Catching up to social standards without appearing like a pitiful late bloomer

So there is a height requirement in the western nations for dating and achieving social status, we know that.

But there is also (kind of) a dressing style requirement and social media popularity requirement to reach that level.

I had lots of other issues due to unfortunate circumstances before height became a problem when i was a early teenager all the way up until today, some of those problems made me really depressed, but mainly it made me neglect trying to be good at sports, trying to be the best in school, and i didnt even try to impress girls or people at school by having the latest phones or modern clothes etc. I maybe started making some effort around when i turned 18, but then i was behind by a lot and i realized that i lacked certain things to ever reach that level (like height)

I never followed fashion and i didnt take weight lifting seriously due to these problems. So i ended up being behind the cool kids in most areas.

I know i have the looks and now i have the height as well to be considered on the same level as them, but to get there i also need to dress similar to them and take lots of pictures of me doing random stuff and trying to make it look like i am living the perfect life, and then posting it on social medias like instagram and fb.

I think i will just skip the whole social media crap, at least i wont get to invested into it, because i think its a bit ridiculous. But when it comes to dressing "properly" (people expect you to wear hip hop caps, beats by dre without using them, expensive sneakers or these colorful airmax shoes with elevated soles, you should have some weird bracelets or random ornaments around your wrists unless you have an expensive looking watch, and some kind of necklace/chain, crosses are way overused even by non-believers lol).

Some of these dressing pieces i do use, like chains and watches, but all the other crap while i agree that it looks kind of good, its also not original at all at this point, and it doesnt show any kind of personality imo. But for some reason if you dont dress like this at least occasionally you wont be considered cool it seems.

So my problem now is that i dont know how i should do, i want to improve my dressing style because i never bothered before. But it will seem like i am catching up so late that it might seem a bit pathetic. I shouldnt care about what others think of me but i have to admit that i do that a lot.

Anybody else having this convoluted issue? xD or if you are intending to improve everything about your looks after LL this might be something you have thought about before.

This is only relevant in the 18- late 20s age group i imagine. So it might look even more sad if i try to catch up when im starting to get to old to dress this way. well i have some years left but its still very late.

I always had the grunge look because it's what I was into. I had a lot of friends into the same sort of style, and how you dress does seem to influence who will be drawn to you to a degree. I think getting built can also help. In high school I was short of course so I was never the center of attention or Mr Popular, but at least a lot of people includng on the football team showed me a level of respect that I would not have received otherwise. Maintaining physical fitness can help social interactions too without having to go overboard on a wardrobe makeover and change who you are. At least if you do change your style make sure it's something you're comfortable with and not totally alien to you.

Quote from: KiloKAHN on July 25, 2014, 02:29:03 AM