Height neurosis can eat you alive. I'm starting to believe that the only way I will never think about height again is if I'm 6'1"+. I can imagine my mind saying, "I'm 6 foot but 1/4 of guys are at least 6 foot so I won't stand out to girls" or something like that. In reality, I'd still give everything I have to be a magic solid 5' 10", but I know that won't stop the monologue in my head, although it should for a rational thinker.
Sometimes I walk down the streets or go into clubs and all I do is size myself up to other dudes and check the heights of the guy if I see a couple or flirting going on.
You guys in your heads with this stuff all the time too or am I just a looney?
I'm starting to think that control over your mind is more important than anything in the end.
What I do sometimes to get out of my head when this happens is a specific self talk ritual:
"Am I my body or is my body a vehicle for achieving what my mind desires? Can I make this work with my current body? I think so, let's do this!"
When you walk around, how often do you compare your height to other guys height?
Quote from: DreamOf180cm on April 12, 2017, 10:21:28 PMI'm 171.5cm / 5"7.5 and I do this everyday everywhere I go. I compare heights 24/7, 365 days a year. How tall are you btw?
I'm a solId 5'8" weak 5'9"
Quote from: TIBIKE200 on April 12, 2017, 10:49:30 PMwas doing it 100% of the time and feeling awful.
Now, I don't do it anymore and I feel much better. If a year ago walking down the street was a torture, now it's like it was before I got this neurosis.
You have every right to feel short... But you shouldn't suffer for knowing that. Accept it and know that you can either be at peace with it, wear insoles or do LL. But keeping yourself in the state to grasp how short you are compared to the rest will only hinder your advancements in the stages of grief (which is what height neurosis is part of); The hit (you got a negative event that was related to your height that an even be a simple "you are short"), denial (which is basically the height neurosis in which you constantly compare your height in order to see how short you really are and suffer for getting conformation from your consistence comparing which goes against your will to not accept that you are short), realization (you get it that you are short and now feel like crap but calmer than before), acceptance (you might feel down for being short but you are no longer depressed) moving on (now in a calmed state which is "pre-hit" you just move on).
most guys here are young and get blocked in a long denial period which puts them in a limbo
Most guys who do LL responsibly are well beyond the height neurosis
Well said and pretty spot on. My issue is that I've gotten to the acceptance point and done a partial circle back
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