For those of you who think you have to be of average / tall height to have success with women and to do well in life, I urge you to look into Tyler Durden (Owen Cook) from the website / youtube channel RSD, short for "Real Social Dynamics." This guy has had a profound impact on my height neurosis in terms of dating and also on my perspectives of life and myself.
I have height insecurities like everyone here, but sometimes you need to have a sense of perspective in life and realize the destructive nature of viewing and obsessing over a flaw in isolation rather than also focusing energy on obtaining superpowers which are more easily obtainable. RSD Tyler for those of you who do not know, is probably the greatest pick up artist in the world. He is 5' 8", has aspergers, always had trouble reading social cues, is balding, and is not the best looking guy, but has mastered the art of coming across as playful and sxxual. He posts videos online which include motivational speeches and well as infield footage of him basically walking up to girls, hugging them, and seducing them in seconds with little words spoken.
I am bringing this up because, say you gain 2 inches in height and think since now you are in the normal range this will help you with women. It will give you a 5% boost if nothing else about you changes. Emulating certain things about Tyler and the other RSD guys will differentiate you from the pack, and the % boost is not even measurable. Instead of seeing a bunch of 6 footers and feeling inferior, you will know that you have superpowers which none of those guys have, and if a couple of those guys have them, good for them, there are tons of fish in the ocean. You can get 200 5' 11" guys with mediocre game and 5' 8" balding Tyler will outclass almost all of them, because instead of obsessing over his flaws, he spent time reading books and stories on Neuro Lingusitic Programming, motivation and success, life, and pickup. Now, we are probably conditioned to only focus on his height when I said "flaws", so read the list again please. Plus he seems sort of feminine and has a weird voice.
Let's all shoot to be taller, but in order to be happy let's minimize the importance of height and maximize the little ember in our core to a burning furnace of knowledge and power.
RSD Tyler - will change your perspective in terms of height and dating
My friend, you have illustrated my point about flaw isolation. If Tyler was 5' 6" he would still be nearly as successful.
Quote from: google42 on April 05, 2017, 03:32:03 PMThere are people shorter than that, like what do you expect below 5'3" guys to do? Height has a role in people's confidence.
You make the best of the situation. If the 5'3" guy studied RSD, he would be successful too and his confidence in his inner game would help offset the insecurity over the height. Plus, he could always get to 5'6". The grass is always greener on the other side, a 5' 11" guy may have social anxiety and envy the confidence of the shorter guy.
Quote from: onemorefoot on April 05, 2017, 03:34:59 PMThat Was muy question, what do you think a 160 cm should do?
The 160CM guy should point his beam of mental energy towards the RSD stuff and if he wants, of course he can always add a 2-3 inches as well. I know we are in the conceptual right now, but start watching Tyler and he will turn into a virtual mentor.
Quote from: Body Builder on April 05, 2017, 03:52:42 PMTotally crap.
People under 5.7 are doomed in dating and people less than 5.10 have to try harder and be much better in every other aspect (face, built body etc) compared to an average tall dude to have success with women.
I don't care about this guy (who is not short btw but almost average) and his tricks and I don't expect from internet to see what is going on.
I always see that tall guys have everything that has to do with dating much easier than average men and short men are in a very very difficult situation, even with short girls.
Thats the harsh truth and it won't change with what Tyler Durden or other crooks like him say in their videos.
Expand your mind man. Dating and attraction is not limited to physical appearance. It is a privilege to be able to learn the game so don't miss this opportunity. I am still a trainee and will report back in a few months.
Quote from: Body Builder on April 05, 2017, 04:42:18 PMIf your psysical appearance doesn't attract the woman you want then everything else won't help.
If your appearance is acceptable for her then yes, character matters.
But if you are ugly or short etc then character can't help you at least in 99% of cases.
Women are as superficial as men (maybe a little more) in terms of dating.
I wouldn't date an obese or ugly woman even if she were the most intelligent or kind person in the world because attraction has to do mostly with looks.
Thats why these "tricks" are not for serious people, because they are almost insignificant if your looks are bad.
An hour and a half footage of a 5' 7" guy pulling only 7.5's to 10's
Quote from: Iamready on April 05, 2017, 11:11:54 PMI've actually hung out with him and Todd, Julien etc. they are the real deal. Sure they get rejected a lot as well but they have made the most out of their situation. This is several, 10+ Years of experience as well.
That's really cool man. Have you done an infield boot camp? I'm thinking of doing it but not sure if it's worth the $2,500.
Quote from: helloworld on April 06, 2017, 12:14:18 PMI would say you can divide the change into two categories:
1. perception of others
2. self perception
I would think 2 is at least as important, as with more confidence you are more attractive and more persuasive.
Well said. I feel sorry for all the pepole who can't let point 1. go. We are doomed if we obsess over what others feel about us. "Love yourself and others will love you."
Ironically, the RSD guys get more validation than tall good looking dudes, but they had to go through a philosophical transformation to get there.
"Maybe I won't get as many girls giving me the amine eyes when I/they walk by, butttt, once I show them my true self I will get more anime eyes than anyone's ever received."
It's liberating to walk around thinking, "I don't give a pug what anyone thinks about me. I'm the man!"
Quote from: KiloKAHN on April 11, 2017, 01:42:47 AMConsidering the amount of out of shape women past their prime these days, the women who intentionally get themselves pregnant to lock a man up, and the amount of men I've seen had their lives completely ruined by some vindictive bitch after they've been in a relationship, female attention is vastly overrated in my opinion. Once you've laid the pipe a few times the value of female attention decreases considerably, I think.
The issue with many guys is that they make the woman the center. Financial success, dressing well, making plans.... are all done to please the woman. This philosophy has to me completely changed where YOU are the center. Woman are part of your circle
Quote from: KiloKAHN on April 11, 2017, 01:42:47 AMConsidering the amount of out of shape women past their prime these days, the women who intentionally get themselves pregnant to lock a man up, and the amount of men I've seen had their lives completely ruined by some vindictive bitch after they've been in a relationship, female attention is vastly overrated in my opinion. Once you've laid the pipe a few times the value of female attention decreases considerably, I think.
The issue with many guys is that they make the woman the center. Financial success, dressing well, making plans.... are all done to please the woman. This philosophy has to me completely changed where YOU are the center. Woman are part of your circle
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