Quote from: jakejake98 on February 18, 2019, 03:42:53 PMSorry if some of these questions have already been asked + answered and they may seem a bit ignorant.
If you had the finance to do two surgeries, what stopped you from doing two?
Was there an element of fear (1) of doing two or was it because you feel like you would be satisfied at 5'9?
Would you ever consider doing another surgery to gain more height, or are you satisfied?
Do you feel like the height you've achieved is essentially all you wanted or is there a chance you might come back for more?
Would you ever have chosen another LL doctor?
I mean, if you didn't have the finance for Dr Paley, would you without question have endeavored to raise enough for him?
(1) With fear I mean factors such as recovery-time, how much you recover and proportions etc.
I can finance another surgery with the raise that I just got. However I'm not going to do it. It was a really taxing experience overall. Going from 5'6" to 5'9" was a huge change. Going from 5'9" to 5'11" isn't really that big of a deal to me
I essentially achieved all that I wanted. Now I'm focusing on my career and other aspects of my life.
I was originally considering going to India with Dr. Parihar. The cost was about $45,000 at the time. However my parents convinced me to go to Dr. Paley, arguing that when you take a loan, the monthly payments between $40,000 and $80,000 aren't that different. Even though I am Indian (and family friends with Dr. Parihar), going to another country would have added more stress to this already taxing experience.
Femoral Lengthening with Dr. Paley
Quote from: Purushrottam on February 18, 2019, 05:55:53 PMI can finance another surgery with the raise that I just got. However I'm not going to do it. It was a really taxing experience overall. Going from 5'6" to 5'9" was a huge change. Going from 5'9" to 5'11" isn't really that big of a deal to me
I essentially achieved all that I wanted. Now I'm focusing on my career and other aspects of my life.
I was originally considering going to India with Dr. Parihar. The cost was about $45,000 at the time. However my parents convinced me to go to Dr. Paley, arguing that when you take a loan, the monthly payments between $40,000 and $80,000 aren't that different. Even though I am Indian (and family friends with Dr. Parihar), going to another country would have added more stress to this already taxing experience.
Do you think Dr. Parihar is a good doctor from what you know outside this forum and that you would have had a comparable outcome?
Hey Paru - as you know we are the same height.
Are there ever days you wake up and think 'did I really go through with this?' like look at your femurs and think damn did I really do doing something so drastic.
Now I'm certainly not saying that in a negative way - as you know already, I want to do this.
Secondly, I know you've said you don't have regret - but when you think about the things that are important to you in life - do you think this was one of those achievements you had to try achieve. I look at this in terms of improvement - as in I want to maximise my career, my ability in my hobbies (e.g. tennis football) , my funniness and social skills and also my aesthetics; with height being arguably the most important for a man.
Also what is it like at family gatherings?!
Quote from: MichaelJose on February 18, 2019, 08:03:37 PMHey Paru - as you know we are the same height.
Are there ever days you wake up and think 'did I really go through with this?' like look at your femurs and think damn did I really do doing something so drastic.
Not really. I honestly don't think about it that much. Also my femurs don't really look that weird anymore. After the surgery my legs were abnormally skinny compared to my upper body. I looked like one of those frat bros who only worked on 'vanity muscles' while having chicken legs. Now my leg muscles have grown quite a bit and my body looks 'normal'.
Quote from: MichaelJose on February 18, 2019, 08:03:37 PM
Now I'm certainly not saying that in a negative way - as you know already, I want to do this.
I know, don't worry about offending me.
Quote from: MichaelJose on February 18, 2019, 08:03:37 PM
Secondly, I know you've said you don't have regret - but when you think about the things that are important to you in life - do you think this was one of those achievements you had to try achieve. I look at this in terms of improvement - as in I want to maximise my career, my ability in my hobbies (e.g. tennis football) , my funniness and social skills and also my aesthetics; with height being arguably the most important for a man.
Its sort of hard to answer that. Prior to LL, I thought I had done everything possible in terms of improvement (career, hobbies, social skills). I had a pretty decent life. However I had a nagging feeling on the back of my mind that I had to make up for my lack of height. It used to be frustrating because that is the one thing you can do nothing about (other than race). Its a lot more important than people think it is. Now I get the sense that whenver something bad happens, its not because of my height, its something else that can be IMPROVED upon. There is a sense of hope.
I'm not entirely sure if I answered your question
Quote from: MichaelJose on February 18, 2019, 08:03:37 PM
Also what is it like at family gatherings?!
Same as before. I'm not sure if I follow
Quote from: ok on February 18, 2019, 06:13:34 PMDo you think Dr. Parihar is a good doctor from what you know outside this forum and that you would have had a comparable outcome?
KiloKahn and Penguinn seem to think so. I know he isn't salesman-y and isn't that money minded (otherwise he would have raised the price of surgery to keep up with inflation). He mostly focuses on accident victims and people with deformities. I don't think there are that many cosmetic patients with him. I think you are better off asking those 2 users. Penguinn had a slower consolidation but you can probably attribute it to the air pollution in Mumbai (smoking hinders bone growth. Air pollution in Mumbai is not bad by Indian standards but still higher than what you would experience in US or EU. Akin to smoking a few packs a day).
Yeah I get you and thanks for answering my questions.
So in hindsight - do you ever think that you could of been okay if you just didn't do it?
For example I see this as expectation management - I'm sure you could've got a nice wife, nice job etc without this but did you do this because you wanted more but you think your height was restricting you? I feel like that tbh.
I know if I just reduce my expectations I could have a very happy life without LL but honestly I want the best for myself and the older I get the more I see the importance of height or more specifically I should say the negative of being short.
Puru, how do you explain your suddenly becoming taller to your close friends and family? diet, exercise and improved posture? just curious, thanks.
Quote from: 7231 on February 20, 2019, 01:14:39 AMPuru, how do you explain your suddenly becoming taller to your close friends and family? diet, exercise and improved posture? just curious, thanks.
Pretty much.
Quote from: Purushrottam on February 18, 2019, 08:22:58 PM
KiloKahn and Penguinn seem to think so. I know he isn't salesman-y and isn't that money minded (otherwise he would have raised the price of surgery to keep up with inflation). He mostly focuses on accident victims and people with deformities. I don't think there are that many cosmetic patients with him. I think you are better off asking those 2 users. Penguinn had a slower consolidation but you can probably attribute it to the air pollution in Mumbai (smoking hinders bone growth. Air pollution in Mumbai is not bad by Indian standards but still higher than what you would experience in US or EU. Akin to smoking a few packs a day).
Few packs a day? Dude that is not true! I did some reading and it seems to be about 3-4 times in Mumbai than in the US. And it might be 3-4 cigarrates a day but not a few packs a day.
Anyway it is interesting how no one has brought up air pollution as a possible factor. Maybe using an air purifier might help.
ALso I have read both the diaries in great detail but I wanted to know if you know anything more about the doctor from outside of this community. From my research and asking a few other ortho docs he seems to be considered one of the best in India.
One more question, did you meet any real LL patients before your operation? I think I would get courage to do this only if I met a few real patients.
Quote from: ok on February 20, 2019, 05:50:07 AMFew packs a day? Dude that is not true! I did some reading and it seems to be about 3-4 times in Mumbai than in the US. And it might be 3-4 cigarrates a day but not a few packs a day.
Anyway it is interesting how no one has brought up air pollution as a possible factor. Maybe using an air purifier might help.
ALso I have read both the diaries in great detail but I wanted to know if you know anything more about the doctor from outside of this community. From my research and asking a few other ortho docs he seems to be considered one of the best in India.
One more question, did you meet any real LL patients before your operation? I think I would get courage to do this only if I met a few real patients.
My bad, that was a typo. I meant to say several cigarettes a day, not packs. I dont smoke so I assumed that it was the same thing. Mumbai's pollution is not that bad compared to any other Asian metro of that size, but it is enough to impact your bone consolidation.
I don't know anything else about the doctor other than what you said, that he is considered amongst the best in India.
I met several LL patients in Florida. The Paley Insitute lets you talk to current patients and former patients. When I came to the hotel I was staying at, several other patients were there. Before my surgery, I met them and spoke to them. If you are in India I'm sure Parihar will introduce you to former patients as well.
Quote from: MichaelJose on February 18, 2019, 11:33:30 PMYeah I get you and thanks for answering my questions.
So in hindsight - do you ever think that you could of been okay if you just didn't do it?
For example I see this as expectation management - I'm sure you could've got a nice wife, nice job etc without this but did you do this because you wanted more but you think your height was restricting you? I feel like that tbh.
I know if I just reduce my expectations I could have a very happy life without LL but honestly I want the best for myself and the older I get the more I see the importance of height or more specifically I should say the negative of being short.
Hey bud - did you get a chance to reply to this?
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