Quote from: BestOfLuck on August 18, 2023, 07:31:40 PMMy family knows already. I dont care about family knowing, i care more about how some friends and acquaintances would view me afterwards. Like ive said before there is no lying or gaslighting that would work in my scenario. Id rather just be truthful. I dont intend on telling anyone ive never met though, this only applies to the decent chunk of people ive seen recently, and actively go out with.
In this case, since some people already know, I would tell your friends so that you can get ahead of the situation and control the narrative. I could give a long writeup on the psychology of it all, but to put simply, it's best you get ahead of it and tell people upfront. Tell them what you want them to know, rather than them hearing it from your family where they will almost certainly get a distorted/inaccurate view of the situation and will make you look worse. Be confident about it, be unapologetic about it, be open about it, and make sure to squash any false claims early on before they spread.
Quote from: TheDream on August 18, 2023, 08:04:26 PMThis is one way to go about it. And perhaps a smart one too. But it must also be very lonely and scary. As in, when is it the right moment to tell her? How early on? What if she suddenly compliments your height without knowing about LL. Will she then find it too weird if she finds out? And would that kill the relationship? Maybe I’m just overthinking and being stupid about it. But I think carrying that will be hard and make it difficult to make oneself vulnerable and let a girl in close.
In my personal opinion, I will wait until I am ready to propose to her. I'd want to make sure that I am absolutely 100% certain about her. I'd tell her, explain the whole process and everything, then give her the time to process it all. If she decides to leave me because of it, good! It means I dodged a bullet! It's a test of her character, if anything. If she stays with me, then it means she doesn't care and it doesn't effect her love for me.
I would not tell someone that on the first date...or even the 20th lol. Only prior to the proposal.
I mentioned this in another thread, but some of the reasons I want to tell my (future) wife about it is because...
1) I want to know her full medical history.
I believe that it's only fair that I tell her my entire medical history, if I want to know hers. It's equal and fair.
2) I will have to convince her to put our boys on HGH and AI's so that they do not grow up short like I did.
It would be difficult to explain if she didn't know my own backstory in getting limb lengthening and the disadvantage that short men have in life, but could be entirely prevented with non-invasive medical treatment early on.
If you'd actually tell a woman about this procedure you're utterly braindead.
1) There is no 'fair is fair'. Here's the reality: society pushes accepting all women's body issues, but not for men. She will totally expect you to accept all HER flaws but will have no interest in accepting yours. Here's where you counter and say she's not the right girl then, but 100% of women are like this, so if you don't accept a girl like this, you'll die alone.
2) Women are incapable of keeping a secret. You tell her, you can guarantee all her friends will know by the end of the day, and if you breakup she'll spread it far and wide to spite you.
3) You have absolutely no advantage to be gained from telling her, yet the downsides are significant. Don't be a cuck, do what's best for yourself. I assure you, women always do.
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