are your immediate family.

At some point, you will have to tell your lady friend as she will meet your parents and see photos of you as a short guy. This is at a very serious point though. You wouldnt tell a casual girlfriend.

I would just bite the bullet for now and tell them all the truth. We were short, it sucked and so we did something about it.

Just like a boob job, nose job , hair transplant or anything else. Its just as superficial as all those things. So what?

Ask yourself this ;

Would you rather put up with temporary embarrassment of being shallow or would you rather still be short??? 

I told everyone. Literally everyone. Close family, parents, cousins, close friends and not so close friends, all of my partners (girlfriends) so far.. everyone. And I just don't see why I should be ashamed of it. And I had almost everyone's support, since I could justify why I wanted this. No one has to agree with me on every subject, no one has to like me either. If someone thinks that this is shallow, then so be it.

Not telling a partner isn't fair to them. I like to be open and honest about everything as much as possible.

There's nothing superficial about wanting to be comfortable with your body image.

You only get superficial when you judge others for the way they look.

You have every right to make decisions about yourself.

We have different points of view Chris.

Wanting to be taller is superficial. As is a hair transplant. As is a nose job. As is lasik eye surgery. Boob job. Etc....

Just because we have a superficial idea, does not mean we are superficial as a whole and see the entire world through that lens . We may want to refrain from using one incident to blanketing ourselves with that characteristic.

I believe that within 10 years of getting LL, we may be surrounded by folks who have never seen us short. Are we going to sit them down and explain it all to them?

If we start seeing someone, are we going to tell every single woman we go on a date with? no . If we become serious about her, then yes.

I found that as I got  older there really is no 'high road' to take when it comes to human nature. Taking some kind of high road is considered by many to be superficial and quite frankly disingenuous. 

A few things to remember:

1.  Almost everything we do these days is cheating nature.  Especially in medicine.

2.  Almost everyone does something to boost their self esteem or improve how they look.  This might be as simple as combing hair or make-up to tanning or cosmetic surgery, dressing well, etc.  We are all playing the same game here.

3.  Most people if they could afford it and knew they would get favorable results would do some cosmetic surgery of some sort.

4.  People talk about people behind their back all the time.  Regardless of what you do.  If you had spent that $20000 on a new sports car or a boat or watch, or whatever, people are gonna say   about your purchase.

5.  The people who shun you for it will have at some point shunned you for something else too.  So you are not losing anything too valuable.

6.  fk it.

I do fear people finding out, but in the end, the only people I really care about are my grand parents, because they are from a  different era and I am pretty sure they wouldn't approve at all.  If others don't approve, so what.  Most people I see daily now I didn't even know existed 3 years ago.  That is the pace of the modern world.

A lot of people are doing Ll not because they have low self esteem. But they hate the way people treat them because they are short. Being short has social consequences. Heightism is very real. ANd we are living in a shallow world. Alll of us get treated and treat others based on appearance. We dont treat everyhone the same. Because we dont see everyone as equal. We some people as superior and others as inferior. Its the social benefits that comes with being tall.

Quote from: wants2growtaller on October 14, 2018, 09:27:36 PMA lot of people are doing Ll not because they have low self esteem. But they hate the way people treat them because they are short. Being short has social consequences. Heightism is very real. ANd we are living in a shallow world. Alll of us get treated and treat others based on appearance. We dont treat everyhone the same. Because we dont see everyone as equal. We some people as superior and others as inferior. Its the social benefits that comes with being tall.

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Yes because we humans are so full of  . A 5'4 guy could be the best human being, a very compassionate person who helps everyone but 6'4 will be considered superior to him even if he is a cunt.

cll helps in that for shorter guy makes it much better for him and for the below average guys cll is a total game-changer would u agree?

I completely agree.  And your example is pretty much my life. My talents..and abilities can never outweight how society sees me as short as inferior. Its backwards. Because character should outweight appearance but it doesnt. This world a person has to have the right look ANd character to succeed. Personality and shortness doesnt cut it.

By the way ..im a short woman and I get treated like shirt. So short stature has a profound negative impact on women as well.