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Anyone ever made up with exes? Need some suggestions!

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Minkowski
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Posted on Jan 15, 2022, 2:23 pm
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  Hey I am wondering if anyone here has ever succeeded in making up with exes, especially first love cuz I am now bombarded with negative emotions induced from letting her go. What's worse, after she broke up with me, I had harassed her for many times by e-mail and letter so I dunno how she is thinking of me rn, but it had aggravated the situations and I am more likely to make up with her.
  It was her that broke up with me, so if there is any romance expert on here, plz gimme some suggestions or maybe I can do nothing but to forget her.
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ilovescience
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Posted on Jan 15, 2022, 2:42 pm
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Quote from: Mulholland Dr on January 15, 2022, 02:23:12 PM  Hey I am wondering if anyone here has ever succeeded in making up with exes, especially first love cuz I am now bombarded with negative emotions induced from letting her go. What's worse, after she broke up with me, I had harassed her for many times by e-mail and letter so I dunno how she is thinking of me rn, but it had aggravated the situations and I am more likely to make up with her.
  It was her that broke up with me, so if there is any romance expert on here, plz gimme some suggestions or maybe I can do nothing but to forget her.

Does her parents know this? If she complained to her parents it might be hard to 挽回這段愛情. Sorry gotta use Chinese, don't know the phrase for that in English.
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Posted on Jan 15, 2022, 3:00 pm
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Quote from: ilovescience on January 15, 2022, 02:42:22 PMDoes her parents know this? If she complained to her parents it might be hard to 挽回這段愛情. Sorry gotta use Chinese, don't know the phrase for that in English.
Yeah her parents know this and in English '挽回爱情' is just 'make up'.
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Posted on Jan 15, 2022, 4:01 pm
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I don't have any advice since I've never successfully done it, but I am in the same position (although I never did any harassment) so I'm curious about advice as well, especially from two Chinese people here.

I went a bit shen jing bing (crazy) at Guang Ji hospital due to constant LL discomfort and restlessnes, and was acting like an obnoxious jackass for entertainment purposes.  She was losing face by being associated with me so she distanced herself and found someone new, then we had a big fight when I took issue with how she'd gone about doing that, then a couple of months after I left Beijing we sort of made up over e-mail and talked for a while, then she went to a European university and didn't keep in touch.

She's the Tiger girl I mentioned in the new year thread, by the way.  Already about to be 36.  So much time lost. Anyone ever made up with exes? Need some suggestions!
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Posted on Jan 15, 2022, 4:06 pm
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Quote from: Medium Drink Of Water on January 15, 2022, 04:01:29 PMI don't have any advice since I've never successfully done it, but I am in the same position (although I never did any harassment) so I'm curious about advice as well, especially from two Chinese people here.

I went a bit shen jing bing (crazy) at Guang Ji hospital due to constant LL discomfort and restlessnes, and was acting like an obnoxious jackass for entertainment purposes.  She was losing face by being associated with me so she distanced herself and found someone new, then we had a big fight when I took issue with how she'd gone about doing that, then a couple of months after I left Beijing we sort of made up over e-mail and talked for a while, then she went to a European university and didn't keep in touch.

She's the Tiger girl I mentioned in the new year thread, by the way.  Already about to be 36.  So much time lost. Anyone ever made up with exes? Need some suggestions!

In Chinese societies, if daughter complained to her father about her boyfriend and her father doesn't like the boyfriend, it would be hard to rescue the love they have had, leading to break up forever or divorce more likely. It's not always the case as some parents won't decide for them.
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Posted on Jan 15, 2022, 4:24 pm
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That's good news.  Her parents didn't even know she was getting LL so I doubt she told them about me.  And even if she did, they have no idea what I look like and my name is different now. Anyone ever made up with exes? Need some suggestions!
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Posted on Jan 15, 2022, 4:26 pm
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Quote from: Medium Drink Of Water on January 15, 2022, 04:24:57 PMThat's good news.  Her parents didn't even know she was getting LL so I doubt she told them about me.  And even if she did, they have no idea what I look like and my name is different now. Anyone ever made up with exes? Need some suggestions!

She is a Chinese? Not American?
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Posted on Jan 15, 2022, 4:41 pm
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I know it hurts, but you will get over it.  You will find another lift to live.   

What is stopping you from getting another girl?  If you can get one, then you probably can get another one.
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Posted on Jan 15, 2022, 4:44 pm
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Not with my first lover, but I had made up, when we were lovers again, it was never the same as the first time, we both got cold from each other and broke up without a fight.
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Posted on Jan 15, 2022, 4:45 pm
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Quote from: drxboom on January 15, 2022, 04:44:26 PMNot with my first lover, but I had made up, when we were lovers again, it was never the same as the first time, we both got cold from each other and broke up without a fight.

There is a Chinese old saying, first love is the most wonderful. Not sure if I agree with it. Do you think it makes sense?
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