Quote from: Assyiah on April 22, 2024, 07:14:58 AM
Your comment is 100% spot on , im just living everyday struggling with my height i cant even live my life as a normal human being, it bothers me so much which is all mental i know , my dad and brothers look up to me since i was the one that took them out of poverty and i got both of my brothers into college, but i still feel less, you know? i wake up everyday with the same thought wishing i was taller even if it was 2inches , my girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me with a 6’2 dude as well and that got to my head so hard that i think about it all day long for the past 3months , i put up a plan to fix everything else in my life during this year and go for the surgery next year if everything goes well.
Dude great to hear you're taking the mental aspect seriously. It will get better. And if and when you decide to get the leg lengthening down the line, you'll definitely be happy you have worked on yourself before. I even remember some older leg lengthening diary on this forum where the dude noticed that there are two types of people in the leg lengthening facility he was in. Those who were already happy and successful in their lives and they seemed to be the ones who went on with improved lives after recovering from the surgery. They're the ones who actually enjoyed benefits of the surgery. Then there is the other group who is perpetually unhappy in their lives, always something to fix. They do the surgery and they don't get any more attention from women, no more tinder matches, no nothing. This is consistent data from both people's own experiences and diaries and from research.
Dude what you are describing makes me think you are a really stand up guy. At young age you have done good things for your family, you have worked hard, achieved something and you are self-aware. Your unhappiness with yourself, the feeling of not being enough etc is just one more thing on your path you wil lovercome. You will get far in life and you deserve happiness. I'm really glad you are taking the mental aspect seriously now, because there is nothing in that regard that can hold you back in the long run. You've already shown you are a guy who faces issues and challenges head on. Keep up the good work, and then whether you'll be the 6' tall guy in the future or not (which you might be of course), you'll be living your best life in either scenario.
Your long term girlfriend cheating on you with a tall guy, that's gonna get into your head, I get that. It does remind me of a street interview video, one of those asking strangers "Does height matter?". And a 5'7 guy there was saying it doesn't matter to him at all. He had a girlfiend of a NBA player cheat on the dude with him. So the reverse can happen too. Imagine how the NBA player might have felt when his girlfriend chose a below average height person to cheat with lol.
Quote from: onedaytall on April 22, 2024, 11:46:50 AMDude great to hear you're taking the mental aspect seriously. It will get better. And if and when you decide to get the leg lengthening down the line, you'll definitely be happy you have worked on yourself before. I even remember some older leg lengthening diary on this forum where the dude noticed that there are two types of people in the leg lengthening facility he was in. Those who were already happy and successful in their lives and they seemed to be the ones who went on with improved lives after recovering from the surgery. They're the ones who actually enjoyed benefits of the surgery. Then there is the other group who is perpetually unhappy in their lives, always something to fix. They do the surgery and they don't get any more attention from women, no more tinder matches, no nothing. This is consistent data from both people's own experiences and diaries and from research.
Dude what you are describing makes me think you are a really stand up guy. At young age you have done good things for your family, you have worked hard, achieved something and you are self-aware. Your unhappiness with yourself, the feeling of not being enough etc is just one more thing on your path you wil lovercome. You will get far in life and you deserve happiness. I'm really glad you are taking the mental aspect seriously now, because there is nothing in that regard that can hold you back in the long run. You've already shown you are a guy who faces issues and challenges head on. Keep up the good work, and then whether you'll be the 6' tall guy in the future or not (which you might be of course), you'll be living your best life in either scenario.
Your long term girlfriend cheating on you with a tall guy, that's gonna get into your head, I get that. It does remind me of a street interview video, one of those asking strangers "Does height matter?". And a 5'7 guy there was saying it doesn't matter to him at all. He had a girlfiend of a NBA player cheat on the dude with him. So the reverse can happen too. Imagine how the NBA player might have felt when his girlfriend chose a below average height person to cheat with lol.
your comment really helped and the comment above is right as well to some degree, alot of things i could have done have been weighed out by my height which i agree is true but i have been letting my height mess with my head for so long , only thing that was holding me back is my girlfriend but shes gone now , i went on a drug binge after i found out and lost myself. wasted so much opportunities financially. i changed alot of peoples lives that they appreciate me for , all my 20 employees that respect me alot which is crazy that i just turned 19 but i still cant love myself despite how far i came with everything finance wise, and the starting point is my height. I tried therapy and all it did was calm me down temporarily, the most thing that bothers me is that im incapable of talking about this to my social circle ill just lost respect and be looked down on as the insecure nerd. I tried talking to my dad about it but he just doesnt get it. it just clams me a bit that theres people that a-knowledge my issue and are giving tips to fix it wether its mentally or going through the surgery
Quote from: Assyiah on April 22, 2024, 12:24:43 PM
your comment really helped and the comment above is right as well to some degree, alot of things i could have done have been weighed out by my height which i agree is true but i have been letting my height mess with my head for so long , only thing that was holding me back is my girlfriend but shes gone now , i went on a drug binge after i found out and lost myself. wasted so much opportunities financially. i changed alot of peoples lives that they appreciate me for , all my 20 employees that respect me alot which is crazy that i just turned 19 but i still cant love myself despite how far i came with everything finance wise, and the starting point is my height. I tried therapy and all it did was calm me down temporarily, the most thing that bothers me is that im incapable of talking about this to my social circle ill just lost respect and be looked down on as the insecure nerd. I tried talking to my dad about it but he just doesnt get it. it just clams me a bit that theres people that a-knowledge my issue and are giving tips to fix it wether its mentally or going through the surgery
Well with something like this in my opinion it's best not to expect most people in the regular social circles to understand. Unfortunately some people do take advantage of other peoples vulnerabilities and insecurities, even if it is "just" looking down on them for it. Just one or few close friends are what's needed. I unfortunately didn't even have that much with my issues. I eventually had a therapist who became more like a mentor and close friend, he was at many points the only one I could talk to and it was enough to help me then. Therapists can vary as much as your friends. Some get it, some don't. In the end it all comes down to ourselves.
But while I don't advice talking about this to just everyone out there, it's also not necessary to be afraid of losing people's respect. Sometimes it's even good to lose your "respectability" in the eyes of other people just to realise that it never mattered, so that we don't have to be afraid of losing anything. In the end someone who isn't affected by whether people respect you or not, commands more respect. It comes from self-respect. Someone who deeply cares if people respect them or not, in the sense that if people don't respect them they will feel less about themselves... Then your self-esteem and self-respect are attached to other people's view about you instead of being rooted within.
Anyway, I think it's good you have a goal to work on yourself and then possibly follow up with the surgery. Keep us posted
LL at 5.9ft is the dumbest thing ever. Cant say it enough. 5.9ft is not short by any measure.
Quote from: Siegfried on April 22, 2024, 03:51:49 PMLL at 5.9ft is the dumbest thing ever. Cant say it enough. 5.9ft is not short by any measure.
I just read your diary and it motivated me even more , im going with the same surgeon as well. I mean listen. I have been surrounded my whole life with tall people , everyone in my family is 6’2. i have planned alot for the future and to increase my height is one of them. Im glad your journey was successful
Quote from: onedaytall on April 22, 2024, 11:34:48 AMDude you remind me of some videos I've seen about suicide forums on internet. People ridicule anyone there who suggest maybe therapy would be a good idea. Anyone who suggests such a thing just "doesn't get it". Only thing that is mental masturbation here is the hopeless wallowing in misery because you're fking average height. Unbelievable.
"OP's problems are real, and you can't wish yourself taller." If someone's worst experience is waking up every morning and saying "hi" to little brother who is taller than him, it is 100% a problem in his head. This should be obvious because it is completely out of any reasonable proportion. People like you are not helping either.
"whatever life you have now you'd also have if you were taller, except it'd be better" If you re-read my "cringy" post you'd see I said the same. I wish I was taller. But I'm not going to pretend that it's a bigger deal than it is. Some people are tall, some aren't. Some people are more rich, better looking, better hair, more charming, happier etc. Own the life you live. It's not mental masturbation when it's the only damn life you're going to live. Idiots who are DETERMINED to choose their miserable outlook on life while ridiculing others who don't, they deserve the perpetual unhappiness they're in. Own your life, do your work, stop bitching.
Yes height matters, but OP is freakin average height. It's definitely not the big deal he is making out of it, except in his head. Facts. He probably will get leg lengthening down the line, but I hope he works on his mental issues first.
The reason you therapy soyboys get ridiculed is because you're ridiculous. Most of you act like it's so great it can cure cancer. No, you don't have to 'own your life' when there's a way to change it.
Brb going to tell someone who is homeless than they just need to own their life and develop a more positive outlook, and some people have homes and some people don't and there's no point wallowing in misery over it, and definitely don't try and get a house of their own before they've worked on their mental issues surrounding housing first.
Quote from: onedaytall on April 22, 2024, 11:46:50 AMYour long term girlfriend cheating on you with a tall guy, that's gonna get into your head, I get that. It does remind me of a street interview video, one of those asking strangers "Does height matter?". And a 5'7 guy there was saying it doesn't matter to him at all. He had a girlfiend of a NBA player cheat on the dude with him. So the reverse can happen too. Imagine how the NBA player might have felt when his girlfriend chose a below average height person to cheat with lol.
Why is it none of you soys understand the concept of statistics and probability? One example of one thing proves the square root of fk all. Just like when you bald tossers say 'Dwayne Johnson looks fine bald, so being bald isn't that bad!'.
Quote from: jbfjbj4 on April 23, 2024, 03:48:41 PMThe reason you therapy soyboys get ridiculed is because you're ridiculous. Most of you act like it's so great it can cure cancer. No, you don't have to 'own your life' when there's a way to change it.
Brb going to tell someone who is homeless than they just need to own their life and develop a more positive outlook, and some people have homes and some people don't and there's no point wallowing in misery over it, and definitely don't try and get a house of their own before they've worked on their mental issues surrounding housing first.
Why is it none of you soys understand the concept of statistics and probability? One example of one thing proves the square root of fk all. Just like when you bald tossers say 'Dwayne Johnson looks fine bald, so being bald isn't that bad!'.
I agree with you to some point, some things r worse with comparison, i mean yeah my mental health is dog but my height is a problem as well , if i was taller i wouldnt be thinking about none of this nonsense. i started to lose hair as well which no therapy or talking could cure my fear of going bald i would literally jump off a cliff. its either a win all or lose everything situation for me
Quote from: jbfjbj4 on April 23, 2024, 03:48:41 PMThe reason you therapy soyboys get ridiculed is because you're ridiculous. Most of you act like it's so great it can cure cancer. No, you don't have to 'own your life' when there's a way to change it.
Brb going to tell someone who is homeless than they just need to own their life and develop a more positive outlook, and some people have homes and some people don't and there's no point wallowing in misery over it, and definitely don't try and get a house of their own before they've worked on their mental issues surrounding housing first.
Why is it none of you soys understand the concept of statistics and probability? One example of one thing proves the square root of fk all. Just like when you bald tossers say 'Dwayne Johnson looks fine bald, so being bald isn't that bad!'.
Sounds horrible to be such a willing victim of circumstances, which is the vibe I get from you. And yet you talk about "doing something about it". You completely misunderstood what I'm saying, probably on purpose. You skipped the part where I encourage the surgery for those who want it. I encourage to do everything about everything in your life. Therapy is also that. Full ownership instead of this bitching and blameshifting like you. If you claim full ownership and responsibility of anything, will you not do everything you can about it? So taking full ownership of ones life, mental state, emotional state, everything, that is how I approach my life and I always encourage it to other because it works. It works if you do the work instead of rolling the ball to whatever circumstance or thing you want to blame your misery and failure on.
You simply have some reason to be bitter with those who are not as devastated by life as you are. You just cannot fathom someone not being a victim like you. They must be soyboys and therapy losers. Lol, good luck.
Quote from: Assyiah on April 23, 2024, 04:07:11 PM
I agree with you to some point, some things r worse with comparison, i mean yeah my mental health is dog but my height is a problem as well , if i was taller i wouldnt be thinking about none of this nonsense. i started to lose hair as well which no therapy or talking could cure my fear of going bald i would literally jump off a cliff. its either a win all or lose everything situation for me
Since you mentioned hairloss, I have good news for you. There are so many things you can do to keep your hair, and then there is hair transplants too. Combination of medical therapy and surgery can secure a full head of hair for a very long time. I started losing my hair around 22 years for no other reason than genetics, but I have had a full head of hair for 12 years after that and no signs of recession. There are good channels on youtube about this stuff, message me if you want links.
Why are the incel accounts not just banned? Because the whole 'Don't engage with them' thing clearly isn't working out.
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