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One day a girl told me ..

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champion90
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Posted on Nov 28, 2018, 12:48 am
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one day a girl with whom I was dating told me laughing: "I'm afraid to put on my heels for fear of being taller than you" .. (I'm 169cm)
now, even if it was a joking comment, it is known that there is always a bit of truth, of real thought. I laughed over it pressing, always laughing, but should be felt free to put them does not bother me .. But the reality is very different ..

1. She will never feel free to do so despite my answer, because she will think that maybe it bothers me to be shorter than a woman in public or simply does not like her to be taller than her man in public.

2. I lied to myself, it would actually be discouraging to me, it is not true that it would not be a problem.

CONCLUSION: this is a simple example, but how each of us in this forum has several of them for leading us to think about this surgery;
the truth is that you feel inadequate or more tragically you do not feel free to be yourself fully, I want to change my life to 29 years with this intervention to START to live without being afraid of being in default, I want to conquer the my life and my serenity.

So ... Come on guys! a hug.
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YourSpaceBoyfriend
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Posted on Nov 28, 2018, 12:59 am
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If the relationship is healthy, you should just say how you feel.

If your partner won't understand it, then you should be glad u knew it sooner than later
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champion90
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Posted on Nov 28, 2018, 10:55 am
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The point is not to be clear, that can also be.
The point is the fact. It annoys you when you do not indirectly allow your partner to feel free for fear of hurting you in pride by wearing heels and getting taller than you.
What I try to say is the reality of thought .. the girl in question loved me madly and yet the thought has even if ironically .. let alone if he had not loved me ..
I no longer want to feel inadequate in this field as in all the others because of my height
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Posted on Nov 28, 2018, 4:51 pm
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Quote from: champion90 on November 28, 2018, 10:55:53 AMThe point is not to be clear, that can also be.
The point is the fact. It annoys you when you do not indirectly allow your partner to feel free for fear of hurting you in pride by wearing heels and getting taller than you.
What I try to say is the reality of thought .. the girl in question loved me madly and yet the thought has even if ironically .. let alone if he had not loved me ..
I no longer want to feel inadequate in this field as in all the others because of my height

Then as i said before, tell her how you feel. Ask her how she feels about it.

Seriously i know this forum makes all women feel like these mystical creatures that will only jump on ur pole if ur +8" length 7" girth and 6'3 with chiseld jaw but in reality most of them have their insecurities and problems just like most of us sitting on this board.

If you are aiming for long lasting relationship you seriously shouldn't hide how you feel but talk this through. It will help both sides.
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Ascending
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Posted on Nov 28, 2018, 9:53 pm
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I was in a relationship with a few girls that were taller than me.  I expressly forbid them from wearing high heels and they had to wear flats.  I told them that we would look funny as couple and that I would feel too self conscious.  Best to be honest upfront.
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Posted on Dec 1, 2018, 9:54 pm
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Quote from: Ascending on November 28, 2018, 09:53:32 PMI was in a relationship with a few girls that were taller than me.  I expressly forbid them from wearing high heels and they had to wear flats.  I told them that we would look funny as couple and that I would feel too self conscious.  Best to be honest upfront.

Totally agree. If a couple can discuss such things freely and come into agreement beforehand, that is a sign of good relationship.
Quote from: champion90 on November 28, 2018, 12:48:56 AMI lied to myself, it would actually be discouraging to me, it is not true that it would not be a problem.
If you still are with that lady, be sure that you should be able to express it to her and be accepted normally.
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Ascending
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Posted on Dec 1, 2018, 10:16 pm
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Quote from: heightconsultant on December 01, 2018, 09:54:21 PMTotally agree. If a couple can discuss such things freely and come into agreement beforehand, that is a sign of good relationship.
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There was one girl that was sulking when I told her she couldn't wear high heels and so I made a compromise.  She could wear high heels on the condition that we don't walk holding hands in public.  We tried that once and after that one occasion she never asked to wear high heels again.  Apparently it was more important to walk holding hands than to wear high heels :-)
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myloginacc
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Posted on Dec 2, 2018, 2:26 pm
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You can just use lifts or elevator shoes when she's out using high heels. No reason it shouldn't be a game for two. Both of you could agree on that.
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Ascending
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Posted on Dec 2, 2018, 2:48 pm
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Quote from: myloginacc on December 02, 2018, 02:26:54 PMYou can just use lifts or elevator shoes when she's out using high heels. No reason it shouldn't be a game for two. Both of you could agree on that.
If there is one compelling reason for doing LL - it's so there is no need to wear heels or lifts.  There is something unmanly about it that erodes your confidence.
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myloginacc
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Posted on Dec 2, 2018, 3:23 pm
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Quote from: Ascending on December 02, 2018, 02:48:10 PMIf there is one compelling reason for doing LL - it's so there is no need to wear heels or lifts.  There is something unmanly about it that erodes your confidence.

It's 300$ shoes, and a solution right now, vs one to two years (LL plus recovery) just for the same effect.

We have to work with what we have available at the moment.
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