I wouldn't tell anybody.
Yellowspike, how disappointing! I hate indiscrete people who are giving crap all the time. Disgusting. Kick their asses out
Quote from: KirP1 on March 11, 2015, 11:55:48 PMi agree with you, i really dont like to have secrets in serious relationships, but from my experience is better to hide it, is posible that the person freak out if she knows, and if you broke with her she could tell people about your LL .
Bro I agree. Girls are freaking out all the time. They will surely freak out if they discover that you did LL. Conclusion: don't tell anybody. Besides, if the relationship is broken, they will probably tell everybody in your circle of friends. So disgusting!
I would hide LL even from my current girlfriend. She wouln't understand and I don't want to be judged. But I really want LL.
girls cant be trusted. they cant keep their mouths shut. they HAVE TO TELL SOMEONE. and then that person usually a girl will have to tell someone.
when they get angry......... the first thing they will do is blab your secret.
True, bro. Girls suck. They're only good for sex. 
But there are some men like that also. Talkative men also suck. They're like women. And they're not good for sex, at least not for me hahaha
Nope, I don't care at all. If she doesn't like it, the bitch can get lost.
Quote from: tallerbetter on March 11, 2015, 11:57:04 PMI wouldn't tell anybody.
Yellowspike, how disappointing! I hate indiscrete people who are giving crap all the time. Disgusting. Kick their asses out
Well the good news is that it's no one I really care about. Just some girl from my past with a big mouth (supposedly she's calmed down, but do they ever really change?) found out. But I don't talk to her or anyone that she does.
Quote from: KirP1 on March 11, 2015, 10:14:34 PMi really think that the best way is to not admit you have done this surgery, but for people who do 10cm or more the old photos could be a problem, because if some one see them there is a huge diference.
This is interesting. Photos can be a big problem in my situation. I am usually the shortest guy in pictures with friends and family. At least shorter than the guys by about 1 inch.
I happen to be more attractive, more successful, more likeable than most of my cousins and other relatives, but whenever we look at pictures it is always the same remarks; "you are almost as tall as "so and so".........I didn't know you were shorter than "so and so".....your cousin Peter is only 14 and he is already taller than you....... They usually try to put me down about my height because it's the only thing they can say to feel better about themselves.
When I get the surgery, that is going to change and I will be taller than everyone in future photos. I'm sure rumors are going to start about what happened to me. If they ever found out or figured out themselves, I will forever be thought of as the weird cousin that broke his legs on purpose because he is psycho. This is going to be awkward, but I may have to deal with it if it ever gets to this point.
As far as telling my future girlfriend, I would never bring it up or admit to it. I would explain the scars as corrective surgery like ForcedPuberty suggested and end it at that.
We are not under any obligation to reveal everything we have done in the past, just the same as we don't have to reveal everyone we ever had sex with. Being an "open book" and telling your girlfriend every thought that goes through your mind is a recipe for disaster. All you are doing is giving your power away and providing her with ammunition for future arguments.
If you are truly doing LL for yourself and not to satisfy others, then you should be keeping it to yourself (or only those you trust with your own life). There is simply no need to advertise it or promote it to anyone (except in anonymous forum) 
I agree that not everything should be shared between partners. There are a lot of things aside from LL that I wouldn't share with my future (or current) gf. I'm a fairly private person, and there are only two people I've told that I'm getting the surgery to, and only one other I would even consider telling.
Quote from: BelowTheMean on March 12, 2015, 07:13:45 PMI agree that not everything should be shared between partners. There are a lot of things aside from LL that I wouldn't share with my future (or current) gf. I'm a fairly private person, and there are only two people I've told that I'm getting the surgery to, and only one other I would even consider telling.
yeah I agree with this. Especially with women, because they can go from loving you and being your best friend one moment, to telling all their friends about why they hate you the next. This post has definitely helped me decide I'm never telling a future serious gf this. I've only had a few very serious relationships over the years, and I did keep some things from them, so this will just be one of them.
I'm in the same camp as most of you guys. I would NEVER tell a girlfriend or wife. If you've recovered and are living like a normal person, the scars have faded away, etc, there is no conceivable benefit to telling them about your LL. The surgery would be no longer relevant. You are just a recovered patient moving on with life at his new height. Best case scenario, your GF wouldnt mind if you told her. But they probably wouldn't be able to understand the forces that led you to get LL, and very well could assume that you are an extremely insecure and weak guy to get LL. If your new height was part of what attracted them to you, alot of that flame will die out and they'll feel cheated. And like you guys said, what is said, cannot be taken back. Once she knows, you have zero control over what she does with that knowledge and who she tells.
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