Femoral Lengthening with Dr. Paley

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Quote from: MichaelJose on February 21, 2019, 11:15:51 PMHey bud - did you get a chance to reply to this?

Oops. I forgot to hit ‘Post’

Quote from: MichaelJose on February 18, 2019, 11:33:30 PMYeah I get you and thanks for answering my questions.

So in hindsight - do you ever think that you could of been okay if you just didn't do it?

For example I see this as expectation management - I'm sure you could've got a nice wife, nice job etc without this but did you do this because you wanted more but you think your height was restricting you? I feel like that tbh.

I know if I just reduce my expectations I could have a very happy life without LL but honestly I want the best for myself and the older I get the more I see the importance of height or more specifically I should say the negative of being short. 

In hindsight I would not have been OK. I used to get insanely pissed off at the fact that I had to do so much to make up for the fact that I was 5’6” and Indian. 5’6” isn’t even a bad height lol. I had a very good life on paper but I was still miserable. I kept wondering what else could it possibly be?

It was definitely leading me to a dark path ...

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Do you feel differently about a man's height and its relation to everything else now, Puru? Or did the real world reaffirm your old views and beliefs, whatever they were?

Thanks.

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Quote from: myloginacc on February 22, 2019, 02:51:27 AMDo you feel differently about a man's height and its relation to everything else now, Puru? Or did the real world reaffirm your old views and beliefs, whatever they were?

Thanks.

This is a really good question - surely the original beliefs were re-affirmed.

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Quote from: Purushrottam on February 22, 2019, 02:00:10 AMOops. I forgot to hit ‘Post’

In hindsight I would not have been OK. I used to get insanely pissed off at the fact that I had to do so much to make up for the fact that I was 5’6” and Indian. 5’6” isn’t even a bad height lol. I had a very good life on paper but I was still miserable. I kept wondering what else could it possibly be?

It was definitely leading me to a dark path ...

Thanks for answering pal

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Quote from: MichaelJose on February 22, 2019, 08:56:54 AMThis is a really good question - surely the original beliefs were re-affirmed.

Life is far from black and white, and Puru is a really intelligent dude. Eager for his response.

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Quote from: myloginacc on February 22, 2019, 02:51:27 AMDo you feel differently about a man's height and its relation to everything else now, Puru? Or did the real world reaffirm your old views and beliefs, whatever they were?

Thanks.

This is a really difficult question. Sorry for the delay. I had to really think about this.

Honestly, the only place where a man's height matters is probably in dating and relationships. And even then, it helps to just not be short. Being average is fine and being tall is a bonus. I go out with friends who are 6'1, 6'2, and 6'9 in different social settings. At my height I don't really feel at a disadvantage with them. When I was 5'6", I knew literally 0 people who looked like me who were in good, healthy relationships. That can make you feel really hopeless. I don't feel hopeless anymore. As a consequence, I try harder at everything else (job, gym, etc). Small things like that make you even more confident and the cycle just continues. Its like a virtuous cycle (opposite of a vicious cycle).

Career wise, I'm doing way better than I thought I'd ever do but considering that I have over 5 years of experience and live in an expensive location its not that much of a leap.

I never had trouble making friends before and I don't feel any differently now so I don't think my height really had an effect on that.

I hope that answers your question.

Quote from: myloginacc on February 22, 2019, 03:55:39 PMLife is far from black and white, and Puru is a really intelligent dude. Eager for his response.

I'm flattered that you think so, man!

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I am having a tough time with relationships and casual dating with my current height at 5 foot 6(Puru's previous height)..My friends who are dating gorgeous women are all 5foot 8 and above...At times,I say it is what it is and move on.Other times,I get angry, depressed and really frustrated..But hey, who said life is fair?

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Quote from: Realistic on February 23, 2019, 06:05:38 PMI am having a tough time with relationships and casual dating with my current height at 5 foot 6(Puru's previous height)..My friends who are dating gorgeous women are all 5foot 8 and above...At times,I say it is what it is and move on.Other times,I get angry, depressed and really frustrated..But hey, who said life is fair?

Thats exactly how I felt. The worst part is, very few people will know what you are talking about and just give you dumb plattitudes. I wasn't having trouble dating before, but it was chicks that I was not really attracted to.

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Update:

I am 'financially recovered' from the surgery. I have the same amount of money now that I had before LL. Loans still pending though.

I finally got the money for rod removal. I'm scheduling it with Rozbruch this month. Looking forward to the next chapter in life.

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Quote from: Purushrottam on March 02, 2019, 05:30:21 AMUpdate:

I am 'financially recovered' from the surgery. I have the same amount of money now that I had before LL. Loans still pending though.

I finally got the money for rod removal. I'm scheduling it with Rozbruch this month. Looking forward to the next chapter in life.

Congratulations Purushrottam ! You're did it, man!  I have one question. Did Dr. R happen to mention how soon you are able to walk after rod removal?  I have always been curious about how much down time would be required after that surgery.   Any feedback is appreciated.  Congrats again!