DoingItForMe's Precice 2 Internal Femurs with Dr. Paley

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I doubt you look deformed.   It will take a while to  get your gait  back to normal.  3 years is a very long time to have union. I think if you wanna get back to normal  faster,  there are braces  that will greatly help. I think I'm around  70% now, and there's this advanced brace that will likely make me  90 to 95% again, maybe even run. The brace  is very form fitting as well, so will not be noticeable under your jeans/pants. It's ridiculous that we have to  get devices to make our  walking as before, but we have to do what we  have to do.

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Quote from: crimsontide on February 04, 2017, 03:26:36 PMI doubt you look deformed.   It will take a while to  get your gait  back to normal.  3 years is a very long time to have union. I think if you wanna get back to normal  faster,  there are braces  that will greatly help. I think I'm around  70% now, and there's this advanced brace that will likely make me  90 to 95% again, maybe even run. The brace  is very form fitting as well, so will not be noticeable under your jeans/pants. It's ridiculous that we have to  get devices to make our  walking as before, but we have to do what we  have to do.

No, I do looked deformed. When I looked at the video of myself, it looks very odd that my knees are bending well below where it should be bending on a normally proportioned leg. And my gait doesn't look like it has improved at all in the past year.

I don't need the brace, because I don't care if my gait looks weird. It's a part of who I am now, and I'm tired of conforming to what society has led me to believe is "ideal" or "normal". I don't care anymore if I'm not what people expect or hoped for. This year is the year that I finally accepted myself for who I am, and now I don't want to change a thing. If I get my normal gait back or not is irrelevant to me right now. I've let go of trying to be "perfect". I wanted to start living my life as if I were already perfect and happy. And that's exactly what I started doing. And that's why you haven't heard from me in a while. I'm no longer thinking things like, "I'll be happy when this or that happens to me or when I become this or that." No. No more "I'll be happy when..." I'm just happy. End of story.

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So in the end you regret for doing it? You think you could have reach your happines without the surgery?

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Are you sure you're/she's not amplifying the disproportion? As someone who did 3" on femurs at a lower starting height than you, it's honestly not that bad. Only time I notice the long femurs is when I'm sitting and leaning back instead of sitting up straight. I haven't begun to walk unaided yet but I'm sure wearing shoes will improve the femur:tibia ratio too.

Anyway, I'm glad you're at peace, man. Enjoy your life.

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Quote from: TIBIKE200 on February 04, 2017, 04:24:30 PMSo in the end you regret for doing it? You think you could have reach your happines without the surgery?

No, I don't regret it, because I don't know if I could have come to this realization if I didn't do the surgery. I might forever be stuck in that "what if I were taller?" mindset and be forever curious. But now that I filled that curiosity and did it, I can say conclusively that the surgery wasn't necessary.

It's not that I think I could reach my happiness without the surgery. I know I could. I actually had that happiness prior to the surgery, and I even spoke about it in my diary before. I knew about this surgery like 5 years ago or so. After many months of considering it, I concluded that the surgery was stupid, and ignored it for a few years. I put all that height stuff behind me. And for a good 2-3 years, I didn't think about my height, and I was happy with what I had - cute and loving gf, good job, nice house, and etc. But it was because I was such a damn perfectionist that I wanted more. And that's when I came back to these forums and other "short height" forums and read about how being short is bad and how heightism is rampant. And that's when I convinced myself that maybe I'm flawed too and I should fix it. But I wish I could go back in time and hug my younger self and tell him that he's good just the way he is even if he doesn't fit the mold of the "ideal" male body. And that's why I'm actually back here talking to you guys. It's that I wish I could give you guys a hug and tell you to not do the surgery.

The thing is that my gf at the time actually did do that. And I ignored her. I let other short guys get to me and destroy my self-esteem by hearing their stories of rejections and disadvantages and lack of respect. Don't listen to that crap. Listen to the under-5'6" doingitforme who was happy and had it all prior to the surgery. You can be like him. Yes, heightism is real, and it's something that won't go away. But that doesn't mean that you have to be angered by it. You are letting the heightists win if you let them get under your skin. And they especially win if you end up paying $100,000 and 6 months of your life to "fix" your height. For what? Just to please some dckheads who were rude and made fun of your height? Just so that heightist/superficial girl would date you? Screw that.

Of course, you probably won't listen, though. After all, this is a LL forum. But, another LL veteran (oldiebutgoldie) convinced me 4 years ago to forget the surgery, and I did. I just wish 2 years ago I had the conviction to stay convinced and not let those heightists get under my skin again. The only problem then was that I became the heightist. I had convinced myself that being short is bad and that 5'10" is the ideal "most attractive" height. I screwed up. I became my own bully. Don't become like me. Get away from this forum and run far far away. Stop reading articles about heightism. Stop listening to sob stories from other short men. Instead, listen to the short men who are happy with their lives. Don't feed that demon that is telling you that people don't like you because you're short. Don't become your own bully. Be happy with your life. You can do it without this surgery. Good luck.

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I greatly appreciate the honesty man. Really do. On top of that I do find myself happiest when I'm far away from the forums at that. ("Heightism" just doesn't really affect me).

So I have to ask 2 questions now after all of this.

One is kinda for old times sake (if you know me well that is). But, in light of who it came from, if you feel it's in bad taste feel free to ignore: that comment about disproportionation, was that just about femur to tibia, or also applies to leg to torso? Would it have been noticeable if it the increase was perfectly balanced on both segments?

Lastly, what now man? What's your plan and when should we expect another update? From what I can tell you definitely want to start moving on.

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Thank you very much for your honest feedback. I can imagine how hard it was to write some of that, but it is seriously appreciated.

I have faith that you will improve your gait as time goes on. I'm sure it isn't nearly as bad as you think, we all tend to overemphasize our own insecurities.

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Don't sweat the girl man. I feel like you've let her get in your head, and you're clinging to the best memories of her. If one of the major reasons she broke up with you was LL, she was going to break up with you anyway. She should've supported you the whole way, because it's what you needed to be "happy."

Honestly, she sounds pretty selfish and like an absolute ***** for her to tell you you now look disproportionate. This is going to sound kind of, rude, but honestly I feel like she probably thought she had you locked down as a 5'5 rich dude's best option.

It sounds to me like you were happier before surgery though, because you felt like you had "everything" or whatever. Alright bro, but what happens when that girl eventually breaks up with you (or divorces you) and you're still 5'5 and it takes months for you to get a rebound girl. It's impossible to get a one night stand at 5'5, and it could take months to secure a girlfriend. Having to play the happy dance, prove yourself, etc.. Meanwhile a 5'9-5'10 dude can go on Tinder and make a profile like a regular fking person and get a few matches. (But it may be different for you cause you're rich).

You'll find your happiness again. You'll get a new girl. One that's significantly taller than her, so your kids won't eventually have to go through this BS too (that's if you plan on having kids lol).

If you really want your bones to heal, this may be a stupid suggestion (as I'm sure you're doing this), but start taking Vitamin K2, lots of Calcium, HGH, etc...

I know a girl who was temporarily paralyzed playing soccer when she was 12 and she walked really funny for like all of middle school, but then sophomore year of high school I couldn't even recognize her because she was walking normally. I know you can improve your gait.

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Also, what happens if you lose the money, and the house? What if the money stops coming in (or a lot less of it starts coming in). This is what happened to my dad. He was 5'5. He was a nice bald man, but my mom just said she never found him attractive in *that* way and only married him cause he was young. As soon as the 2008 financial crisis hit, and the money started slowing down, she left him, and she's had no problem dating plenty of much younger, taller attractive dudes. But my dad? He's been single and lonely this whole time. He's never really recovered financially, or emotionally, and whenever he gets drunk he still talks about her.

I think you've seriously forgotten what a disadvantage you have at life at 5'5. The odd stares when you walk into a nice restaurant, the weird treatment at the airport, the fact that with any given girl you want to approach or get with, you have like a 10% chance of her not dismissing you entirely cause of your height. And even then, not having to make up for your lack of height with being rich, or really anything else. Now girls can just just like you for you.

Don't forget all that man. You're free from all that now. You can live a "normal" life.

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Quote from: CaptainAmerica on February 04, 2017, 07:20:09 PMDon't sweat the girl man. I feel like you've let her get in your head, and you're clinging to the best memories of her. If one of the major reasons she broke up with you was LL, she was going to break up with you anyway. She should've supported you the whole way, because it's what you needed to be "happy."

Honestly, she sounds pretty selfish and like an absolute ***** for her to tell you you now look disproportionate. This is going to sound kind of, rude, but honestly I feel like she probably thought she had you locked down as a 5'5 rich dude's best option.

It sounds to me like you were happier before surgery though, because you felt like you had "everything" or whatever. Alright bro, but what happens when that girl eventually breaks up with you (or divorces you) and you're still 5'5 and it takes months for you to get a rebound girl. It's impossible to get a one night stand at 5'5, and it could take months to secure a girlfriend. Having to play the happy dance, prove yourself, etc.. Meanwhile a 5'9-5'10 dude can go on Tinder and make a profile like a regular fking person and get a few matches. (But it may be different for you cause you're rich).

You'll find your happiness again. You'll get a new girl. One that's significantly taller than her, so your kids won't eventually have to go through this BS too (that's if you plan on having kids lol).

You really really really really missed the point didn't you...