Hi all,
After doing some extensive research I am pretty sure I’m going to be doing CLL with Dr Debiparshad once Stryde comes back, hoping to go from 168 cm to 176 cm. I realize that for obvious reasons people who do this surgery don’t tell anyone before hand but I am sure there are cases where it’s inevitable.
I am in a serious long term relationship with someone I live with so there’s no way around doing this without telling them beforehand. She is about 3 inches shorter than me and has never had any issues with my height although she knows I’m self conscious about my height, so I am anticipating that she will be pretty against it. We have talked about the surgery before (ie me mentioning that I saw an article where people got this type of surgery), but I’ve never mentioned that I have considered it. In fact once I joked that if she got a BBL I would get CLL, she had a laugh at that.
So to people who have done this before and had to discuss it with your partner beforehand, how did you tell them? How did they react?
Quote from: Llentt90 on September 15, 2021, 04:54:27 AMHi all,
After doing some extensive research I am pretty sure I’m going to be doing CLL with Dr Debiparshad once Stryde comes back, hoping to go from 168 cm to 176 cm. I realize that for obvious reasons people who do this surgery don’t tell anyone before hand but I am sure there are cases where it’s inevitable.
I am in a serious long term relationship with someone I live with so there’s no way around doing this without telling them beforehand. She is about 3 inches shorter than me and has never had any issues with my height although she knows I’m self conscious about my height, so I am anticipating that she will be pretty against it. We have talked about the surgery before (ie me mentioning that I saw an article where people got this type of surgery), but I’ve never mentioned that I have considered it. In fact once I joked that if she got a BBL I would get CLL, she had a laugh at that.
So to people who have done this before and had to discuss it with your partner beforehand, how did you tell them? How did they react?
How old are you now? If you got it done and felt uncomfortable telling your girlfriend that you done LL, just tell her that: I grew a few inches taller recently, because I slept before 10PM and did some stretching exercises as well as playing basketball. Now I am 5'9.
By the way, 168cm isn't too bad, it's about 5'6 and a half. Wear some thick shoes and you would look almost 5'8.
Quote from: Llentt90 on September 15, 2021, 04:54:27 AMHi all,
After doing some extensive research I am pretty sure I’m going to be doing CLL with Dr Debiparshad once Stryde comes back, hoping to go from 168 cm to 176 cm. I realize that for obvious reasons people who do this surgery don’t tell anyone before hand but I am sure there are cases where it’s inevitable.
I am in a serious long term relationship with someone I live with so there’s no way around doing this without telling them beforehand. She is about 3 inches shorter than me and has never had any issues with my height although she knows I’m self conscious about my height, so I am anticipating that she will be pretty against it. We have talked about the surgery before (ie me mentioning that I saw an article where people got this type of surgery), but I’ve never mentioned that I have considered it. In fact once I joked that if she got a BBL I would get CLL, she had a laugh at that.
So to people who have done this before and had to discuss it with your partner beforehand, how did you tell them? How did they react?
I told my wife and at first she was shocked and told me this is some crazy sh*. And honestly, to some degree I thought she's right. That is why I explained to her how I ended up, mentally, in the situation in which I feel compelled to do it. This means I showed my vulnerable side and let her in on the part of my life where I took some damage. Let's be honest, we don't end up doing LL just because we want a few extra inches. This is first and foremost a mental problem we are solving here - we want to be free, we want to be confident, we want to live our lives without fear and without a rock that somehow got tied to our feet a long time ago. Is LL a cosmetic procedure? I am not so sure. I think for many of us it is much more than that. The benefits go way beyond just a few inches in extra height. Who knows, a more confident you may be more successful at work which may result in a better income for your family.
When my wife saw the bigger picture she came onboard. If someone truly loves you they don't want you to hurt yourself so they will oppose any cosmetic procedure that involves breaking legs, but when you explain that the procedure isn't quite as cosmetic as it looks on first glance and that there are more profound issues to be solved, her opinion will be more well-rounded and more in your favour because she also wants you to be happy.
So what you need is a frank faceup conversation about why you feel the way you feel, that is the important bit. Why do you have a problem and why do you feel strongly about fixing it. There must be a very good reason and if your partner loves you then she will understand. If, however, you beat around the bush and tell her some BS like you grew "a few inches because you went to bed before 10PM", you might disappoint her twice, once for taking her for an utter idiot and then for lying to her about something as serious as this. This procedure is very tough, what you need is support and what you definitely do not need is drama with your partner. Trust me, I saw people in the hospital who spent days contemplating what they will tell their parents when they get discharged from hospital because he did it in secret. When the day finally arrived, there were a lot of tears and a lot of fear and also regret.
Be honest with her, it will be worth it.
Quote from: DonBones on September 15, 2021, 05:57:32 AMI told my wife and at first she was shocked and told me this is some crazy sh*. And honestly, to some degree I thought she's right. That is why I explained to her how I ended up, mentally, in the situation in which I feel compelled to do it. This means I showed my vulnerable side and let her in on the part of my life where I took some damage. Let's be honest, we don't end up doing LL just because we want a few extra inches. This is first and foremost a mental problem we are solving here - we want to be free, we want to be confident, we want to live our lives without fear and without a rock that somehow got tied to our feet a long time ago. Is LL a cosmetic procedure? I am not so sure. I think for many of us it is much more than that. The benefits go way beyond just a few inches in extra height. Who knows, a more confident you may be more successful at work which may result in a better income for your family.
When my wife saw the bigger picture she came onboard. If someone truly loves you they don't want you to hurt yourself so they will oppose any cosmetic procedure that involves breaking legs, but when you explain that the procedure isn't quite as cosmetic as it looks on first glance and that there are more profound issues to be solved, her opinion will be more well-rounded and more in your favour because she also wants you to be happy.
So what you need is a frank faceup conversation about why you feel the way you feel, that is the important bit. Why do you have a problem and why do you feel strongly about fixing it. There must be a very good reason and if your partner loves you then she will understand. If, however, you beat around the bush and tell her some BS like you grew "a few inches because you went to bed before 10PM", you might disappoint her twice, once for taking her for an utter idiot and then for lying to her about something as serious as this. This procedure is very tough, what you need is support and definitely no drama with your partner. Be honest with her, it will be worth it.
I understood you. But what if wife wants to file a divorce or break up with you because of the LL she couldn't accept? Sometimes some people might not accept it.
Quote from: ilovescience on September 15, 2021, 06:01:56 AMI understood you. But what if wife wants to file a divorce or break up with you because of the LL she couldn't accept? Sometimes some people might not accept it.
A loving wife / girlfriend who wants you to be happy and who is able to appreciate what you are going through will support you. Seven of the ten patients I met in Germany plus one patient from Australia I was in contact with had wives or girlfriends. In fact, two of the three who were single were sixteen and eighteen years old, a bit too young for anything serious anyway. And no one had to get divorced either 
I won't tell anyone. I actually will have to move to a different state anyway for 2-3 years. I plan on getting it din then. Doable I believe.
Quote from: DonBones on September 15, 2021, 05:57:32 AMI told my wife and at first she was shocked and told me this is some crazy sh*. And honestly, to some degree I thought she's right. That is why I explained to her how I ended up, mentally, in the situation in which I feel compelled to do it. This means I showed my vulnerable side and let her in on the part of my life where I took some damage. Let's be honest, we don't end up doing LL just because we want a few extra inches. This is first and foremost a mental problem we are solving here - we want to be free, we want to be confident, we want to live our lives without fear and without a rock that somehow got tied to our feet a long time ago. Is LL a cosmetic procedure? I am not so sure. I think for many of us it is much more than that. The benefits go way beyond just a few inches in extra height. Who knows, a more confident you may be more successful at work which may result in a better income for your family.
When my wife saw the bigger picture she came onboard. If someone truly loves you they don't want you to hurt yourself so they will oppose any cosmetic procedure that involves breaking legs, but when you explain that the procedure isn't quite as cosmetic as it looks on first glance and that there are more profound issues to be solved, her opinion will be more well-rounded and more in your favour because she also wants you to be happy.
So what you need is a frank faceup conversation about why you feel the way you feel, that is the important bit. Why do you have a problem and why do you feel strongly about fixing it. There must be a very good reason and if your partner loves you then she will understand. If, however, you beat around the bush and tell her some BS like you grew "a few inches because you went to bed before 10PM", you might disappoint her twice, once for taking her for an utter idiot and then for lying to her about something as serious as this. This procedure is very tough, what you need is support and what you definitely do not need is drama with your partner. Trust me, I saw people in the hospital who spent days contemplating what they will tell their parents when they get discharged from hospital because he did it in secret. When the day finally arrived, there were a lot of tears and a lot of fear and also regret.
Be honest with her, it will be worth it.
Hey DonBones,
Thank for the advice, I appreciate it. How is your journey so far with Betz? I have actually considered him some too in case Stryde takes too long to comeback. Only issue is I am in the US.
Quote from: Llentt90 on September 15, 2021, 04:06:58 PMHey DonBones,
Thank for the advice, I appreciate it. How is your journey so far with Betz? I have actually considered him some too in case Stryde takes too long to comeback. Only issue is I am in the US.
Hey,
so far so good. I am at 4.2cm at this point, meaning that I should be able to reach my lengthening goal next week if all goes well.
In my case everything went smoothly so far. The clicking was fairly easy from the start and got even better after about 3cm, so that now it's a matter of 5 minutes per day for both legs. The X-Ray was good, showing callus, a perfectly aligned nail and all screws tightly in place. My walk is slightly wide, but both Betz and Peter Woll, my physiotherapist, told me that considering I am at an advanced stage it's still very good.
So on the whole I can't complain, but I will reserve my final verdict until I am actually done
It's actually no problem that you're from the US. There were two patients from the US while I was there, and even someone from Nigeria. I'd recommend you stay in Germany for a few weeks after the hospital, however, to make sure you can click confidently and there are no problems that need immediate attention from Betz because once you're back in the US seeing Betz will be difficult.
I personally spent time at Elke's guesthouse before the hospital and then the Parkhotel Weiskirchen after the hospital and have to say the Parkhotel is better because they have a gym, a pool, a park where you can walk and a big facility where you can book a massage or a lymphatic drainage. It is also very close to Peter Woll who I strongly recommend you see before you go out into the wild because he is an extremely experienced physiotherapist who has seen hundreds if not thousands of LL patients. He has a sharp eye for what you will have to focus on and advice on how to work on your weaknesses.
In case you are interested in the financial matters, it came to around 60000€ / $70000 for everything so far
Of course, also read all diaries of the current patients. It will give you a more well rounded view, particularly on topics like clicking, which can vary in terms of difficulty and pain. Perhaps I will also write my own diary or review at some point soon.
Good luck!
I told my then gf that I wanted to become taller and LL is something I planed to do and I will do it at all costs as I wasn't happy with my height. She was ok with that, she was just afraid that all this time with a so massive surgery will harm our relationship.
She was right as we broke up 1-2 months before I removed my frames.
And she was the one and only girl that knew about my LL. Nonother gf I had never learned anything about it and it is something that I will keep it confidential to anyone (except my parents and 2 very close friends of them) till I die.
Quote from: Body Builder on September 15, 2021, 06:37:47 PMI told my then gf that I wanted to become taller and LL is something I planed to do and I will do it at all costs as I wasn't happy with my height. She was ok with that, she was just afraid that all this time with a so massive surgery will harm our relationship.
She was right as we broke up 1-2 months before I removed my frames.
And she was the one and only girl that knew about my LL. Nonother gf I had never learned anything about it and it is something that I will keep it confidential to anyone (except my parents and 2 very close friends of them) till I die.
its better this way because they would be disgusted. 
if i get this done i will not tell anybody either. only my family and close friends like you. imagine you put that in your dating profile you probably get like 0 matches lol
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